AIBU to think dismissal during probation was unfair given autism adjustments?

Recording someone without their permission, regardless if the workplace, is a breach if UKGDPR.

That was not my experience of consulting.

It is potential gross misconduct to record an internal meeting if personal or customer data is discussed

But OP even if you disagree with posters. (Posters giving honest opinions you asked for) being rude and agressive to them because you dont like them isnt nice and if its a reflection of your attitude at work no wonder you failed your probation

That is where you work.

Bar examples any good manager should be providing that for everybody. So not onerous requests.

She didn’t even apologise. Using AI for transcription is also a gross misconduct where I work, on top of recording people without permission. That is a huge violation.

If you’re lazy enough not to inform yourself I’ll post what I want. It’s hugely relevant and informative to the discussion. You’re going to flounder big time in the coming years if your eyes feel
polluted by chatGBT. 😂

Did op ask for micromanagement or hand holding or for the whole organisation to restructure itself around her?

Were they the adjustments asked for?

Well yes, she pretty.much did.

I had raised the need for clear written instructions, defined objectives, examples of similar work, timelines, and timely/direct feedback.

Taztoy As I said earlier, some people have less experience than others with balancing the competing desires of multiple disabled people.

Magp13 If we want to read ChatGBT generated-text, we can type in text prompts for ourselves, thanks. I don't consent to having my eyeballs polluted with that.

Secretly recording a meeting is generally considered misconduct but is not automatically gross misconduct. Whether it justifies summary dismissal depends on whether an employer's disciplinary policy explicitly lists it as gross misconduct, the context of the recording, and the reasons for making it. None of which you know. The company sounds shit and a lot of what the op needed as reasonable adjustments should have been happening for everybody. It may well be she recorded it to aid her work because her reasonable adjustments weren’t happening. Whose fault is that?

Thankfully there are many, many companies that are far more inclusive, some quite big players too.

Should the op be allowed to commit gross misconduct?

Actually autistic people are not just unemployed but under employed in big numbers and going by some of the awful posts on here it’s easy to see why. Why should autistic people just expect to take work way below their qualifications. Just no.

Autistic adults face some of the highest unemployment and underemployment rates of any demographic, with roughly 7 in 10 autistic adults out of work or in roles far below their qualifications. Despite wanting to work, systemic hiring barriers and workplace inflexibility leave many struggling to secure and maintain meaningful employment.
The Scope of the Problem
The Employment Gap: Official UK figures show that only about 34% of disabled people with autism are in employment, compared to 55% for all disabled people and 82% for non-disabled people.
The "Overqualified" Trap: Autistic university graduates are twice as likely to be unemployed after 15 months as non-disabled peers and are highly susceptible to underemployment (working in roles that do not reflect their true skills or capabilities).
The Pay Gap: Autistic individuals face the largest pay gap among disability groups, earning a third less on average than their non-disabled peers.
Key Barriers
Inaccessible Recruitment: Traditional hiring processes heavily prioritize unwritten social norms, such as eye contact, "small talk," and expressive body language, which can disadvantage autistic candidates.
Workplace Environment: Sensory overload, rigid management styles, and lack of accommodations (like quiet spaces or flexible hours) can lead to job loss or burnout.

It’s frankly not ok and autistic people are lambasted if they go on benefits and lambasted if they work. Things need to changes. The Buckland Review has many recommendations and many companies are not as poor as the one in the OP.

www.gov.uk/government/publications/the-buckland-review-of-autism-employment-report-and-recommendations/the-buckland-review-of-autism-employment-report-and-recommendations#making-recruitment-practices-meet-the-needs-of-autistic-applicants

What about my right to a reasonable adjustment?

what about the fact that what the op did is a gross misconduct?

Does she somehow get let off those because she’s autistic?

it’s dishonest and underhand it record people without their knowledge. And the op is planning to lie on her cv and at interview. About why she was let go from her last 2 jobs.

god forbid I should expect people to abide by work policies.

She didn't apologise.

Absolutely horrible for you @Taztoy, I can’t get with the “awww but poor op… she’s young so should do what she wants poor lamb” rubbish

I didn't read your posts as weird @Taztoy .

It's disappointing to find out a job you want is one you aren't good at. My first grad job was in the buying office of a major retailer. Dream job. I was shit at it. You don't have to be autistic to find yourself in a position that doesn't work out. But what op seems to struggle with is perception of unfairness, which is hard for anyone but a particular focus for ND people. And an unreal expectation of the level of help that reasonable adjustment means. OP, coaching is a great idea.

Bollocks! Are you openly ageist so think that describing the op as “young” is an ok to shitty, gross misconduct level behaviour?

Yes. I was advised not to go home more than once when he was on bail because he was likely to make a better job of the attempt the next time.

I don’t want my image anywhere I can’t control it.

and yes. I’ve done the right to be forgotten with google, contacted former employers to make sure they don’t have any photos of me lurking around and deleted Facebook and insta.

I know to an extent I’ll be on cctv but the idea that some random has video of me that could be uploaded god knows where and used for eternity to train AI so it’ll lurk around forever and I don’t know the security posture of the company that was potentially used for the AI? Yes. I’m terrified. I’m at the highest possible level of risk from this man and his cronies. Verbatim quote from the police.

i took advice from the police - or rather, they came to me - and that was their advice. Part
of it. Don’t be video recorded if you can at all help it.

so I’m doing what they recommend.

i don’t understand why the op took the recording in the first place if it was being recorded anyway?

Even if it was being in a meeting that was recorded by a young colleague who was transcribing it, and it was actually being recorded already and it was only on internal systems?

Perhaps - I do try to be aware but I am autistic. Im also MASSIVELY triggered by the idea of a recording of (potentially) me being out there with me not being able to control it. That terrifies me.

(I have said both these on the thread)

I actually read back your posts after I thought you were even a bit weird in your replies to me just bc I said something supportive to the OP, and tbh I think maybe you just aren't very aware how you come across

Honestly op. It's going to be very difficult to win this appeal. I'm not sure I'd bother trying. They can cite any sort of reason aside from discrimination for not keeping you on even if you did have some
positive feedback as well as negative. It's a decision based on the balance . The fact that they extended your probation will be argued that they wanted to give you every chance to improve before dismissing you. Big 4 culture is notoriously cut throat and you won't be the only one not kept on. Move on and try and find something more suitable.

ChatGPT will help you obsess over this. Stop using it and move on with your life :)