Page 4 | Partner on holiday with a female friend!

Daisymay1000 · 2026-06-02T10:43:40+00:00

I need to ask peoples honest opinions. my partner went away on Sunday “with the boys” I wished him off well, hope he has a lovely time etc. been FaceTiming me, sending me pics etc. then yesterday a female friend may be flying over. I said I wasn’t very comfortable with this especially as she would be staying in the same apartment. He said he wasn’t sure if she even was yet she just said she may do. I looked on her story on instagram and she was already there, had been the whole time! Tagging him in pics etc. Iv broke up with him as the lies and the disrespect for me are too much. Am I being unreasonable or over reacting? He said I was and it’s just a friend and I’m controlling. But for me I can’t imagine he would ever allow me on holiday with a male staying in the same apartment?! There’s 3 men and her.

maxslice · 04/06/2026 01:18

Lmnop22 · 03/06/2026 14:40

Is it her rubbing her vagina all over your partner or is it just her sharing a quad bike with him?

I am not saying it’s OK to lie about her not being there — it’s not. It’s also the right reaction to dump him.

BUT I do think that men and women can share spaces (and quad bikes!) without fucking each other so without the lies this would be an extreme reaction

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I seriously doubt she was rubbing her vagina all over him. Maybe just holding onto his waist on the bike. You are being unreasonable about this and just creating trouble.

SleepingStandingUp · 04/06/2026 01:15

DrKartz · 04/06/2026 00:01

But I do. Everything theres a hard cock to suck im ready

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well remember what they say. no glove, no love

maxslice · 04/06/2026 01:13

Witchcraftandhokum · 02/06/2026 12:28

I think you're being unreasonable to even use the word 'allow'. Neither of you are children.

Exactly. “Allow?” “Let”? No no!!
Her being on holiday with the lads? Fine. I have several male friends I’ve known for decades. No one is a threat to anybody’s partner. Him lying about it? Even if he knows you’ll overreact? NOT fine. But I’m not sure it’s worth breaking up over.

Nettie1964 · 04/06/2026 01:11

I am the older generation and I would not be ok with this. He lied to you so he doesnt respect you. She is loving all this drama and he is basically giving her a stick to beat you with. Glad you dumped him, he will never have your back.

GreenMaracas · 04/06/2026 00:24

I don't see the issue here if she is part of the same friend group. Unless there is some other context that's making you feel insecure (is she an ex?)

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Daisymay1000 · 04/06/2026 00:20

StarlingTheConqueror · 03/06/2026 21:30

Actually there is a huge difference between two people on a quad that are physically close together or not. And yes it’s visible on a photo.
like wrapping your arms around the person.
Being close enough to have torso fully touching
I know my son would never do that with me but would do it with a gf.

Thankyouuuu. Exactly my point. And the fact she purposely felt the need to get his hand in the shot wen the original video was mostly the road n scenario.. finishing off with his hand which is tattooed like look who im with type vibes

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Daisymay1000 · 04/06/2026 00:19

CoralOP · 03/06/2026 21:25

Wtf wierd response. It was OP who was shouting about vaginas, i simply compared it to the exact same situation i had on my quad.
If you compared my picture on a quad and her boyfriends picture on a quad they would look exactly the same, one person behind the other.

OP sees that picture and shouts that she's rubbing her vagina on him, surely you know that's not a normal reaction?

I'm not missing the point at all, of course he shouldn't of lied but OP is seriously giving unhinged crazy woman vibes so you can kinda understand why he spends his time trying to hide things instead of just being in a healthy, reasonable relationship. Time for them both to move on.

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I’m crazy and unhinged… says the woman rubbing her vagina on her son 🙃

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Emilyannie · 04/06/2026 00:17

I don't think it's having a female friend that's an issue it's the fact that he lied to you.

Loloblue · 04/06/2026 00:13

You sound controlling tbh.

JenniferBooth · 04/06/2026 00:07

Daisymay1000 · 04/06/2026 00:05

Thankyou for your sweet reply. I totally agree, there’s certain boundaries that you should have in friendships with the opposite sex especially when in a relationship. If the friend was there prior you may not have as much as a right but if it’s after you got together it isn’t anything you signed up for so absolutely should be able to say no it’s not ok. Especially when tables turned there would be holy hell!

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Thats what a lot of posters on here have chosen to miss That he doesnt like it when its the other way around

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Daisymay1000 · 04/06/2026 00:05

Texasish · 03/06/2026 18:59

I'm an old lady, so you're getting a very biased opinion. I was engaged to a guy (late 1980's) who turned out to be incredibly dickish and cruel. When we were dating he had a few "great" girl "friends only." Turns out that he was banging every single one of them. Gross!!

He love bombed me to death, so of course I had on those rose-colored-glasses. He went on vacation with these "friends" as well. I knew about those trips and I trusted him. When we broke up, he said it was because of my insecurities, NOT his. He also said that he was grossed out by my cellulite. I was 5'4" and 110 lbs! I was so devastated and hurt, but with the help of my family and friends, and a lot of booze, I survived. (I gave up the booze a long time ago, but I kept my family and friends ;-) .

Lying by omission is still lying. Protect your precious heart and stay away from that man child.

BTW, in my lifetime, I’ve known both men and women who have been unfaithful to their partners. It's still very much a universal problem. Wishing you the best, you're gonna be okay! XOXO.

