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My (same sex) friend and I kissed

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shallowheart10 · 03/06/2026 17:58

Posting in this forum for traffic.

Feeling a bit confused on what to do next. Both me and my friend are married with kids of the same age. We met at work around 2 years ago but we no longer work together.

I went to her house at the weekend for a drink and takeaway. We ended up kissing. I enjoyed it. I’m married and I do truly love my husband so it’s not like I would leave him or my family. I know I can’t really explore this for all of those reasons.

I feel confused because I am in a happy marriage but feel like I probably do have some sort
of feelings alongside. Never been with a woman before.

needed to vent as I only have chat gpt, can’t say it to anyone else

OP posts:
NerrSnerr · 03/06/2026 23:08

shallowheart10 · 03/06/2026 22:50

We haven’t spoken about it since. A couple of texts back and forth but not mentioning it.

I feel maybe it was a drunken one off and I should forget about it. I don’t plan to cheat on my husband (albeit people may consider that I already have). Maybe I will message and confront it

Of course you cheated. How would you feel if he kissed someone else.

If your marriage is important to you then I think you need to stop the friendship. No texting, no meeting up etc.

Tink3rbell30 · 03/06/2026 23:04

Husband needs to know about the cheating so he can make an informed decision.

Original poster
shallowheart10 · 03/06/2026 22:50

We haven’t spoken about it since. A couple of texts back and forth but not mentioning it.

I feel maybe it was a drunken one off and I should forget about it. I don’t plan to cheat on my husband (albeit people may consider that I already have). Maybe I will message and confront it

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ididabigfatsmelly · 03/06/2026 21:09

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kwikfitt · 03/06/2026 20:44

Is this a reverse?

TyroneBarkleyManofValueNSOUL · 03/06/2026 20:43

FlyingUnicornWings · 03/06/2026 19:04

Did she taste like cherry chapstick?

For ages I thought it was 'the taste of her cherry chopstick'.

Loulou4022 · 03/06/2026 20:34

How would you feel if your DH kissed someone else? Male or female makes no difference.

FlyingUnicornWings · 03/06/2026 19:04

Did she taste like cherry chapstick?

BMW58 · 03/06/2026 18:45

How would YOU feel if your DH kissed a man?

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2026 18:28

op have you spoke to friend since? what happened after you kissed?
as with anyone, you need space between you. don't see her for now, Def not alone and take time to work out what you want. do you want to do it again? regret it?

Tink3rbell30 · 03/06/2026 18:25

You've cheated so husband needs to know so he can decide whether to leave you or not.

andnowwhatdowedo · 03/06/2026 18:12

Cheating is cheating whatever the sex of your lover. Just stop.

Unexpectedlysinglemum · 03/06/2026 18:10

You could always tell your husband you’ve been hating some feelings about kissing women see what he makes of it he might encourage it (probably only if he’s allowed to watch)

to not cheat you need to not be alone with that friend again, to avoid temptation

trendysetter · 03/06/2026 18:10

Would you be ok with your husband kissing his mate? What would you want him to do next if he did? That's probably what you should do.

IPM · 03/06/2026 18:06

Ayhbar · 03/06/2026 18:05

Aw, that is unsettling. maybe give it some time, and have conversations with your friend and with your husband to figure out what it means and what you want to do.

If your husband told you he snogged someone else would you want to help him 'figure out what it means' when he cheats on you?

Ayhbar · 03/06/2026 18:05

Aw, that is unsettling. maybe give it some time, and have conversations with your friend and with your husband to figure out what it means and what you want to do.

Cookingandfoldingthings · 03/06/2026 18:03

Stop the affair with your friend. Now. Simple as that.

IPM · 03/06/2026 18:00

Either leave your husband or stop seeing your friend.

Cheaters are despicable and can devastate partners and kids for life.