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AIBU to think some people on here are way too obsessed with not being seen as racist?

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BadWordlePlayer · 02/06/2026 08:49

I’m posting in AIBU because this has been niggling at me for a while with the tone of so many threads lately, but it's really blown up following the bodycam footage of the Henry Nowak case.

There seem to be loads of posts these days where people are basically showing off how not racist they are, or how much they hate racists or the 'far right', or jumping in to call something racist at the slightest thing. It feels performative, like they’re desperate to signal their virtue and make sure everyone knows they’re on the “right” side. I get that racism is bad, obviously, but it sometimes feels like it’s taken over to the point where common sense goes out the window.

Henry Nowak shows how dangerous this mindset is. This poor 18-year-old student was stabbed multiple times by Vickrum Digwa, who then lied to the police claiming Henry had racially abused him. The officers took that accusation at face value, handcuffed Henry while he was lying there bleeding out and saying he couldn’t breathe, and didn’t treat him as the victim urgently enough. He died in police custody essentially. The mindset of those officers sounds exactly like the over-the-top “must not be perceived as racist” attitude you see in some threads here. They sidelined a dying boy because of a racism claim (which turned out to be a complete lie). That’s not just sad — it’s dangerous.

This isn't a left wing / right wing post and I’m not saying racism doesn’t exist or that we shouldn’t call it out when it’s real. I also hate the phrase "virtue signalling", but I can't think of a better one than it. This constant virtue-signalling and knee-jerk reactions make situations like Henry’s more likely, not less. People (including police) become so paralysed by the fear of getting it wrong on race that they get it horrifically wrong on everything else.

Am I being unreasonable? Or has anyone else noticed this shift on MN and in general?

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Dweetfidilove · 02/06/2026 15:46

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:16

Yes and note how differently things are approached. In Scotland where I grew up there was a massive knife culture issue among the predominantly white population until quite recently .

The government tackled the issues using a more compassionate and effective health model. Overall they didn’t demonise white working class boys and the police were typically not overly brutal with them the way the Met are to Black youths.

We see a completely different and far more punitive treatment towards knife crime issues in London where it lies disproportionately within young Black males.

And if white males get the worst exam results it’s “aww the system is failing them”, if that were say black or Pakistani males there would be all this discussion about fatherless households and investigation into cultural issues which cause the lack of attainment.

There has always existed a pervasion of racism throughout the criminal justice system, and ethnic minority groups have always been portrayed as as more 'crime prone' than others; so the government has been resistant to treating knife crime in London as a public health matter.

Most people recognise that knife crime is not a racialised issue, but one predominantly based on socioeconomic issues. That applies in London as much as it does in the North East.

People are clamouring about two-tier policing and I'm happy they are now aware this issue.
Pretending it's an issue that sees white people being overpoliced, however, is what makes their argument ridiculous. There are no statistics that supports this at all.

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:41

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:28

I am just finishing his book as recommended by my brothers and it’s excellent even as it challenged my own views on things (we certainly are not completely politically aligned.) But I appreciate people who read extensively and have readily accessible and auditable sources to back all of their claims.

My post above was meant to reply to this. Quote fail lol

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:40

Exactly, it’s unfortunate some people just laugh at both statistics and qualitative research nowadays and instead go with whatever anecdotal evidence suits them.

They talk about a “two tier system” favouring Muslims, but when you try and tell them Black males are treated more harshly than white males, white females and black females for the same crime they will not hear it despite statistics consistently showing this is the case.

https://www.crimrxiv.com/pub/js8s1mt8/release/1

Same as when you talk about how a Black or South Asian person with the same qualifications and experience on a CV is less likely to get called for interview than even a foreign born white person they will disregard that too despite the body of research that proves this.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-46927417

Miriam Animashaun and Rawan Mohamed

Why your name matters in the search for a job

Why jobseekers with ethnic names change personal details on their CVs.

https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-46927417

LakieLady · 02/06/2026 15:34

Dweetfidilove · 02/06/2026 10:18

YABU! MN can be racist cesspit.

The racists here and racist and the non-racists are not.

Nothing has blown up here, except that some fuckers are hell-bent on turning Henry's murder into a political opportunity.
Something even his bereaved father has managed not to do.

My heart goes out to his family, and I hope people do not get distracted from what has really happened.

Digwa committed a violent murder.

The police service was absolutely woeful in handling the victim; because they are, as usual hideously reactive, instead of treating him with dignity and compassion.

I agree with this.

If someone tells you they've been stabbed, surely the first thing you do is check it out, ffs?

LakieLady · 02/06/2026 15:30

OneTealShaker · 02/06/2026 09:45

The silent majority won’t speak. Because of fear of being labelled racist by the rabid mob. The worrying thing is that their perfectly legitimate views are made out to be extremist. This is how race relations suffer. The left are causing this problem to become worse.

Farage is right about one thing. We don’t need to worry about him. We need to worry about what comes after him.

I don't think racism or xenophobia are necessarily left/right things. Some of the worst racists I know vote Labour (looking at you, MIL!), and some of the least racist are Tory voters.

