To think some people call themselves “blunt” because they don’t want to develop empathy?

I find people that say:

I speak as I find
I am honest in my opinions
I say how I feel and try to be truly authentic
I’m blunt
I’m straight talking
I cut to the chase

etc are all just ways of saying I am not nice and I know it - and they are really not nice people.

This is one of those threads -
Started by a first time AI OP with a name specific to the topic.
OP will either never come back or will come back with increasingly twisting versions of their OP.
All further posts if there are any will be word soup.
We used to have loads of these - often misogynistic, often rage bait.
Not had one for a while but boringly here it is again.

Previous examples were like this -
Title - Why do so many women unkind to other women
OP name - @Bitchesnotkind
Content of first post - Women lack the empathy men have.
Any rebuttal met with - You have a point, but what I was saying, on balance is that what I've observed is so many women are unpleasant unnecessarily but only to other women.

Blunt, you mean bloody rude.

100% agree.

The 'I tell it like it is' brigade piss me right off. They act like being rude and obnoxious, and dishing out their shitty rude offensive opinions, is some kind of positive trait, and a 'strength.'

I HATE people who are like this. I know several people who are too. The last one who was brutally honest with me and gave me her unfiltered opinion is a woman who lives not far from me (up the road.) I made it clear that what she had said had offended me, and she doubled down by saying I was 'very silly' and 'oversensitive.' No apology or anything.

So I stopped speaking to her. If I see her coming when I'm in the garden, I turn my back and walk away. She called 'hello Zov' a few times after this particular incident, and I ignored her and walked back into my house. She knows I am fucked off, and that I was offended and upset by what she said. She doesn't care. If she did, she would apologise. She no longer tries to speak to me. Result!

Be a rude opinionated cunt if you want to, if that's just the way you are, but don't expect me to talk to you again.

Socially awkwardness in my case. I'd love to have more finesse when dealing with people.

Blunt is code for rude.

Here we go again with the AI-meets-TikTok single-line faux profundity, posted by someone whose username 'matches' the post's dubious content.

Some people are naturally more direct than others, or come from cultural backgrounds that are very direct, but then there are people who are performatively 'blunt' and pride themselves on it - which, I suppose, is like any other cultivated personality 'quirk' - it can be annoying.

Or who says one thing to you and then slags you off behind your back. I prefer to know where I am with people.

Me too.

And I judge people who use the c word a lot more than I do people who are blunt.

People from certain areas of the UK tend to be more direct anyway, as do eg he Dutch and the Germans.

And if you really want to know if your bottom looks big (or too small!) in a dress, don't ask for the opinion. It's no good asking for an opinion and then being offended by that opinion. I prefer people to be direct than two-faced. But each person can do them, I guess.

”Bluntness” could come under cultural differences, neurodiversity, intellectual disability or intentional rudeness.
“Lack of empathy” is a much broader aspect. People who lack empathy can show this in how understanding or not they are of other people’s lives, but they don’t necessarily have to verbalise this in a way that appears blunt. They can do so in their every day decisions, which, unless questioned about, no body could accuse them of lacking empathy.
Lack of empathy might be more closely linked to “prioritising oneself” rather than being blunt.

There was a poster on here literally called Bluntness. I found her thoroughly unpleasant but she had fangirls on here.

Ironically, your post is rather blunt. I don't think the two are mutually exclusive. People can have empathy and be blunt. Sometimes it's better to be straight to the point rather than the point being lost in a lot of fluff. I prefer people to be blunt with me.

I’ve never called myself blunt, nor been called it but I’m not particularly fussed about developing empathy. I’ve got enough on dealing with my own emotions without getting involved with other people’s.

I am blunt, straight to the point. But I'm not rude or unkind and I don't "say it how it is". I have empathy and can judge when is the time to be straight to the point and it's not

I think you’re spot on 👌

I'm naturally very blunt but I'm aware that its not necessarily a positive attribute and I spend an awful lot of bandwidth honing my emails to be less blunt and more polite.

When people boast about their "bluntness", they're just cocks!

It is but the person is not necessarily meaning to be horrible. DM just says whatever is in her head. She says it and then it is gone. For example, she walked into my house on my birthday and told me the place was a tip as she walked through the door. I was upset. In my view it was clean and fairly tidy.

She is a decent person but unbelievably irritating and almost certainly neurodivergent (I definitely am) and due to that is very impulsive and very lacking in understanding certain things.

I'm very empathetic, but I can also be very blunt.

I will absolutely empathise with people and spend time making them feel better, help them figure things out etc. But I have a very low tolerance for people that wallow for no good reason. I'm not talking about people who can't get out of a situation etc but if you're constantly taking up my time and emotion whilst doing absolutely nothing to help yourself I am going to tell you to stop being a wet lettuce and grow a pair after a certain amount of time.

I think bluntness absolutely has its time and place.

I get called blunt a lot but it’s cultural. I see it as more assertive, I don’t dress things up particularly. I’m also highly empathetic and consider various points of view before reaching my own conclusion. I have also seen how some people are just rude but excuse it by saying they’re just blunt.

Honesty without tact is cruelty.

Yes. Empathy is a skill set honed over time, with practice, accountability and introspection. Narcissistic, egotistical or socially underdeveloped people, by definition, do not put time and effort into things they don't value like others feelings.

This x 10000

I've had 2 past bosses who would definitely be described as blunt. They were very "British" (I'm not btw) - cold exterior but warm underneath. I loved them! They also had a wicked sense of humour once you got to know them. I'd take a good honest, blunt person over anyone who dresses up words to make themselves look good any day.