AIBU to think dismissal during probation was unfair given autism adjustments?

I suspect my DH has Aspergers and it has taken him 20+ years in his career (IT) to be good in building teams and manage them. He is a great analyst/architect but very poor with people, eye contact, etc. The feedback he has received about his communication style from most of the companies he has worked for has been poor. However, he has great analytical skills, can learn new technical skills very fast and can solve any technical problem, no matter how complicated. Nevertheless, he never lasted longer than 1-2 years with his employers (he always resigned), the reason being he usually had a fallout with someone or was offended with the negative feedback about his communication style (basically lack of communication from him, as he prefers to work alone and feels no need to communicate anything to anyone or just rigidity/lack of flexibility, it's his way or the highway). In spite of those hurdles, he has been immensely successful financially and is settled (for now) working from home for an international employer who operates mainly in this way. My advice to you is - you just have to hold on for 2 years and build some kind of career, shut up, work hard and do whatever is expected of you. And once you've got some longer experience, find an employer who you'd be happy with.

I slightly disagree with you here. The company did put ‘reasonable’ adjustments in. However, the op though that if she suggested (ie demanded) that she should have x, y, z measures put in, then the company had to automatically agree to this, and by not doing, the company were being ‘unreasonable’. I guess only a tribunal can decide who was correct.

Because there’s a pattern. This isn’t the first time she’s been let go.

OP you began this thread with this:

I’m looking for honest views because I’m not sure whether I’m being unreasonable or whether this was genuinely unfair.

You're making it very clear you didn't mean it about the honest views. People with business experience and posters who are autistic have tried to help you, to give you constructive advice, in very good faith. But because it's not what you want to hear it is dismissed - quite rudely.

Why are you posting when obviously you don't want the honest answers?

Is this your thread now?

I think that her whole opening post was clear about it.
The OP has protected characteristics and the employer has not put reasonable adjustments into place.
OP has followed the steps and provided evidence of improvement and I think that I'd be speaking to my union, because there are procedures that should be followed.

It doesn't sound like a great place to work sadly for an autistic , but I think if we want a society where people can work and contribute and support themselves, then workplaces need to do their part. Probationary periods don't cancel out the equality and anti discrimination legislation

Appeal by all means, but don't be surprised if you are not successful- this company has obviously spent time and resources trying to accomodate you- whether they have done enough is a matter of opinion. When unemployment rates are high and job vacancies low accomdation is bound to be less.

I’m not arguing any of that - but I’m wondering why you think the op has a case given that she committed a gross misconduct? And within her probationary period?

I think the job was unsuitable for as you were making a lot of work for other people with your written requests, for someone else to do that repeatedly for you would be untenable and not reasonable.

Op, I think that even if you move on to a different job, I don't think that means you should not make any fuss over this.
A huge percentage of autistic people are not in gainful employment, and often keeping a job is harder than getting a job.
We are so often apparently 'not a good fit'.
Stressed to burn out by workplace cultures that are full of unspoken rules, and being good at the actual work itself is not good enough. It's indirect discrimination.

It is degrading to keep being told to find something else when it's a job you can do fine even if you need a bit of support or adjustments.
We are entitled to this. Most of us want to work.

I’m interested in why you think the op has a good case?

I dunno, I'm stumped to why you didn't just apologise. You were way out of line and you needed to own it and apologise.

This place isn't a good fit for you. Maybe you would do better with a WFH job.

All the OPs threads? No. Why would I?
I've read her posts on this thread.

Also same.

Exactly this. I, too, lack soft skills, but this is just part of my personality. I do a job where they are a smaller part of it and I've worked on them. They will never be my strongest skill, but I have improved them.

Why do you think that? Because they don't agree with you? I think you maybe have to consider why strangers on the internet would (a) be able to help you on this; and (b) having come on to say something that they would come with "bad faith" intentions. Who has the time or the energy?

People are trying to tell you that your approach is not helping you. You can take that advice and use it, or decide that your autism prevents you using it, but the fact you don't like it does not indicate that anyone is acting in bad faith.

You are the troll for starting up these multiple threads and not taking on board our advice.

I'm also ND, but back when I started work, it was just my personality! Honestly, it was better like that. Everyone has their strengths and weaknesses, and when you fully understand that about yourself, you will succeed in life. I am well suited as an accountant.

Amendments have to be REASONABLE. The expectation is that you'll do your job AMAZINGLY with them, and ok without them. In other words, you'll be worth keeping. The amendments are not meant to allow a blind person to be a pilot.

OP, stop trying to win the argument here - you're wasting your valuable time.

How about a lovely day building a Python package? You can add it to your CV!

Or get on Kaggle and look for energy data, do something with it. Write up the results, stick it on a blog and your GitHub.

Not seen any trolling on this thread. You asked a question and people have responded with measured and sensible advice and feedback. It’s not always gone your way, but that’s because people didn’t always agree with you, or wanted to put an alternative point of view.

Stop throwing your toys out of the pram, and take this constructive feedback on board. Appeal or go to a tribunal if you must, thats your prerogative, but take some personal responsibility for your actions, and wise up to the world of work. As someone said up thread, a business’s aim is to make money. Everything else is secondary.

I work in the legal profession. I'm not in a top law firm earning ££££ though, because I simply don't have the "soft" skills to do what's necessary - client schmoozing, business development, etc. I love the technical aspects of my job and I'm really good at them. And over many, many years I've managed to learn how to fit in better, look after staff and run a small department. But it's been hard and I've fucked up many times, simply because I don't always "get" a particular situation.

OP, most of the posters here have many years experience in the workplace, and many are actual employers. It would do you good to listen to what they have to say. Even if it isn't what you want to hear. Don't simply dismiss it as written "in bad faith" because I doubt that very much. You need to hear this.

Young people are finding it harder than ever to find jobs, one of the reasons (not all) is because employers find them difficult to work with, disrespectful, and entitled vs older generations.

This was just your first job, hopefully, in a long run of many jobs you'll experience. The best thing you can do is go on to your next job and build more experience from that.

Going by this post and looking at your previous posts, you often describe situations where you feel you’ve been treated unfairly, but the common factor across these experiences is you, the recording issue alone constitutes as gross misconduct.

People here are responding to the question you asked, even if the answers aren’t what you hoped for, that isn’t bullying or trolling; it’s simply how a public forum works.

Based on what you’ve shared, it’s understandable why your employer chose to let you go, and it doesn’t appear to be connected to your autism.

If this is how you responded to feedback within the job it’s no wonder you struggled. I think the first step is that you need to be open to feedback and properly take the time to understand it, reflect on it and do things differently as a result. Feedback should be focused on both behaviour and work content and you need to be open to receiving both.

what the fuck.