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To be pissed off at housing tenants

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Pssedoffathis · 03/06/2026 13:22

To be pissed off at this
We live in a nice area, there isnt much available to rent. The last 4 bed was 4500 a month that came up 2 months ago.
We were renting at 3000 a month an older house but it needed work and the landlord decided to sell so we moved out and living in a temporary small flat further away from kids schools waiting and waiting for 6 months for a house to come up.
We have heard from several friends that in the area the council have moved a problem family in to a large house in one of the roads. They dont work, 4 kids, police round all the time, stolen car crashed into a lampost, kids out the front screaming, teen age boy being arrested.
Anyway, these absolute scummers are living for free in a house we would love..
Whilst I am paying 40 percent tax and effectively homeless with 2 kids. Waiting for a house to come up that I can afford as 4500 is out of budget and property is scarce.
I am basically paying for these people to live in a house i can not afford to live in myself.
Am I a Mug? Should I move countries?
What is the fecking point in working anymore.

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CoffeeCantata · 03/06/2026 14:01

bigboykitty · 03/06/2026 13:27

I don't know what a 'scummer' is OP, but maybe you're one?

You're very privileged then.

My daughter's life has been made a misery since the council bought one of the flats in the (converted Victorian house) block where she lives. She struggled to buy her flat and worked incredibly hard on it, fitting a kitchen herself and repairing the parquet flooring - and creating a little garden out of the scruffy courtyard.

Then the council bought the neighbouring flat and put a drug addict, alcoholic, violent thief in there and all hell broke loose. He's aggressive, shouts at and threatens the other flat-owners, fights with local pub landlords and shopkeepers, creates horrendous mess all over the place and recently smashed all his windows in (including 2 which overlook her garden) - blood all down her wall - nice.

The whole block of flats is miserable and scared. His mates come at night (he deals quite openly) and while my daughter was away her window was smashed and her gate broken and the letter box wrenched off.

So if you don't know what a scummer is, I do hope I've helped you to understand.

Tortoisel · 03/06/2026 14:01

I don’t know your full financial situation. But if you really can’t afford to live where you are then it might be worth getting a calculator out and doing some maths on Entitled to. You can put as much in pension as you want and it doesn’t count as income. Even without rent paid I worked out we would be only a few hundred worse off a month but would be able to massively boost our pension by tens of thousands a year. And that is as home owners. As renters you’re going to be quids in.

Unfortunately we are business owners so it gets very tricky for us. But as employees you should absolutely have a look at it.

Morally it’s potentially wrong. But we can only play the cards we have been dealt and Angela raynor for sure would be doing that.

allthingsinmoderation · 03/06/2026 13:56

Im sorry you cant find a property to rent that suits your family .
You seem to be taking your frustration out on people you have no way of knowing the truth about based on gossip.
Honestly with such a large amount of money available i suggest you look at buying rather than renting but even then you wont be able to dictate who your neighbours are.

ImImmortalNowBabyDoll · 03/06/2026 13:53

Pssedoffathis · 03/06/2026 13:22

To be pissed off at this
We live in a nice area, there isnt much available to rent. The last 4 bed was 4500 a month that came up 2 months ago.
We were renting at 3000 a month an older house but it needed work and the landlord decided to sell so we moved out and living in a temporary small flat further away from kids schools waiting and waiting for 6 months for a house to come up.
We have heard from several friends that in the area the council have moved a problem family in to a large house in one of the roads. They dont work, 4 kids, police round all the time, stolen car crashed into a lampost, kids out the front screaming, teen age boy being arrested.
Anyway, these absolute scummers are living for free in a house we would love..
Whilst I am paying 40 percent tax and effectively homeless with 2 kids. Waiting for a house to come up that I can afford as 4500 is out of budget and property is scarce.
I am basically paying for these people to live in a house i can not afford to live in myself.
Am I a Mug? Should I move countries?
What is the fecking point in working anymore.

