Page 8 | Partner on holiday with a female friend!

Daisymay1000 · 2026-06-02T10:43:40+00:00

I need to ask peoples honest opinions. my partner went away on Sunday “with the boys” I wished him off well, hope he has a lovely time etc. been FaceTiming me, sending me pics etc. then yesterday a female friend may be flying over. I said I wasn’t very comfortable with this especially as she would be staying in the same apartment. He said he wasn’t sure if she even was yet she just said she may do. I looked on her story on instagram and she was already there, had been the whole time! Tagging him in pics etc. Iv broke up with him as the lies and the disrespect for me are too much. Am I being unreasonable or over reacting? He said I was and it’s just a friend and I’m controlling. But for me I can’t imagine he would ever allow me on holiday with a male staying in the same apartment?! There’s 3 men and her.

catlover123456789 · 03/06/2026 18:01

It's not the going on holiday, it's the lies.

Teenmumgoingcrazy · 03/06/2026 17:59

If there’s nothing to hide why lie about it? There’s your answer

Northermcharn · 03/06/2026 17:59

No no no no no no no it's all wrong. Dump the loser. Pronto. You're worth more and YANBU obviously.

WTAFIsWrongWithPeople · 03/06/2026 17:11

As per my other post. In your other posts you had a LDR that ended in Sept 2025 and and other relationship that ended in Nov 2025. That’s 6 months to now. So however long you’ve known this knobhead is not long enough to be living with you and certainly not your child.

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Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 17:03

WTAFIsWrongWithPeople · 03/06/2026 16:44

How the fuck are you living with him when you’ve known him 5 minutes?!

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known him 5 minutes? Where are you getting that from?

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WTAFIsWrongWithPeople · 03/06/2026 16:46

WTAFIsWrongWithPeople · 03/06/2026 11:42

Kindly, OP, you were in a LDR in Sept 2025 (8 months ago) and were jealous of your partner seeing his son and his ex every day. In November a new boyfriend got kicked to the kerb for appalling behaviour. So I don’t know how long this bloke has been around but certainly not long enough to be any sort of partner, and he is also behaving badly towards you.

It seems you aren’t very good at picking men. Maybe take some time out and focus on something else for a bit and set your sights a bit higher? I’m not sure if you have kids or not but please prioritise them rather than cock for a while.

And for the love of chocolate, please get some bulletproof contraception.

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WTAFIsWrongWithPeople · 03/06/2026 16:44

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:33

Because I still have to get all of his things out my home as we live together?

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How the fuck are you living with him when you’ve known him 5 minutes?!

Miyagi99 · 03/06/2026 16:38

InWithPeaceOutWithStress · 02/06/2026 14:09

Why wasn’t OP invited? If I had a holiday with a mixed sex group of friends, my partner would be invited.

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Mine wouldn’t be, he has his own group of mixed friends, some of our friends cross over, some of them have never met each other.

AOBMGB · 03/06/2026 16:38

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:34

So do you feel it’s appropriate and would you be comfortable a woman doing that with your partner knowing you are already arguing over her behavior and being there? Just curious. Making sure she films the hand to let me know it’s him

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You need to stop viewing her stories as it sounds like she’s getting satisfaction knowing you're watching them with her all over your partner 😫

shhblackbag · 03/06/2026 16:36

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:34

So do you feel it’s appropriate and would you be comfortable a woman doing that with your partner knowing you are already arguing over her behavior and being there? Just curious. Making sure she films the hand to let me know it’s him

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You need to reframe this now, though. If he's your ex, which you said upthread, he's not your partner, and what he does is whatever. Just be done and stay done. He's a liar.

shhblackbag · 03/06/2026 16:32

Why did he lie? That would be my issue. Unacceptable. I'd have ended it, too.

Miyagi99 · 03/06/2026 16:27

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 10:00

Woke up this morning and on her story is her on my now exs quad bike, holding him with her vagina literally rubbing all against his back whilst the other lads had their own. Please tell me anyone that would be fine with this!!!😡😡😡😡😡😡

Why is she rubbing her vagina on his back during a bike ride, sounds very unsafe.

CluelessAboutBiology · 03/06/2026 16:18

Haven’t RTFT but @Daisymay1000 is the house rented/owned in joint names or just yours?

Im sure PPs have mentioned that if the property is on your sole name you can change the locks so although you’re keeping his belongings safe and not throwing them out, he can’t get back in without your consent.

Again, haven’t RTFT but when he sends these messages begging you not to end it, are you replying to them?

How long were you together?

