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To wonder why so many male migrants have committed sexual assaults:even if they are evil people, wouldn't staying in the UK be an incentive to abide by the law?

487 replies

Jane379 · 03/06/2026 00:05

I KNOW that plenty of the men who come are not evil and don't want to commit sexual assault. But clearly a number who have come are, and there's strong evidence that male migrants are disproportionately lileky to do so.

This almost surely at least partly caused by misogynistic culture in various areas meaning back home they perceived uncovered women as permissible to assault. But surely they know it's different here? That they will likely be caught? They are at least more likely to be punished here for assault.

Or are they convinced our police system will let them off?

Or they're not aware our norms are different?

Or just don't care about the consequences?

I wonder also if criminals are in a sense selected for since they may have little to tie them to their home countries, or even be escaping punishment there.

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EasternStandard · 04/06/2026 12:37

Toops · 04/06/2026 12:24

She doesn't answer because she knows she can't.

Yep. It’s always overlooked but really we need to not slip into everywhere’s the same.

If the pp were honest they would not want anything near what’s happening to girls in Sudan and Afghanistan to happen here.

(unless some bizarre cruelty, which most don’t have).

Samysungy · 04/06/2026 12:36

Toops · 04/06/2026 12:24

She doesn't answer because she knows she can't.

I just did....

Ha ha ha!

Pissed on your comment then eh?

Samysungy · 04/06/2026 12:35

EasternStandard · 04/06/2026 12:18

Where would you prefer to bring up dds @Samysungyhere or Afghanistan? If it’s all the same would you swap?

Neither as both places are controlling and abusive for females.

I also wouldn't like it here as women minimise sexual assaults here to play oppression monopoly like you just have...saying it isn't bad to be sexually abused here as women get sexually abused in another country....imagine saying that like you just did.

Toops · 04/06/2026 12:24

EasternStandard · 04/06/2026 12:18

Where would you prefer to bring up dds @Samysungyhere or Afghanistan? If it’s all the same would you swap?

She doesn't answer because she knows she can't.

EasternStandard · 04/06/2026 12:18

Samysungy · 04/06/2026 12:03

Probably the same the world over as all women have been sexually assaulted so I would say probably the norm the world over as it is here.

Living with a man is unsafe in any country...

90% of girls here are sexually assaulted in school....probably on a par with those countries...

Per captia here is 0.3.....showing it is the same regardless of ethnicity.

All have the same root cause....misogyny!

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Where would you prefer to bring up dds @Samysungyhere or Afghanistan? If it’s all the same would you swap?

HRTQueen · 04/06/2026 12:13

Samysungy · 04/06/2026 11:41

Men the world over have these views. They do not respect some women and not others...laughable to even suggest that those who hate women only hate western women and not their own!

Rape is virtually legal in the UK - 99% of rapists walk free. Bit like going 71mph when driving. It is not legal but you are unlikely to get done for it.

Deep rooted misogyny is a massive problem in the UK. That is why sexual assaults are so common and the norm.

give over rape is almost legal that is a ridiculously stupid statement to make, that rape and sexual assault is very hard to prosecute is an issue but it is against the law and we women can report our husbands for raping us and attitudes have changed significantly and still are though not quick enough

do you realise in many countries it actually isn't against the law for men to rape their wife/wives, as it was here until 1991

No one is denying that sexual assaults happen far too frequently and misogyny is not an issue in the UK, but we do have laws in place that allow us in law to be equal citizens I can report harassment and violence, I can choose how to dress, I can vote, I can make the choice to divorce, go on to further education, to work I can safely live on my own (crimes happen but it is a choice I can make, I can work or gain benefits and any harassment I can report to the police that is my right to make these choices) I have autonomy over my life

live in a country where you are not and you will soon appreciate how much better we have being female we have freedoms that woman and girls in many countries can only dream of

GeneralPeter · 04/06/2026 12:12

Samysungy · 04/06/2026 12:03

Probably the same the world over as all women have been sexually assaulted so I would say probably the norm the world over as it is here.

Living with a man is unsafe in any country...

90% of girls here are sexually assaulted in school....probably on a par with those countries...

Per captia here is 0.3.....showing it is the same regardless of ethnicity.

All have the same root cause....misogyny!

Edited

But women also commit sexual assault, therefore the offending rate is probably the same between men and women.

(Am I doing this right?)

Samysungy · 04/06/2026 12:03

Toops · 04/06/2026 11:44

Again. Per capita wise do you think there are more rapes in the west or in these 3rd world nations? Where do you feel safer, Krakow or Kabul?

Again do you think SAs are more common here in the west or in Afghanistan, Sudan, Somalia etc?

Probably the same the world over as all women have been sexually assaulted so I would say probably the norm the world over as it is here.

Living with a man is unsafe in any country...

90% of girls here are sexually assaulted in school....probably on a par with those countries...

Per captia here is 0.3.....showing it is the same regardless of ethnicity.

All have the same root cause....misogyny!

Toops · 04/06/2026 11:45

Are people just ignoring the per capita data because we have white British rapists as well?

Toops · 04/06/2026 11:44

Samysungy · 04/06/2026 11:41

Men the world over have these views. They do not respect some women and not others...laughable to even suggest that those who hate women only hate western women and not their own!

Rape is virtually legal in the UK - 99% of rapists walk free. Bit like going 71mph when driving. It is not legal but you are unlikely to get done for it.

Deep rooted misogyny is a massive problem in the UK. That is why sexual assaults are so common and the norm.

Again. Per capita wise do you think there are more rapes in the west or in these 3rd world nations? Where do you feel safer, Krakow or Kabul?

Again do you think SAs are more common here in the west or in Afghanistan, Sudan, Somalia etc?