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:28

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:24

Yes! Akala is brilliant and spot on as usual! .

So interestingly I have lived in Glasgow, Liverpool and London and worked with young people in all 3 places, so I’ve seen first hand the differences in how a working class Black or mixed race boy in say London is treated compared to a working class white boy from Liverpool or Glasgow.

eta: even when I worked in London I saw the differences in how white teen boys involved in crime were treated compared to black boys within the same borough.

I had a white mother tell me how shocked she was at how harsh the criminal justice system was to her (non-violent) mixed race child because she had (violent) white sons who had done far worse and not been treated as badly.

She said for the first time in her life she understood the extent of racism.

Edited

I am just finishing his book as recommended by my brothers and it’s excellent even as it challenged my own views on things (we certainly are not completely politically aligned.) But I appreciate people who read extensively and have readily accessible and auditable sources to back all of their claims.

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:26

Horch · 02/06/2026 15:12

Anti-colonialism as a mainstream concept in our public institutions is new. Twenty years ago, no one was talking about anti-colonialism as a euphemism for making things less white (i.e. decolonising the curriculum, decolonising farming etc)

How much impact is any of this “talk” having?

Locutus2000 · 02/06/2026 15:25

@OneTealShaker What are you talking about? The so-called “silent majority” is shouting from the rooftops at the moment. It hasn’t been as fashionable to be racist as it was in the days of Enoch Powell.

They shout so loudly, because they are trying to convince you they are the majority.

They aren't, and neither Restore nor Reform will ever form a government in this country. Sane people are the actual silent majority.

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:24

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:20

I was literally going to make the Glasgow point which the impressive Akala has made many many many times in his talks and his (brilliant book on Race and Class in the post empire period) in how the exact same drivers leading to the same outcomes in poor areas of Glasgow, London, Liverpool. When the discussion is young white working class boys their race / culture is irrelevant, when the discussion is black (and increasingly muslim) young working class boys, their race / culture explains everything.

And the point on school achievement is also true. I found the difference in media language when white working class boys underperform at school (“society is falling them”) vs. when black working class boys underperform (“their culture is to blame”)

Edited

Yes! Akala is brilliant and spot on as usual! .

So interestingly I have lived in Glasgow, Liverpool and London and worked with young people in all 3 places, so I’ve seen first hand the differences in how a working class Black or mixed race boy in say London is treated compared to a working class white boy from Liverpool or Glasgow.

eta: even when I worked in London I saw the differences in how white teen boys involved in crime were treated compared to black boys within the same borough.

I had a white mother tell me how shocked she was at how harsh the criminal justice system was to her (non-violent) mixed race child because she had (violent) white sons who had done far worse and not been treated as badly.

She said for the first time in her life she understood the extent of racism.

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:21

Twisterlollies · 02/06/2026 15:08

Can you give me a case where a white perpetrator has done something clearly racist and there has been no coverage or condemnation?

When the racist white reform support man raped that Sikh woman because he hated Muslims there was relatively little press and outrage about it.

I heard about it ages ago, I follow certain social media news accounts which make sure they spotlight things like this but outside my immediate social circle almost everyone I spoke to about it was unaware until the verdict was passed the other week.

FlyingApple · 02/06/2026 15:21

I honestly think (and hope) that they're bots.

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:20

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:16

Yes and note how differently things are approached. In Scotland where I grew up there was a massive knife culture issue among the predominantly white population until quite recently .

The government tackled the issues using a more compassionate and effective health model. Overall they didn’t demonise white working class boys and the police were typically not overly brutal with them the way the Met are to Black youths.

We see a completely different and far more punitive treatment towards knife crime issues in London where it lies disproportionately within young Black males.

And if white males get the worst exam results it’s “aww the system is failing them”, if that were say black or Pakistani males there would be all this discussion about fatherless households and investigation into cultural issues which cause the lack of attainment.

I was literally going to make the Glasgow point which the impressive Akala has made many many many times in his talks and his (brilliant book on Race and Class in the post empire period) in how the exact same drivers leading to the same outcomes in poor areas of Glasgow, London, Liverpool. When the discussion is young white working class boys their race / culture is irrelevant, when the discussion is black (and increasingly muslim) young working class boys, their race / culture explains everything.

And the point on school achievement is also true. I found the difference in media language when white working class boys underperform at school (“society is falling them”) vs. when black working class boys underperform (“their culture is to blame”)

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:16

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:06

But the issue is that any crime committed by any ethnic minority in Britain is automatically viewed as “race and culture related” and it’s never “race and culture related” when the perpetrator is white.

As is the claim that this example of police mistake must be due to the belief that only white people can be bigoted (which few believe.)

Yes and note how differently things are approached. In Scotland where I grew up there was a massive knife culture issue among the predominantly white population until quite recently .

The government tackled the issues using a more compassionate and effective health model. Overall they didn’t demonise white working class boys and the police were typically not overly brutal with them the way the Met are to Black youths.

We see a completely different and far more punitive treatment towards knife crime issues in London where it lies disproportionately within young Black males.