Thankyou for your sweet reply. I totally agree, there’s certain boundaries that you should have in friendships with the opposite sex especially when in a relationship. If the friend was there prior you may not have as much as a right but if it’s after you got together it isn’t anything you signed up for so absolutely should be able to say no it’s not ok. Especially when tables turned there would be holy hell!

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DrKartz · 04/06/2026 00:01

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2026 23:54

and if you like having sex with your male firn3ss8so much, maybe that's something you should explore 121

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But I do. Everything theres a hard cock to suck im ready

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2026 23:54

DrKartz · 03/06/2026 22:28

I assume you dont get out much.

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and if you like having sex with your male firn3ss8so much, maybe that's something you should explore 121

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2026 23:53

DrKartz · 03/06/2026 22:28

I assume you dont get out much.

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or I just have morals? and my friends have morals? because of they suggested we had group sex every time we went on holiday, we wouldn't be friends any more.

JenniferBooth · 03/06/2026 23:10

Ive got to the bottom of page 5 and still nothing has been said about the fact that the OP said HE doesnt like it when its the other way around. One must wonder why this is being glossed over!

Ohdearnotthisagain · 03/06/2026 22:59

RoachFish · 02/06/2026 12:19

WTF!? So women and men in relationships who have friends who they like to spend time with of the opposite sex have no standards?

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Not if they lie about it

babyproblems · 03/06/2026 22:48

Bizarre that he didn’t tell you - IF she was only a friend.
Even more not ok if they are there alone!!!
I think run for the hills. X

Cooshawn · 03/06/2026 22:36

FlyingCatGirl · 02/06/2026 18:43

Oh calm down! I have never given a stuff about my partner having lads nights out and vice versa and at times we go out as couples. I've been with my partner and not even married so we are not insecure people in the slightest so don't be arrogant or think you have a superpower. But if you think the Instagram posts of the woman in over was fair then maybe you aren't so great towards your own partner. I also have make friends and I would never disrespect their wives, I'm not needy for their attention.

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I don't post on Instagram so no I wouldn't be posting photos on there. But the woman was posting normal photos of her and her friends at the beach which OP has gone hysterical over because a
she was half naked. At the beach. For fucks sake, was she supposed to wear a polo neck and a pair of slacks?

DrKartz · 03/06/2026 22:28

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2026 22:22

you doing it doesn't make it common. even if you go around shagging all your married friend en masse, the common denominator is you

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I assume you dont get out much.

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2026 22:27

just asked hubby if he minds if I go in holiday with 3 male friends.

he said "enjoy"
"but I might want to have sex with them all??"
"do you?"
"I can hardly say yes!"
"fair enough"
"well they might all want to have sex with me!"
"I wouldn't blame them"

🤣🤣

I feel like we're doing jealousy wrong 😆

SleepingStandingUp · 03/06/2026 22:22

DrKartz · 03/06/2026 19:07

Just pointing out what is quite common in these situations

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you doing it doesn't make it common. even if you go around shagging all your married friend en masse, the common denominator is you

APinkAndSpottyGiraffey · 03/06/2026 22:03

proseccoprincess612 · 03/06/2026 18:25

As a previous poster has said, If he had nothing to hide, but why has he lied about it? He must have felt a reason to be dishonest with you, and I don’t believe it’s because he thought he would get this reaction, as you’ve said you’re absolutely fine with it, just not fine with the lies. don’t let people tell you that you’re being unreasonable because I would feel the exact same!!
In fact, my ex partner actually went on holiday “on his own” to the same island as his estranged wife, dumped me the next day and reunited with her a couple of days later! And at the time, I wasn’t suspicious that he was going to do anything of the sort. Don’t let people tell you that your reaction is unjustified, you are allowed to feel as you do! 💛

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😂 My ex’s ‘good friend’ was a lesbian, a very argumentative, difficult personality typed lesbian…. Who I definitely wouldn’t get on with.

I came home early from a weekend away and found out she’d been sharing my bed with him! Funny that, she wasn’t gay anymore then!

Seasonofthesticks · 03/06/2026 21:59

I have a mixed friendship group, been friends with them since high school. I was invited on my friends stag do in Madeira recently which would have been just the ‘lads’ and me. I didn’t go due to childcare but I am a single woman and also have no desire to sleep with any of my male friends.

AMurderofMurderingCrows · 03/06/2026 21:49

CoralOP · 03/06/2026 21:25

Wtf wierd response. It was OP who was shouting about vaginas, i simply compared it to the exact same situation i had on my quad.
If you compared my picture on a quad and her boyfriends picture on a quad they would look exactly the same, one person behind the other.

OP sees that picture and shouts that she's rubbing her vagina on him, surely you know that's not a normal reaction?

I'm not missing the point at all, of course he shouldn't of lied but OP is seriously giving unhinged crazy woman vibes so you can kinda understand why he spends his time trying to hide things instead of just being in a healthy, reasonable relationship. Time for them both to move on.

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Nope, it's your response that's weird talking about your son and your vagina. You didn't need to bring up your experience but you did and you made it creepy.

Anyway, I don't want to derail the thread as you seem hellbent on your experience MUST be the same as the OPs ex quad bike ride. So, as you were...

bakebeans · 03/06/2026 21:45

aquitodavia · 02/06/2026 11:50

I disagree if she's a member of this friendship group. Men and women can be friends, would you honestly not be able to go on holiday in a mixed group? The dishonesty is an issue but perhaps he was concerned about this reaction? If it was the two of them together then that would be one thing but I don't really see an issue with a female friend joining a group of male friends, on the face of it.

yes You are correct so then why has he needed to lie about it if it’s all innocent