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Having dead parents is not a personality trait….

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 03/06/2026 20:51

So why do reality tv producers seem to think it is?

this is nothing new, the likes of X Factor were using it as a good old sob story years ago, but I’m currently trying to watch Below Deck Australia, and every second staff member has shared their story of loss at least once an episode.

Married at first sight is just as bad.

it’s bloody boring, and literally nothing to do with the ‘storyline’

AIBU, or has anyone else noticed a real influx in the constant mentions of loss for entertainment purposes?

Edit to add - Both my parents had died by the time I turned 32.

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 03/06/2026 21:34

AllTheTreesOfTheField · 03/06/2026 21:23

How cruel, OP! I'm an orphan. Yeah I'm 72 but still........

It’s cruel to think that a death doesn’t need to be mentioned at every turn?

I’d imagine it’s a very draining way to live too, trying to constantly shoe horn it in to any situation or conversation. It’s can’t be particularly healthy.

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NotAnotherScarf · 03/06/2026 21:28

Beeloux · 03/06/2026 20:54

No it’s not a personality trait but it’s a huge trauma at any age. I lost my DM at 13 and it definitely played a major factor into the person I’ve became today.

From your initial post, I presume you haven’t lost a parent?

I lost my mum at 17 and my dad at 24...I thought it was shite...then I recently started working in the funeral business. I speak to people in their 70s who have just lost their mum.

I am gutted that mum never saw my house. That they never knew how high i climbed...but what if at every turn, every decision at every family meal, christening, marriage etc mum had been there and suddenly she aint

AllTheTreesOfTheField · 03/06/2026 21:23

How cruel, OP! I'm an orphan. Yeah I'm 72 but still........

kwikfitt · 03/06/2026 21:22

TheRealMagic · 03/06/2026 20:56

Tell that to Harry Potter.

Can't stand Harry Potter

Always whinging about his scar when the attention isnt on him đŸ™„đŸ™„

Groaaan · 03/06/2026 21:03

Yeah I’ve just started My Kitchen Rules. The bloke is breaking down when asked where his love of food came from.

His mum died when he was 2….i don’t know what that has to do with anything nor why he’s in absolute bits. He was 2

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 03/06/2026 20:59

concertinacornflake · 03/06/2026 20:55

Losing parents young has a big impact. Have a little compassion.

I do.

I just don’t see the need to talk about it constantly.

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 03/06/2026 20:58

TheRealMagic · 03/06/2026 20:56

Tell that to Harry Potter.

đŸ¤£đŸ¤£đŸ¤£ genuinely never been bothered by his story for some reason

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aperolspritzbasicbitch · 03/06/2026 20:58

Beeloux · 03/06/2026 20:54

No it’s not a personality trait but it’s a huge trauma at any age. I lost my DM at 13 and it definitely played a major factor into the person I’ve became today.

From your initial post, I presume you haven’t lost a parent?

Sorry, just edited the post as I meant to include that I’d lost both my parents by the time I turned 32, I was 12 when the first died.

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TheRealMagic · 03/06/2026 20:56

Tell that to Harry Potter.

Heartbroken38 · 03/06/2026 20:55

I sort of agree. I do find a lot of reality TV so stories to not be very sad at all. Maybe I'm a hard nosed cow but a sob story like my grandad died age 90 isn't really a sob story to me. It's just life. We will all experience such losses in our life.

concertinacornflake · 03/06/2026 20:55

Losing parents young has a big impact. Have a little compassion.

Beeloux · 03/06/2026 20:54

No it’s not a personality trait but it’s a huge trauma at any age. I lost my DM at 13 and it definitely played a major factor into the person I’ve became today.

From your initial post, I presume you haven’t lost a parent?

kwikfitt · 03/06/2026 20:53

Yanbu so sick of seeing people on competition shows having to practically plead for the money by mining all of the details of their sad lives đŸ™„

Whatever happened to wanting to get your boobs done?

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