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Enough candles and petitions. What are we actually going to DO?

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getoutofmyhead · 03/06/2026 09:55

I know there have been threads. I'm sorry to add another one. But I cannot for the life of me move past this. Three boys. Not sentenced. After repeated, evidenced rape of little girls. Walk free because their future matters more than girls? This is what this country, the world thinks girls and women are worth. I signed the petitions. But I am loosing sleep over it and wondering: is that it? Is that all we've got? All the rage, the raw emotion, surely we can use this to better ecient that a petition who will be forgotten in a few days.
I refuse and we should all refuse.

Women, our ancestors, have chained ourselves to railings, we have made noise so loud it could not be ignored. We have done it before and we can do it again, right?

Tell me what you're willing to do. Tell me what's already being organised. Because we cannot let this happen continuously. We cannot let this just pass.
What do we do? As a mother of daughters, I am dying inside and I want to take all this hate and turn it into something for our daughters and their future in this country.

Please let not be this another Sarah Everard moment. where we all light candles, cry together, and then watch it fade while nothing changes.

Please someone tell me is there hope for collective actions. We as women have been too reasonable for far too long.

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Avalovelace · 03/06/2026 10:29

So much this. I’m a sexual assault survivor and the other week it was wear denim to work day to show solidarity. Utterly pointless. Was so angry. Write to your MP? Jess Phillips? I don’t know what the answer is. The criminal justice system needs fundamentally changing.

TartanTiger · 03/06/2026 10:29

We can't control, or don't want to control awful parenting.

My sister's immediate next door neighbour is a mother, her three young sons and the drug addict she lets in for drug fuelled orgies with other men. The language and fighting you hear on a daily basis is disturbing. The boys are now old enough to be swearing back.

Yes social services are aware. No nothing is being done.

Those three boys are having the absolute worst start in life and this is being replicated throughout the country.

This woman should never had had children. She doesn't deserve them.

Loulou4022 · 03/06/2026 10:28

getoutofmyhead · 03/06/2026 10:25

@Loulou4022 You're absolutely right that how we raise boys matters so much. We cannot control every parent but we can control what we demand from our schools, our politicians, our courts. We are not spectators unless we choose to be.

Sadly as has been proved on another emotive thread on here schools lack the support of many parents. Which then feeds into lack of respect for police, courts and general law and order 😭

SparklyHam · 03/06/2026 10:28

Their sentences will be reviewed and they will undoubtedly get a youth custodial sentence.

There's nothing else to do right now.

Personally, I've taken from this public backlash that people DO care. DO want things to be different and ARE being listened to.

AmberSpy · 03/06/2026 10:27

I mean, worth waiting until the Court of Appeal has reviewed the sentence, no? If the review still doesn't result in a custodial sentence for the little scrotes then yes, we should take more direct action.

getoutofmyhead · 03/06/2026 10:25

@Loulou4022 You're absolutely right that how we raise boys matters so much. We cannot control every parent but we can control what we demand from our schools, our politicians, our courts. We are not spectators unless we choose to be.

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Loulou4022 · 03/06/2026 10:20

I’m afraid sloppy parenting of those boys will probably have been at the root cause of the Southampton tragedy. And sadly many parents don’t want to parent properly so until that changes I can see these things happening again and again 😭

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