Partner on holiday with a female friend!

With a mixed sex friendship group we used to meet up. I guess it may have been easier to say he was away with the boys and if he had included a girl going would open the 'well I could come too then'? This would change the dynamics and just because one is a girl ot doesn't mean anything sexualmor to be worried about.

I understand though, especially when young, your mind works overtime and insecurities are so much more prevalent.

He should have told you, give him a chance to explain. Xx

I think it depends how she knows them? She doesn’t seem to be friends with the OP at all and clearly doesn’t feel bad about the situation to be posting him on a quad bike with her etc. I’d feel terrible if I was her and I’d be messaging saying nothing going on etc. to reassure her and certainly wouldn’t be posting things to stir even more. There doesn’t seem to be much respect for the partner, even if they have split there are still feelings involved etc.

If he respected you're relationship he wouldn't put it at risk by lying about this girl and accepting her behaviour... she sounds like a horror she is doing it deliberately... good on you for dumping his sad arse .

All my friends growing up were guys since I was in nursery, went on holiday with male friends I’ve had since school and am still friends with them in my late 40’s and now their partners, I don’t think it’s fair saying that. My male friends got me through one of the hardest times of my life when my few female friends weren’t there for me. I definitely wasn’t a pick me, I just found relationships with guys easier at that time

@Daisymay1000 OP what’s the latest? Any more stories on her IG?

He lied therefore nothing he says can be trusted.

Yh my ex hub said nothing goi g on with his “friend”. They are now married with a daughter! Luckily I found my new hubster.

And as Texasish says, please look after yourself - He’s no man to do that to you! I’m so glad you know your worth, in time he will regret his behaviour xx

I will always stand up and call out a bully, even if I’m the only one to do so! xx

You are welcome! XOXO. Yes, when the tables are turned, the other parties involved freak out & make you feel so crappy. Sad thing was, I trusted all the women involved as well. I was so naive and insecure.

Take care of your heart. I realize that you still love him, and I'm so sorry about your miscarriage. Children are sacred. Find a partner who is truthful, and one who will be a lifetime protector of you and your kids.

You're gonna be okay. Sending you light and love from across the ocean. XOXO

Exactly! But randomly saying this other woman is attractive makes me think its her 🫣

This is what I have been thinking, someone else suggested it is probably a man behind those comments - just far too nasty and calculated towards a total stranger who is just on here looking for advice, bizarre x

Her comments actually read as though she’s this other woman on holiday!!

No, I'm sorry, myself and others although maybe didn't agree with you, we understood. But you've just shown your true colours there. I'm thinking he got off lightly and now they are two singletons on holidays I would leave them to be free to do whatever they choose.

If you love your partner why would you want to cause them distress? Why would you want to hurt them? Be like saying I want to rob a bank but you know your partner wouldn’t want you too but do it anyway. You robber ends up in prison the partner on her own all because you ( the robber)wanted to rob a bank = lose lose situation.

Speak to HER …. ❤️

I think you are completely rational for this!!

I knew your boundaries, lied and now he is caught.
I just hope you stand by not getting back with him.

I believe people have their standards and boundaries. This is yours and he crossed it. You are well within your rights to make that clear to him. And he continues not to give fucks.. this would set me off completely...

I'd have dumped him too. I hate being lied to.

You should probably stop viewing her social media. Its just going to anger you.

So do you honestly believe that if your partner is going to have an issue with something then it shouldn't be done?

She sounds like some sort of groupie to me. Many years ago my ex who was police officer went to a stag do and all the lads ended back at our house drunk as skunks with their female colleague in tow. She was not particularly feminine, regarded herself as 'one of the lads' and I still have all the photos of her draped over all the men! Some women are just like that! Not the sort my ex would have found attractive but when the opportunity presents itself not all men can show restraint. Good riddance to bad rubbish OP you deserve better from a real man!

so whilst living together you believe he was sleepi5with another woman and you're not actually sure if he still is as he's very secretive but because it wasn't shoved in your face, you married him anyway?

I’m glad someone else thinks this posters comments are not ok, at least I know there are a few of us that are straight thinking on here! X