Malasana · 03/06/2026 16:04

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:29

Absolutely not. I still all his things obviously so will have to see him to give those back now iv kicked him out but no chance in fucking hell I’d take him back. The sheer audacity of this whole situation whilst begging me back is crazy. Even told me she had gone home this morning then I find out she’s still there AGAIN.

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And then in a later post you refer to him as your partner. 🤷🏻‍♀️

LarksAscending · 03/06/2026 16:03

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:29

Absolutely not. I still all his things obviously so will have to see him to give those back now iv kicked him out but no chance in fucking hell I’d take him back. The sheer audacity of this whole situation whilst begging me back is crazy. Even told me she had gone home this morning then I find out she’s still there AGAIN.

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OK this is really outrageous. A second lie about it is beyond the line tbh. Forget if men and women can be friends, he’s disrespecting you and treating you like you’re thick by lying again.

Pack his things and give him a time and date to collect it.

MyMilchick · 03/06/2026 16:00

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:29

Absolutely not. I still all his things obviously so will have to see him to give those back now iv kicked him out but no chance in fucking hell I’d take him back. The sheer audacity of this whole situation whilst begging me back is crazy. Even told me she had gone home this morning then I find out she’s still there AGAIN.

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Does he not know that she's posting pictures on social media?

worldshottestmom · 03/06/2026 15:55

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 10:00

Woke up this morning and on her story is her on my now exs quad bike, holding him with her vagina literally rubbing all against his back whilst the other lads had their own. Please tell me anyone that would be fine with this!!!😡😡😡😡😡😡

Literally block him and throw all his stuff out right now if he lives with you. Or better yet burn it. What you tolerate is what will continue. Don't let him relish in making you jealous, he clearly doesn't have strong feelings for you and you deserve better.

Feeeeesh · 03/06/2026 15:52

You seem to be blaming her a lot but not him. Is he unable to say “No thank you, I’d rather you don’t clamp onto my back with your vagina”?

Worktillate · 03/06/2026 15:43

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:33

Because I still have to get all of his things out my home as we live together?

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Actually you don't - if it's your home just put them outside and be done with it all.

However, based on your prior threads, maybe take a little time away from the dating scene, especially if you're living with this guy after your experiences towards the end of last year.

Take some time for yourself and come back stronger, knowing your worth and avoiding these dickheads

Malasana · 03/06/2026 15:39

@Daisymay1000 Then for the sake of your sanity it may be advisable to message him to tell him on return from his holiday to text you with a couple of times he’s available to collect his stuff and you’ll tell him when it’s convenient. Maybe start packing his stuff so it’s a smoother process and he can be in and out quickly.
Until then, I’d advise you block them both on all social media so you aren’t even seeing what they’re doing.

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Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:34

Lmnop22 · 03/06/2026 14:40

Is it her rubbing her vagina all over your partner or is it just her sharing a quad bike with him?

I am not saying it’s OK to lie about her not being there — it’s not. It’s also the right reaction to dump him.

BUT I do think that men and women can share spaces (and quad bikes!) without fucking each other so without the lies this would be an extreme reaction

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So do you feel it’s appropriate and would you be comfortable a woman doing that with your partner knowing you are already arguing over her behavior and being there? Just curious. Making sure she films the hand to let me know it’s him

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Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:33

Malasana · 03/06/2026 15:30

But why are you entertaining his begging when you can see he has nothing but contempt for you?
Are you considering a reconciliation?
I don’t understand why you don’t block him and move on thanking your lucky stars you found out reasonably early that he’s a liar.

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Because I still have to get all of his things out my home as we live together?

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Malasana · 03/06/2026 15:30

Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:27

like I stated. Not whilst begging me back

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But why are you entertaining his begging when you can see he has nothing but contempt for you?
Are you considering a reconciliation?
I don’t understand why you don’t block him and move on thanking your lucky stars you found out reasonably early that he’s a liar.

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Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:29

Malasana · 03/06/2026 11:28

I feel like you’re going to get back together from this post. Are you considering it?

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Absolutely not. I still all his things obviously so will have to see him to give those back now iv kicked him out but no chance in fucking hell I’d take him back. The sheer audacity of this whole situation whilst begging me back is crazy. Even told me she had gone home this morning then I find out she’s still there AGAIN.

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Daisymay1000 · 03/06/2026 15:27

JustMyView13 · 03/06/2026 11:27

In his defence, you dumped him. He is free to share quad bikes, dinner and a bed with whoever he would like. He doesn’t need your permission.

like I stated. Not whilst begging me back

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