Samysungy · 04/06/2026 11:41

HRTQueen · 04/06/2026 09:57

So you are saying that men coming from cultures where woman few rights, where a husband can legally rape (supported by religion) and beat his wife, where woman can not make every day decisions without her father or husbands consent magically leave behind these cultural norms when they come to the UK

no one is suggesting that men are not the issue, when you add in deep rooted misogyny you have further complexities to deal with along with the view many of these men will have of western woman being viewed as woman of loose morals

Men the world over have these views. They do not respect some women and not others...laughable to even suggest that those who hate women only hate western women and not their own!

Rape is virtually legal in the UK - 99% of rapists walk free. Bit like going 71mph when driving. It is not legal but you are unlikely to get done for it.

Deep rooted misogyny is a massive problem in the UK. That is why sexual assaults are so common and the norm.

GeneralPeter · 04/06/2026 11:36

WildLeader · 04/06/2026 08:41

Consent is taught extensively in schools

and those British teenage boys planned and executed multiple rapes and very nearly got away with it, if not for the public uproar.

It's commendable you are comfortable calling out those boys' culture. But why are you happy to do it for British travellers but not foreign ethnic groups?

Jane379 · 04/06/2026 11:28

Dmsandfloatydress · 03/06/2026 10:18

I actually agree. I worked in those hotels when the protests were happening and all they did was traumatise already traumatised little kids. It was incredibly cruel as many of the hotels house women and children who have suffered terrible things and children who were still screaming at night after experiencing bombing The way to address this is through the proper channels. Writing to your MP etc. Im actually pretty please with Shabana Mahmoods policies. They really should help. My view is that we should simply do what we did with the Ukrainians. Homes for refugees but just women and children with no way to bring adult male members. In this way we can compassionately help the most vulnerable and ensure integration as they will spend the first 6 months living in British Homes and being helped by those who have volunteered and who have cultural capital.
Better still, rural areas should be prioritised so that refugees have no choice but to become completely immersed in British Culture.

I agree mainly with this. Poor people in the hotels.

Also agree re Shabana Mahmood. She should be PM imo.

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Toops · 04/06/2026 11:19

Jane379 · 04/06/2026 10:58

Were they travellers? I didn't know that.

Ironically, I was planning to do a thread on why traveller children are allowed to be withdrawn early from school. How is this still happening?

I think they were

Jane379 · 04/06/2026 10:58

MimiGC · 04/06/2026 10:52

A lot of children from travelling communities do not attend school regularly, or at all. There’s a good chance those 3 boys missed the consent lessons.

Were they travellers? I didn't know that.

Ironically, I was planning to do a thread on why traveller children are allowed to be withdrawn early from school. How is this still happening?

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MimiGC · 04/06/2026 10:52

WildLeader · 04/06/2026 08:41

Consent is taught extensively in schools

and those British teenage boys planned and executed multiple rapes and very nearly got away with it, if not for the public uproar.

A lot of children from travelling communities do not attend school regularly, or at all. There’s a good chance those 3 boys missed the consent lessons.

HRTQueen · 04/06/2026 09:57

WildLeader · 04/06/2026 08:41

Consent is taught extensively in schools

and those British teenage boys planned and executed multiple rapes and very nearly got away with it, if not for the public uproar.

So you are saying that men coming from cultures where woman few rights, where a husband can legally rape (supported by religion) and beat his wife, where woman can not make every day decisions without her father or husbands consent magically leave behind these cultural norms when they come to the UK

no one is suggesting that men are not the issue, when you add in deep rooted misogyny you have further complexities to deal with along with the view many of these men will have of western woman being viewed as woman of loose morals

Tryingtobegreenfingered · 04/06/2026 09:48

@WildLeader is too busy congratulating herself on how inclusive and progressive she is. The whataboutery is strong here

EasternStandard · 04/06/2026 09:17

Toops · 04/06/2026 09:15

Again where do you feel safer Krakow or Kabul?

@WildLeader?

Toops · 04/06/2026 09:15

Again where do you feel safer Krakow or Kabul?

Toops · 04/06/2026 09:09

WildLeader · 04/06/2026 08:38

And yet the huge and overwhelming majority of assaults are carried out by our home grown men where NONE of these things you cite are in any way relevant

the problem is men.

Ignores per capita now don't you

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 04/06/2026 08:53

WildLeader · 04/06/2026 08:41

Consent is taught extensively in schools

and those British teenage boys planned and executed multiple rapes and very nearly got away with it, if not for the public uproar.

Exactly. We have enough problems with the men already here, why add to that with men who don't even get educated that consent is something that matters?

The court system is overwhelmed.

Rape is pretty much legal, and the needle is being pushed. It wouldn't take that much for women's rights here to go the same way as they've done in Iran and Afghanistan.

womendeserveequalhumanrights · 04/06/2026 08:51

Jane379 · 03/06/2026 23:45

I agree Afghan women should be helped to come.

However, I think most Afghan men here are young singles without wives and families.

Presumably they have mothers and sometimes sisters? Work even for men is hard to come by but the most likely people to get it are young, fit men. Instead of staying and trying to earn a living they've just left their female relatives to their fate which will most likely be an unpleasant death now they can't even get medical care very easily.

WildLeader · 04/06/2026 08:41

Consent is taught extensively in schools

and those British teenage boys planned and executed multiple rapes and very nearly got away with it, if not for the public uproar.

WildLeader · 04/06/2026 08:38

Ponoka7 · 03/06/2026 00:26

You don't think that when someone grows up with societal norms, it doesn't become ingrained, or accepted? When child marriage and by extension child sexual abuse, is a societal norm, then that becomes your norm.

And yet the huge and overwhelming majority of assaults are carried out by our home grown men where NONE of these things you cite are in any way relevant

the problem is men.