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To wonder why so many male migrants have committed sexual assaults:even if they are evil people, wouldn't staying in the UK be an incentive to abide by the law?

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Jane379 · 03/06/2026 00:05

I KNOW that plenty of the men who come are not evil and don't want to commit sexual assault. But clearly a number who have come are, and there's strong evidence that male migrants are disproportionately lileky to do so.

This almost surely at least partly caused by misogynistic culture in various areas meaning back home they perceived uncovered women as permissible to assault. But surely they know it's different here? That they will likely be caught? They are at least more likely to be punished here for assault.

Or are they convinced our police system will let them off?

Or they're not aware our norms are different?

Or just don't care about the consequences?

I wonder also if criminals are in a sense selected for since they may have little to tie them to their home countries, or even be escaping punishment there.

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Toops · 03/06/2026 14:52

The us offered an Afghan asylum for helping them and then he shot 2 guardsmen.

MsJinks · 03/06/2026 14:45

igelkott2026 · 03/06/2026 14:38

Well it is but its shocking that they should even think it's ok to shove their dicks where they are not wanted.

It is possibly actually less shocking from ‘their culture’ than the guys who continue to do this from ‘our culture’ - if you are following the line of argument on here.

MsJinks · 03/06/2026 14:43

Toops · 03/06/2026 14:37

Again. These shouldn't be needed in the first place. Why do you want these people here?

Well we offered 20,000 Afghans safety if they supported us in the war - so there’s that reason for some.

Similarly, previous settlement schemes for Syrians. Also ongoing , if very limited, safe routes from different places.

I would like to live in a country that offers asylum - we don’t help with wars, nor with cutting foreign aid either - but even if we didn’t then many refugees are already here and some will continue to arrive and some from different cultures will be here/come here on visas to help prop up our country.

So actually whether you want ‘them here’ or not there will always be refugees from other countries, visa holders filling the gaps, and I think teaching and supporting integration can only be a good thing.

Toops · 03/06/2026 14:41

Everyone just ignores these cases when they happen. People just ignore the per capita data which clearly shows more danger than the local/native population.

igelkott2026 · 03/06/2026 14:38

MsJinks · 03/06/2026 14:31

You say that like it’s all bad - it’s good Norway works on integration. We should do more of that here.

Well it is but its shocking that they should even think it's ok to shove their dicks where they are not wanted.

Toops · 03/06/2026 14:37

MsJinks · 03/06/2026 14:31

You say that like it’s all bad - it’s good Norway works on integration. We should do more of that here.

Again. These shouldn't be needed in the first place. Why do you want these people here?

BashthatTerriesorange · 03/06/2026 14:32

MandingoAteMyBaby · 03/06/2026 12:46

The Migration Observatory agrees with my opinion.

Ben Brindle, a researcher at the Migration Observatory, who carried out the analysis, said: “I think it’s likely that asylum seekers are more likely to commit crimes, but that’s in good part due to some of the other characteristics that those people tend to have.
“For instance, asylum seekers are more likely to be young men and young men are more likely to commit crime. In a perfect world you’d want to be comparing a young male Brit to a young male asylum seeker to try and account for that but we can’t do that with the statistics that we’ve got.”

Why does he agree ? Because it is what the data tells him. No emotions involved at all.

This is fascinating. You are reading something that is not there. Ben does not agree with you. He is stating the data is not there. And speculating on what he thinks is likely to be there and why.
Its noteworthy that the speculatively explanation he offers is one that fits with his political opinions, so yes there is arguably some emotion in his reply. Another possible explanation for higher rates of rapes by asylum seekers is because of the culture they come from. And there will be other possible explanations, and possibly a combination of explanations ( youth plus culture, for example).

The fact is, we don't know because as Ben says, the data is not there.

MsJinks · 03/06/2026 14:31

Toops · 03/06/2026 14:24

They had to give them anti rape lessons in Norway

You say that like it’s all bad - it’s good Norway works on integration. We should do more of that here.

Toops · 03/06/2026 14:24

They had to give them anti rape lessons in Norway

FatEndoftheWedge · 03/06/2026 14:20

@Weeallthewayhome it's all very well saying stay here if you respect our laws/ ethics and customs but who is going to tell them what they are and make sure that they understand what they are especially around women esp as it's often interwoven with their religion and is all that's been taught ??

