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AIBU to feel angry about my husband's £1000 a month car?

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Tunaturner · 03/06/2026 19:42

My husband has bought a car that costs £1000 a month. He does earn a lot more and drives a lot so I get he wants to be comfortable. But I think cars are a waste of money.
I don’t know why I feel so angry.

We have our own money and pay half the bills,
but to me the money would be better spent on other things.
if I just met him on a date and he said he has a car that was £1000 month I wouldn’t see him again as it’s distasteful.
am I being irrational? I feel controlling saying he shouldn’t be spending that much.

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Tunaturner · 03/06/2026 19:45

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 03/06/2026 19:43

Can he afford it?

Seems he can, he’s not daft with money he wouldn’t get himself in debt.
but he goes on about the cost of filling a hot tub, or a punnet of strawberries!
either we’re well off or we’re not.

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youalright · 03/06/2026 19:44

Thats insane if that means it takes all his money that effects you as no more holidays or date nights or anything fun.

MandemChickenShop · 03/06/2026 19:44

Batshit crazy. Is it insecurity? What car is it. Is he buying it or is it just a lease?

Tunaturner · 03/06/2026 19:43

he sees spending money on a New bathroom as a waste. But the whole family can use that.

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BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 03/06/2026 19:43

Can he afford it?