You're not paying 40% tax. You might be paying 40% tax on SOME of your income.

If you're earning into the 40% tax band (and you say "we" so there's presumably two earners in the house) then you're in a position to save up and buy, you've just prioritised other things.

You don't actually know anything about this other family's story, and blaming them for your own poor planning is a lazy way out.

SnappyQuoter · 03/06/2026 13:52

Why don’t you buy instead of renting? You’re clearly a high earner. But you chose to rent, which is not secure housing.

You’re not paying 40% tax. Tax is a progressive system.

A “nice area” should not be free of social housing, or do you want all the poor people sectioned off into one place?
Your nice area will have a lot less social housing than other areas, but you’ll be getting a lot more taxpayer money spent on where you live. It’ll be an in demand area because of good, well funded schools. The roads will be better taken care of, you’ll have better policing. Stop acting like you get nothing from tax payers.

LakieLady · 03/06/2026 13:52

x2boys · 03/06/2026 13:43

They will all be claiming PIP
For no reason
Whilst y
telling all and sundry about it.

And because they're on PIP, they'll be getting a free car!

canthavetoomanylights · 03/06/2026 13:51

i can understand why you’re pissed off OP, I would be too, but it’s the whole housing and welfare system to blame

category12 · 03/06/2026 13:51

Social/council housing isn't free, it's rented.

BudgetBuster · 03/06/2026 13:49

Pssedoffathis · 03/06/2026 13:22

To be pissed off at this
We live in a nice area, there isnt much available to rent. The last 4 bed was 4500 a month that came up 2 months ago.
We were renting at 3000 a month an older house but it needed work and the landlord decided to sell so we moved out and living in a temporary small flat further away from kids schools waiting and waiting for 6 months for a house to come up.
We have heard from several friends that in the area the council have moved a problem family in to a large house in one of the roads. They dont work, 4 kids, police round all the time, stolen car crashed into a lampost, kids out the front screaming, teen age boy being arrested.
Anyway, these absolute scummers are living for free in a house we would love..
Whilst I am paying 40 percent tax and effectively homeless with 2 kids. Waiting for a house to come up that I can afford as 4500 is out of budget and property is scarce.
I am basically paying for these people to live in a house i can not afford to live in myself.
Am I a Mug? Should I move countries?
What is the fecking point in working anymore.

Fair play for single handedly paying the scummers rent.

LakieLady · 03/06/2026 13:48

Pssedoffathis · 03/06/2026 13:38

No I don't think they deserve to live in a house for free whilst causing anticosial behaviour and also in a place that most tax payers can't afford themselves.
I think it takes tbe piss out of working people.

Imagine how much more challenging their ASB would be if they were living on the street.

Ideally, your street.

RedTagAlan · 03/06/2026 13:48

Quote : "Whilst I am paying 40 percent tax and effectively homeless with 2 kids."

But you are not homeless. You live in a small flat Living in a small flat is not homeless. My family live in a small flat. And tax is progressive.

Quote : "I am basically paying for these people to live in a house i can not afford to live in myself"

Not really. Think of it this way. The tax you pay might be going towards missiles for the UK jets in the Gulf, or building a new road, or even going towards government subsidies paid to private rail operators.

Quote : "Am I a Mug? Should I move countries?"

I suppose that depends on lots of things. What country do you think is currently "getting everything right"?

After all, many countries do not have any social safety net at all. So you get whole families living in shacks on the edge of rubbish tips, and the rich are in gated communities with armed guards.

That's assuming the family in question are reliant on the social safety net of course.

ChristmasStickDaddy · 03/06/2026 13:48

Fuck it let’s just lock all of them in the work house eh? Or create ghettos? Sterilise them?

Seriously, They have to live somewhere.
You’re taking your frustration out on the wrong people, stop punching down!

btw not everyone that is in social housing doesn’t work. Me and dh both work full time, pay taxes but live in a housing association property. O we also have the nerve to have children. (We also are quiet, polite, clean, educated and raise our children brilliantly)

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Limth · 03/06/2026 13:48

YANBU

Absolute Clampetts

Viviennemary · 03/06/2026 13:45

Yanbu. This is the way the country is. And this is the reason for the rise of Reform. People are fed up with the current system. Maybe the new system will be worse who knows.