Toops · 03/06/2026 14:15

laveritable · 03/06/2026 14:04

You call 40 month prison sentence for "cold blooded m*rder" of a baby DEALING WITH ????

Again. We should deal with our own. And she was imprisoned.

No need to bring in foreign criminals as well.

Weeallthewayhome · 03/06/2026 14:06

MsJinks · 03/06/2026 11:39

Could it be France wouldn’t take them? They’re not French citizens and so no need to take them. We could of course go to war with France 👀

Could it be the military won’t get involved? Already the navy said no when these ideas were floated previously.

Its not asylum claimants making it shit in the U.K. but I doubt you’d listen to those facts - but a genuine question now - if all asylum claimants were barred from the U.K. would that be sufficient to settle you, or would you then want to look at refugees granted asylum already, anyone with LTR?

I do think that actually there is little consensus on who people wish not to be here - and this will be a problem - some focus on hotels, some on Islam, some on non British - a huge range of ideas and I doubt many could be satisfied.

I think Rupert Lowe has the right idea.

Stay here if you respect our culture, traditions, preference not to be raped or rig our voting system.

Otherwise we have no obligation to feel afraid on our own streets.

And I’m not the only who thinks like this by an astonishing degree. Ten years ago I would have concerns about feeling this way.

Now I don’t care. I’ve had enough of imported violence and rape and murder.

laveritable · 03/06/2026 14:04

Toops · 03/06/2026 13:29

We deal with and imprison our own

You call 40 month prison sentence for "cold blooded m*rder" of a baby DEALING WITH ????

MimiGC · 03/06/2026 13:54

Everyone knows that men, especially young men, commit the most crime, including sexual crime. That’s been true since forever and holds true across all countries. The significant majority of illegal migrants are from that exact cohort ie young men. It is not unreasonable for people to be concerned about allowing in thousands of people from the exact demographic that is most likely to commit crime. I think people would be more sympathetic to, and relaxed about, illegal immigration if those coming in that way were older women, rather than younger men. I understand why that isn’t the case though.

Whatdomenactuallydo · 03/06/2026 13:54

Twisterlollies · 03/06/2026 13:50

Yes, why not? We can’t just leave vast swathes of the globe to be ruled over by despots while small islands take the population of their countries. It’s madness.

Obviously there would be a limit on numbers as we could only accept women and kids who have british citizens willing to sponsor them for six months. We do have a duty to help genuine refugees and this would be the best way to ensure those refugees integrate properly.

HRTQueen · 03/06/2026 13:54

Young men with nothing to do, no structure or purpose are always an issue for societies to deal with regardless of their background

But I do not think we can no longer ignore that young men who are coming form countries where misogyny and violence towards females is accepted or just ignored, plus where views of western woman as being seen as less respectable you are more likely to have men that will sexual assault women as they see it as their right to, violence breeds violence and ignoring this puts women and girls at more risk.

I think many underestimate the disregard towards western women in some cultures that many men and woman have. Western woman are seen being less than woman from their culture and are often considered woman of loose morals where so much emphasis is placed on woman's respectability/their chastity in their culture

Too many people are too nervous to even discuss this, for fear of what exactly I do not understand so the likes of Nigel Farage are allowed to run with it, which helps no one but the likes of Farage

Twisterlollies · 03/06/2026 13:51

Naunet · 03/06/2026 13:26

I notice you didn't come back to me over whether you believe Pakistani women are more likely to lie about domestic abuse than western women, or if you'll accept Pakistani men are more likely to commit domestic violence. Which is it?

Don’t answer questions they will bend themselves into pretzels to avoid!

Twisterlollies · 03/06/2026 13:50

Whatdomenactuallydo · 03/06/2026 11:06

Why not? It worked for Ukrainians. Just let it be known that we won't be accepting any asylum claims from men at all. Men cause almost all of the problems people are fleeing from anyway. We keep your women and kids safe and you brave men go home and fix your country.

Yes, why not? We can’t just leave vast swathes of the globe to be ruled over by despots while small islands take the population of their countries. It’s madness.

Toops · 03/06/2026 13:29

laveritable · 03/06/2026 13:09

To those people like you, how would you explain the deafening silence of the media when Kimberly Cookson m*rdered a child NOAH SIBANDA in a nursery in Dudley??? I bet this is news to a lot of of folks here!

