Partner on holiday with a female friend!

This is a pretty unhinged reaction and clearly why he would keep things for you.
I went on holiday recently and shared a quad bike with my son, I can assure you my vagina wasn't rubbing on his back as you disgustingly put it.
Have you ever sat on a quad bike? Was your vagina rubbing on people?

The issue here isn’t the friendship. It’s the lie. He told OP the female friend may or may not come, when in fact she was already there.

I feel if he lies about this, he might lie about other stuff. Like the boys being there.

Do the other guys have girlfriends? Do they know?

I was the only female in my place of work for 8 years. I loved all the guys I worked with as friends and have been happily married for 18 years. My hubbie never got upset over our nights out or away as we really needed destress time with our job. Only folk in the same environment will understand so im sorry buut its just my experience.

We often went on nights away and mini breaks and I shared with the guys. They were very respectful and left me in the room alone to shower and get dressed every morning. We were stingy do it saved costs. Nothing else in it.

I would be mortified if I thought their other halves suspected I was some sort of slapper.

That was never the case.

One of the guys didnt tell his wife I was going, he said it wouldn't be worth the aggro and he wouldn't be able to go which was madness to me because I always sent cards and bought presents from us all for special occasions.

If she wanted to pinch your man Im sure she would have done it by now.

Just another perspective.

I agree except he lied about it. That’s when all trust was lost.

It's not her that's the issue.

The issue is that he lied and hid this from you.

And that’s literally all that needs to be said. 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

Did he by any chance meet her at boxing. Boxing camps are notorious for inter shagging.

But you broke up with him so they’re both single at this point?

I also think you put so much more emphasis on her doing this to him when he’s the one who owes you commitment and respect, not her! If this is going on and photos are being taken, he’s hardly batting her away is he!

The holiday woman's vag must be worn out, it's mentioned on this thread so often.

He has picked her over you. If this man/boy was in love with you, he would be begging for your forgiveness, and he would be on a flight home to fight for your relationship. He is still with her, there are pictures of them on a motorbike...he doesn't give a F.

I expect that in the next month, there will be a Facebook post that they're in a relationship.

It’s the lying about it…he said she might be coming out , and that it was only a possibility, while she was already there from the start, If he has to lie, that’s the problem.

Yeah, that's the main issue here 🙄

I;m 74, married 53 years. I've always had male friends cos I am qualified in what then was a "male" profession. I attended mainly male conferences, worked with almost entirely males, and got on well with them all. Once married I slept with no-one other than my DH and as far as I know none of the men I worked with slept with other women. As a result I kept those male friends all my life and know their wives and families well. I'm even godmother to some of their kids. My DH never once suspected me of "foul play" with these fellas and was quite right not to, nor did any of their wives suspect anything either - cos there was nothing to suspect.

My DD had a boyfriend from age 23 to 30, who proposed to her in the seventh year of the relationship. Three weeks later he was on a stag do overseas and on the lads return they met in the local pub with their wives/girlfriends. My DD's fiance was sitting apart from them all and when my DD said to the gang "What's Joe up to on his phone over there?" the lads said he'd been on it all the time they were away. She went up to him and over his shoulder saw him type "I love you so much" to a woman. No, he hadn't taken this woman abroad on the stag do but had been conducting a relationship with her before, during, and now after the trip. The noddy told my DD "it didn't mean anything". Needless to say, she ditched him there and then.

She went on to meet another man a couple of years later, is happily married to him and is expecting their first baby. He also had been cheated on by an ex-fiance. The DH isn't a high earner (my DD earns more than him), the previous fella now earns £250k a year) but he's by far the better pick in my book.

Get rid - and be more choosy in your partners in future. Trust is MAJOR.

And ignore those posters who say they wouldn't have an issue with what your fella did. They haven't been through it.

Reading this thread, I'm starting to wonder whether some posters are so determined to prove they're not jealous or controlling that they've completely overlooked the dishonesty.

The issue isn't that there was a woman on the trip. The issue is that the OP's partner appears to have known she was there and didn't tell her. I'd be far more concerned about the omission than the female friend.

This man knew he was doing something that his partner wouldn't be okay with and rather than talk it through with her, he lied and is still lying.

OP has also said that he wouldn't be happy if she went away with a male friend. So what's good for the goose and all that.

I assume you mean her vulva

I know plenty of women who’d be up for a 3-way. Openly brag they are up for group sex. Men just say every hole’s a goal.

probably explains why she’s so happy. In the slag’s mind she is “popular” with men.

You are absolutely right. Dump his sorry ass.

he lied to you.

and those gullible posters saying “don’t worry, it’s not only those 2, there are other men there, think again!

I’ve been in these set ups where the guy is asking the other guys to cover for him, whilst he smashes the other women like his life depends on it, whilst the other guys are down the pub, out, or even inside the flat but watching TV/playing Xbox loud.

the fact he’s lying about this woman proves he’s having sex with her/wants to.

It's not ok. Sorry x

Just pointing out what is quite common in these situations

She’s winding you up, don’t rise to it. Personally I’d tell my ex that if he wants you back he’s going to need to show you that he’s serious with you and pix like those she’s flaunting will not help him. She’s basically a Trollope and he’s lapping it up gst in between them so
she doesn’t get him then dump his arse after hes
come crawling back.

I'm an old lady, so you're getting a very biased opinion. I was engaged to a guy (late 1980's) who turned out to be incredibly dickish and cruel. When we were dating he had a few "great" girl "friends only." Turns out that he was banging every single one of them. Gross!!

He love bombed me to death, so of course I had on those rose-colored-glasses. He went on vacation with these "friends" as well. I knew about those trips and I trusted him. When we broke up, he said it was because of my insecurities, NOT his. He also said that he was grossed out by my cellulite. I was 5'4" and 110 lbs! I was so devastated and hurt, but with the help of my family and friends, and a lot of booze, I survived. (I gave up the booze a long time ago, but I kept my family and friends ;-) .

Lying by omission is still lying. Protect your precious heart and stay away from that man child.

BTW, in my lifetime, I’ve known both men and women who have been unfaithful to their partners. It's still very much a universal problem. Wishing you the best, you're gonna be okay! XOXO.

I'd block him on all socials and drop his stuff back at his parents house.

The lying would be the deal breaker for me and the fact he allowed her to get 'handsy' at any point. I have male friends, husband has female friends but we would never cross the lines like that.

Would OPs boyfriend be happy with her if she had lied about an all girls holiday and then shared a quad bike with said male friend? I highly doubt it.