AIBU to feel angry about my husband's £1000 a month car?

No there’s plenty of people who are on 35k and pay £400 a month
he gets a car allowance and if he’s done salary sacrifice take those off and he’ll be paying the equivalent of about £300

I’m probably just an old fart but I think car buying and the expectation to have a top of the range car has worked its way much more into average households. I remember growing up and there was only a handful of people in my town ( quite posh Lake District town) with posh cars. They were the doctor, the dentist, etc etc. Now everyone wants an Audi, a BMW, a Range Rover. The world has gone mad! It’s really daft if it means your quality of life on a day to day basis is diminished.

out of interest what is a salary to match a high pressure responsible job? This is an honest curious question, not being sarky at all, I’m genuinely interested in what salary level is expected for a high pressure job and that would make a £1000 a month car affordable?

I think as much as you can try and analyse your reaction to this new car, what’s coming across loud and clear is that you really, really dislike your husband.

I loved my estate years and always had high performance cars. I am abit of a petrol head though. My favourite was a Volvo V70R and then a Mercedes E63. Both very practical but also fun to drive.

A Mercedes estate is such an underwhelming car looks wise. A friend has one for running the family around. I was glad to see the back of my estate car years.

I've just bought a car that costs £1000 a month. I put down £10,000 and will pay it off by Christmas- the last 8k. It is only a little SEAT Ibiza but is a fun car. Who cares about cars, they are just transport.

The money is a car allowance through his employer. If he got a cheaper car he wouldn't just get the difference as a pile of cash. It doesn't work like that.

Is it £1k cash a month? Or is it car allowance and a (potentially much smaller) cash contribution? And is insurance included?

The detail matters.

Yup I would be saying that ALL the time. UGH.

Zero basis for this ridiculous assertion.

The bathroom made me actually gnash op (very tired and that time of the month😅). Honestly men are from mars, I do not get the need for a car that much, especially since a bathroom definitely could be done with that money

Rubbish. It sounds like her partner is a dick if he is whinging about the cost of strawberries and then going and making a unilateral decision that could potentially impact family life with zero consideration for anyone else.

Absolutely nothing to do with jealousy!

Even if I was a millionaire there is no way I'd spend this much a month on a car, it's ludicrous.

Why?

You do if you've agreed to separate finances, and you're both contributing whatever was agreed to the pot.

And "sensible" is subjective. And dull. He gets a car allowance, he won't be paying £1000 cash. Not that it matters. He earns it, contributes the agreed amount - what he chooses to do with the rest is his choice.

the money could be spent on something much more sensible or that they would both enjoy.

Like what?

What would be a more “sensible” way to spend £12,000 a year in your mind?

I have quite high standards for my cars and I see no issue in paying for them. Most people would be shocked at the cost of mine but I can afford it and can afford everything else I want. I also donate significant amounts each year too. I don’t understand why people re so bothered.

I'd have my doubts about his ability to drive said car adequately. Or to keep to speed limits and not get points on his licence at some point. As I assume it is a large car.

I think it’s irrelevant whether or not he can afford it. There are perfectly nice cars available for less than a third of this price. For that extra £8400 a year (!!) the money could be spent on something much more sensible or that they would both enjoy. They’re married - you don’t get to just make massive purchases without consulting the other person. £1000/month is bigger than my mortgage.

And yours is the classic lazy retort
(your turn 😀)

Mine spends £10k per annum on his hobby which is fine. But when he moans about tightening our belts, money doesn't go as far as it used to. I do grit my teeth sometimes.

@Tunaturner it’s only a problem if you are paying more on ‘family/house’ things such as you suggested (soft furnishing, wall paper etc). Could you not agree that you both additionally set aside a monthly amount for ‘nice to haves for home’ so that what you each keep can’t possible be seen as ‘better spent on us’ or something similar?

And this comment is the classic lazy insult.

Can he afford it? If so, what is the problem?
I also do not see the issue with lease cars. It can be a way to have a new and reliable car.

A car is the classic penis substitute, basically - nuff said!