LakieLady · 03/06/2026 13:45

blankcanvas3 · 03/06/2026 13:28

This is an issue with the housing market not with people who claim benefits

And the failure of successive governments to build social housing. When councils have a statutory duty to house homeless families, they often have no option but to place them in expensive private sector rentals.

A friend is in a 4-bed council house and her rent is £215pw, so a little under £900 a month. A 4-bed private rent here is £2,500 a month.

In the medium to long term, social housing more or less pays for itself.

ginislife · 03/06/2026 13:44

Obviously you are going to get flamed in here because a large sector of MN genuinely don’t realise that people like you describe really do exist. Just like they live in areas that don’t have huge numbers of ethnic minorities that have changed the landscape completely and so there is no problem with migration. I’m lucky, I live in one of the former but I’m originally from one of the latter - and my sister still lives there. I hear you.

Pistachiocake · 03/06/2026 13:44

Pssedoffathis · 03/06/2026 13:35

Its a factual thing that is actually happening. I don't read the daily mail.
Maybe I would be worthy of empathy if I gave up my job and started a tirade of antisocial behaviour and didnt parent my kids properly..

You do deserve empathy-and people who have actually lived next to certain families, or aren't rich enough to move might well get it,

IdaGlossop · 03/06/2026 13:43

'These people.' 'Absolute scummers.' 'Problem family.'

You're revealing a lot about yourself, none of it good, OP.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 03/06/2026 13:43

<hands op even bigger spoon>

CagedBirdInACage · 03/06/2026 13:43

I don't think that this family and social housing are the problem. It shouldn't be a you or them situation. You should both have somewhere suitable for your families to live. That your family don't is a failure on the governments behalf but it isn't this families fault. Housing shortages have become something of an issue in many countries from the UK to Canada to Australia and is something that does need to be tackled.

Don't let bitterness eat you up OP, direct your anger at the government where it belongs.

x2boys · 03/06/2026 13:43

B1anche · 03/06/2026 13:34

Yes, I'm surprised OP didn't mention the massive TV and spending benefits on cigarettes and botox. Have I missed anything?

They will all be claiming PIP
For no reason
Whilst y
telling all and sundry about it.

PinkyFlamingo · 03/06/2026 13:43

Im confused it sounds like you are looking for a or vaye rental not council housing? Why would the council give you a house if you're not on the waiting list? If you really think it's not worthwhile working you would give up your job but you won't of course

Myappendixpls · 03/06/2026 13:42

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OneStarAwake · 03/06/2026 13:42

PinkHairbrushClub · 03/06/2026 13:39

I don’t think it is unreasonable to be frustrated, and I do think the sarky responses to the issue at play is part of the reason the right and farage are getting a foothold. If reasonable people won’t listen to what is actually happening and throw around accusations of being a bot, being daily mail, being X, Y and Z, rather than engaging, then we get what we deserve.

FWIW I see why you’re frustrated. But you’re frustrated at the wrong people. That family are working within the the rules of the system and living where they have been given. Just because it’s social housing it doesn’t mean they pay rent, it might mean they are supported in that, but that’s not the same as being free. And using the word ‘scummers’ rather details your point.

But people need to be housed across the country AND private rental costs are skyrocketing. Both are true.

I don't think sarky replies on MN are the reason the right and Farage are getting a foothold. If people decide how to vote on that basis, they are not very bright.

oldFoolMe · 03/06/2026 13:41

If the rent is that high then it’s likely you live in a very affluent area where social housing is limited. I know people that have waited 10 years for a council house stuck in a tiny flat after leaving an abusive relationship.
count yourself lucky that you don’t have to wait and can choose and afford to rent privately.

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