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AIBU to think dismissal during probation was unfair given autism adjustments?

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SereneRoseRobin · 03/06/2026 15:37

I’m looking for honest views because I’m not sure whether I’m being unreasonable or whether this was genuinely unfair.

I was recently dismissed from a graduate/analyst role after my probation was extended. I am autistic, and my employer knew this. I had raised the need for clear written instructions, defined objectives, examples of similar work, timelines, and timely/direct feedback. Some support was put in place, including coaching, but I don’t feel the actual adjustments were properly embedded or reviewed before the decision was made.

The difficult part is that the concerns raised about me seemed mainly to focus on communication style, professional behaviour, asking for clarification, Teams messages, and quality assurance under pressure — rather than on whether I could actually do the analytical work. Some recent written feedback said my analytical skills were good, that my work did not contain relevant errors, that I was taking ownership, and that I sought support appropriately. Another person said I had picked up on a complex project well.

The project I was criticised on was not straightforward. I was a first-year graduate with no prior experience in that sector, and I was assigned open-ended/data-heavy modelling work with a lot of ambiguity and short deadlines. Some outputs were expected within hours or by the next day, so there was not much time for structured review. I also didn’t always get timely feedback while I could still act on it. Some feedback came months after the work had ended.
My probation extension was meant to allow support and coaching to take effect, but I was dismissed before the extension period had fully ended. I had submitted evidence of improvement the day before the decision, but I don’t feel it was properly discussed or considered.
The coaching report apparently said the benefit of coaching should be assessed after a longer period, because performance can dip while new strategies embed.

I’m appealing because I think they didn’t properly separate disability-related communication issues from actual capability, didn’t give recent improvement enough weight, and didn’t consider alternatives such as letting the extension run, providing clearer QA/communication frameworks, assigning more standard analyst work, or redeploying me to a more suitable team.

I’m not saying I was perfect. I know there were areas to improve. But I feel like I was assessed against unclear expectations, on complex work, without the timely feedback and structure that had already been identified as necessary for me.

AIBU to think this was unfair and potentially linked to disability discrimination/failure to make reasonable adjustments? Or is this just how probation works, and I should accept it and move on?

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HelenHywater · 03/06/2026 15:51

How long was your probation period? Was it extended at all?

MrsBennetsPoorNervesAreBack · 03/06/2026 15:49

I haven't seen the earlier threads.

Employers are required to make reasonable adjustments for employees with disabilities. Whether or not the adjustments that your employer made were sufficient is a question that could only really be tested properly in an employment tribunal. We don't have enough information here to say, and we don't have your employer's perspective on the situation.

MesLunettes · 03/06/2026 15:48

BombayMixIsTheBestMix · 03/06/2026 15:45

How many more threads are you going to start on the same topic? You need professional advice not to keep pestering the good people of mn when you had over 70 replies on your earlier thread and are apparently not satisfied still. This is like thread 4 or something.

Oh, duh, I hadn't realised this is the same poster who keeps starting variations of exactly the same thread.

OP, either act on it, or let it go.

Overthebow · 03/06/2026 15:48

Work isn’t a uni or school assessment, the probation periods are looking at how well you fit. Reasonable adjustments are just that, reasonable. The other team members are likely busy and don’t always have to he time to be providing extended coaching and what you call timely feedback above what’s usually expected. It’s better if reasonable adjustments focus on you and not put extra work/changes in team dynamics on to others. It may be that you just weren’t a good fit for this role.

MesLunettes · 03/06/2026 15:46

SereneRoseRobin · 03/06/2026 15:42

what else can i do?

What do you mean? Find another job in a different environment that may be able to integrate the extra adjustments you need more easily into its work?

I mean, to me you are expecting a level of perfection in terms of the functioning of the workplace in terms of feedback, time to act on it, very explicit instructions etc etc that in my experience just doesn't always happen in RL workplaces working to a deadline under pressure, regardless of adaptations.

It just may be that this workplace, or this particular type of work isn't suited to your capacities.

letsallavoidourproblems · 03/06/2026 15:46

Did they provide written confirmation all of your requested accommodations would be met exactly as you asked for them?

Gently OP, some of them don't seem reasonable for a professional role. Graduates should be able to apply critical thinking to project objectives, evaluate and influence timelines, and complete projects where examples aren't available.

I would see direct and timely feedback as reasonable, ideally through a regular 1:1 structure. However quick feedback is not always possible for tasks that have a short turnaround time, and that needs to be taken in to account in your ways of working.

BombayMixIsTheBestMix · 03/06/2026 15:45

How many more threads are you going to start on the same topic? You need professional advice not to keep pestering the good people of mn when you had over 70 replies on your earlier thread and are apparently not satisfied still. This is like thread 4 or something.

Whyarepeople · 03/06/2026 15:43

SereneRoseRobin · 03/06/2026 15:42

what else can i do?

It might not be the right environment for you - you could find another job in the same field?

SereneRoseRobin · 03/06/2026 15:42

Whyarepeople · 03/06/2026 15:41

I suppose the question is, do you genuinely want to work there long term? Is it the right job for you?

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what else can i do?

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Whyarepeople · 03/06/2026 15:41

I suppose the question is, do you genuinely want to work there long term? Is it the right job for you?

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