We deal with and imprison our own

FatEndoftheWedge · 03/06/2026 13:27

And we have come a long way in the UK , and even then we are struggling to keep women safe !.and now it feels like any work we have done is just ruined because of the sheer volume of men who have come from totally different cultures.

Naunet · 03/06/2026 13:26

bigboykitty · 03/06/2026 12:30

'Yeah I don't care if the data's right or not, I just want to say immigrants are rapists so I'm gonna say it'.

I notice you didn't come back to me over whether you believe Pakistani women are more likely to lie about domestic abuse than western women, or if you'll accept Pakistani men are more likely to commit domestic violence. Which is it?

FatEndoftheWedge · 03/06/2026 13:25

50sandFabulous · 03/06/2026 09:23

And just to add also, I think that men from those cultures may try to present as respectable, but given half the chance they will attack.

Lara Logan found this out when she was reporting in Egypt. Her attack was utterly horrifying. Hundreds of men dragged her into the crowd and molested her, digitally raped her, and they also tried to rip her to shreds literally, by pulling all her limbs in opposite directions. They tore out all of her blonde hair. Hundreds of men - and no one objected. She was eventually rescued by a gang of women. She was hanging onto life by a thread.

We allow men here from that culture, and let them live alongside our young women. What could possibly go wrong? I have been saying this for years. I knew this would happen. I knew it. It amazes me that the Government didn't see this coming.

It's like allowing a fox into the chicken coop, because we are afraid of offending the fox.

And we don't value women and their safety we have seen that with the whole trans issue recently and many other circumstances.

1dayatatime · 03/06/2026 13:19

MandingoAteMyBaby · 03/06/2026 12:46

The Migration Observatory agrees with my opinion.

Ben Brindle, a researcher at the Migration Observatory, who carried out the analysis, said: “I think it’s likely that asylum seekers are more likely to commit crimes, but that’s in good part due to some of the other characteristics that those people tend to have.
“For instance, asylum seekers are more likely to be young men and young men are more likely to commit crime. In a perfect world you’d want to be comparing a young male Brit to a young male asylum seeker to try and account for that but we can’t do that with the statistics that we’ve got.”

Why does he agree ? Because it is what the data tells him. No emotions involved at all.

No Ben Bridle confirms that (male) Asylum seekers are more likely to commit crimes in the UK than (male) British nationals.

He then speculates that this maybe due to the fact that the asylum seekers tend to be of a younger age but he cannot confirm this because the data is not available.

So in an ideal world the Government would publish that data but it won't for fear of creating anger in the public or for fear of being accused of racism.

That leaves us with the data we have that does indeed show that asylum seekers are more likely to commit crimes including sex crimes than UK nationals.

laveritable · 03/06/2026 13:09

OneTealShaker · 03/06/2026 09:08

Of course. To those people it’s no big issue. Women must sacrificed at the altar of mass uncontrolled immigration.

To those people like you, how would you explain the deafening silence of the media when Kimberly Cookson m*rdered a child NOAH SIBANDA in a nursery in Dudley??? I bet this is news to a lot of of folks here!

BashthatTerriesorange · 03/06/2026 12:56

Dmsandfloatydress · 03/06/2026 09:24

FFS! None of the men I worked with knew what the law was! No one had told them. When I explained it to them in detail they actually couldnt believe it and thought I was making it up!!! Also, Im a woman so why would they listen to me?

I witnessed loads of domestic abuse in family accomodation and the prepetrator would clearly explain that his wife has her period so was being difficult and why am I interfering with his family life?? They were genuinely perplexed. This is after the law was explained. One family was middle class Jordanians!! Its not just Afghans ,it anyone who comes from a country where women are second class citizens. Do we really want to import this? In addition, it cost 10k to get to the UK on a small boat. 10k!! Money which could have been spent applying for a work visa.

This. The willful ignorance from the ‘it’s just men’ people is staggering. I interviewed an afghani women asylum seeker. Young woman who lived in Kabul inbetween the Taliban regimes. She had a good education and her middle class father had been very keen on her and sisters all getting a good tertiary level education. She was a refugee as her fiancé was not a Muslim and her Father and family were going to murder her for this.

Different cultures are actually different and people behave differently accordingly.