I have 2 daughters 8 and 10 and my eldest is very well behaved, good manners and generally a kind and considerate person.
My youngest is strong willed and can be quite challenging behaviour wise but in her eyes her sister can do no wrong when she’s right in the fact I never need to tell my eldest off because she is always good at home and good at school and wouldn’t want to do anything wrong because it’s just not in her nature so I can see the contrast in how my children will view my parenting towards them as my youngest is quite often doing things she knows she shouldn’t and gets told about things.
It’s got me thinking that when she grows up she might see her sister as a golden child and her as a black sheep and me as a narcissist as lots of children do and claim she was always in trouble and her sister could do no wrong, but actually they are loved just the same but truthfully one is easy and does exactly as she asks and is helpful, chatty and friendly so easy to get along with and the other is defiant a lot of the time and argumentative making it a lot more challenging.
I often hear of narcissistic parents who people feel had favourites who were treated differently and wonder if sometimes, not always but it may not be the case that there was a golden child and a black sheep and that there was actually just a child that was always good and a child that wasn’t?