AIBU this is NOT a moustache

Saturday morning detention. Yeah I’d like to see them enforce that. He’s not on their time, he’s home with his parents. School can get to fuck!

I invigilate at a school with a 6th form and a very high % of Indian, Arabian pupils. The boys all seem to have full facial hair from about 12. School rule for it is clean and tidy. Also a lot of very long hair, male and female, again clean and tied back

DS had a much stronger tache than that when he was eleven. No school rules about it, though.

I think a lot of us were/are interested for many different reasons. Thanks for the update but did the school give a reason?

Assistant Head saw a thread on Mumsnet? 😂

How can they force him to shave? Surely a human rights breach, what are they trying to do, shame him for having a moustache? Don’t send him in

this comment made me snort with laughter!

But on a more serious note OP, definitely stick up for your son here (and I don't often say that both as a parent and a teacher). Your son has not got enough facial hair to shave, and doing so might irritate his already very sensitive and reactive skin (you can see he has some acne problems that he doesn't want to make worse with unnecessary products).
This is very unfair.

I'm glad the school saw sense and the difference between a bit of fluff and an actual moustache has been recognised!

Of course people are interested, more than"vaguely"! You've had quite a lot of response...
I'm just wondering what the school policy is, and why.

Is there are reason for staff in your school to be so unbelievably pathetic? Are they not very good teachers? Does school make all the female staff wax their vulvas? Surely if facial hair on a male student restricts learning then hairy fannies on a female teacher restricts teaching?

There is no way on earth my son would be attending that detention! He doesn’t have a moustache for a start but if my son did have a moustache then who the fuck are school be to tell him to shave it?! Are they telling the girls to shave their body hair?

I think this is ridiculous , teenagers are so sensitive at this age without extra scrutiny and it’s the most hairless moustache I’ve ever seen . Challenge the school !

Poor lad. I was going to say how humiliating for a 13 year old boy who is no doubt hugely self conscious and sensitive about bodily development. However he might choose to be proud of the fact that someone has noticed his fluff.
School are being outrageous and I am the first to complain about parents not supporting school discipline.

DS16 is like Homer Simpson - he has stubble almost immediately after shaving. School have never been in touch about it!

YANBU - my 14yo DS has similar fluff and no one had picked up on it. There are lads at the school with full beards

No i would not say it was a moustache. Does he even shave yet? But what school can give a Saturday detention? Is he at a boarding school?

The school are being unreasonable. What is the problem with mustaches anyway?

I honestly can't see anything

Does the school only object to facial hair, or are the kids expected to shave their legs too? Is Brazilian allowed, or do they have to go full Hollywood? Absolutely ridiculous. Has the school sorted out all the educational and behavioural issues and has nothing else to do so it has now turned to styling - or rather body-shaming? Go ballistic on them OP, best of luck. Your poor son, give him a big hug (if he still allows it).

Good grief. That’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve heard about a school ever.

Why can’t a male have a mustache or beard? I know it’s different but some religions eg Sikhism aren’t meant to cut/shave their hair. Is it really in the policy that boys must be clean shaven?

how did you get on at the school OP?

How ridiculous. I had to put my specs on to have a look and even then I couldn’t see anything. Mind you - does he put mascara on it after he’s left the house…

Do you have a cat that could lick it off? Seriously, whoever thought this merited punitive action is bonkers.

I thought it was a private school you were talking about. Not bound by the same sort of regulations etc.
The OP says that her son goes to a state school, which I find extraordinary.