To think some people call themselves “blunt” because they don’t want to develop empathy?

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BluntOrInsensitive · 02/06/2026 15:30

Honesty doesn’t require cruelty.

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BauhausOfEliott · 02/06/2026 15:59

I don't think empathy has much to do with it.

People who bang on about 'calling a spade a spade' and 'telling it like is' are often completely aware of how their so-called bluntness makes other people feel, and that's exactly why they do it. They want to be hurtful/rude. They just don't want to accept that they're doing anything wrong.

They hide behind a blustering facade of 'speaking their mind' and 'just being honest' because they don't want to take responsibility for being a cunt, that's all.

mindutopia · 02/06/2026 15:47

I’m quite blunt (it’s cultural, I’m not British), but I’m never go around telling everyone I’m blunt. I’m highly empathetic though.

I just don’t muck about not saying what I mean hoping everyone might just guess. What is problematic is people just hoping everyone knows what their needs are, but never speaking up for themselves and then having a tantrum because no one guessed correctly what you would have communicated if you had the balls to. You have to be your own best advocate.

thistimelastweek · 02/06/2026 15:46

Rudeness dressed up.

CoffeeCantata · 02/06/2026 15:44

Other people might call someone blunt, but I'd run a mile from anyone who called themselves blunt! It equates to boasting about being rude and insensitive and there's no room in my life for someone like that.

All the people I've ever known who claimed to 'tell it like it is' etc were hyper-sensitive about any criticism of themselves - to a ridiculous degree, in fact.

Backedoffhackedoff · 02/06/2026 15:33

I would imagine this covers lots of people yes- there are all sorts of emotions we don’t want to develop really.

I don’t really come across people calling themselves blunt though (seems a dull thing to say about yourself)

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