And if white males get the worst exam results it’s “aww the system is failing them”, if that were say black or Pakistani males there would be all this discussion about fatherless households and investigation into cultural issues which cause the lack of attainment.

Horch · 02/06/2026 15:12

JHound · 02/06/2026 14:50

Anti-colonialism thought has been a continued movement from the days of empire, moving between the political, to the legal, to the cultural,
to the societal. It’s certainly not a new thing.

I don’t think anybody even now is making an industry of policing what is in people’s heads. Well some people do but there are all kinds of people that think all kinds of things. Most people who make an “industry” of it are trying to combat the impact of said “thoughts” (and for the most part they’re ignored.)

Anti-colonialism as a mainstream concept in our public institutions is new. Twenty years ago, no one was talking about anti-colonialism as a euphemism for making things less white (i.e. decolonising the curriculum, decolonising farming etc)

SleeplessInWherever · 02/06/2026 15:10

I don’t claim to not be racist because it’s fashionable, or “performative.”

I claim to not be racist, because I’m not.

MaturingCheeseball · 02/06/2026 15:10

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:00

Who said it works one way? I also think your claims on French banlieues are inaccurate.

Absolutely not. Gold star for shoehorning in “banlieues” in the supposition or hope I didn’t know it…

Bunnyofhope · 02/06/2026 15:09

LoremIpsumCici · 02/06/2026 15:01

It’s despicable for you OP to claim that his death was caused by some nebulous anti-racists virtue signalling phenomenon.

The person responsible for the killing of Harry Nowak was Vikram Digwa. The fact the police believed Digwa and handcuffed Nowak was part of Digwa’s cruelty.

Even if the police had not believed Digwa, it is unlikely Nowak could have been saved as he died within minutes of the police arriving.

It is possible that Digwa was racist towards the Polish and targeted Nowak as a result.

Edited

The murderer was responsible for Henry's death. The murderer (and his hateful family because of their lies) and the police, were responsible for the manner of his death, lying face down on the pavement, handcuffed and without kindness of any sort.
No one blames the police for Henry's death. I blame the police for the manner of his death. It's a lesser evil, but it's still a disgrace.

Twisterlollies · 02/06/2026 15:09

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:08

This.

OP’s post is way off.

I mean on this thread alone it didn’t take long for people to say things which would be considered racist 😆

Like what?

Twisterlollies · 02/06/2026 15:08

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:06

But the issue is that any crime committed by any ethnic minority in Britain is automatically viewed as “race and culture related” and it’s never “race and culture related” when the perpetrator is white.

As is the claim that this example of police mistake must be due to the belief that only white people can be bigoted (which few believe.)

Can you give me a case where a white perpetrator has done something clearly racist and there has been no coverage or condemnation?

Mydoreston · 02/06/2026 15:08

GoodkneeBadKnee · 02/06/2026 09:11

I think a lot of posters on here positively revel in saying racist stuff. It's a great time to be a racist. Very en vogue, and actively encouraged.

This.

OP’s post is way off.

I mean on this thread alone it didn’t take long for people to say things which would be considered racist 😆

LoremIpsumCici · 02/06/2026 15:08

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:06

But the issue is that any crime committed by any ethnic minority in Britain is automatically viewed as “race and culture related” and it’s never “race and culture related” when the perpetrator is white.

As is the claim that this example of police mistake must be due to the belief that only white people can be bigoted (which few believe.)

This^
It is so tiresome.

Twisterlollies · 02/06/2026 15:07

Dweetfidilove · 02/06/2026 15:01

Are you saying it's okay to be racist, because we all judge each other anyway?

Do we? Do you?

JaneFondue · 02/06/2026 15:06

Twisterlollies · 02/06/2026 15:00

I think it benefits everyone that policing is fair and, when necessary, confronts uncomfortable truths. ‘Community cohesion’ should never come before individual victims. We’ve learned the hard way that leaving things to simmer, and affording certain groups more lenience because of their characteristics, is NEVER the best course of action.

I agree. Police need to be better trained and not have knee- jerk reactions. I have said this on another thread, but racism- if any- can be dealt with later once everyone is unhurt. In this case, the racism allegation was false. The police seem to have rushed in because Dickwa's brother called them.

I read that the policeman involved got a medal for bravery, which makes it even more tragic all round.

JHound · 02/06/2026 15:06

Twisterlollies · 02/06/2026 15:02

It’s definitely part of a wider discussion, the cancel culture and smearing of anybody who had valid concerns about race or culture related crime in the UK lead to a mindset where ONLY white Brits could be racist or bigoted in any way. Which in turn was responded to by this sort of policing.

But the issue is that any crime committed by any ethnic minority in Britain is automatically viewed as “race and culture related” and it’s never “race and culture related” when the perpetrator is white.

As is the claim that this example of police mistake must be due to the belief that only white people can be bigoted (which few believe.)

LoremIpsumCici · 02/06/2026 15:06

Sskka · 02/06/2026 10:25

@Dweetfidilove “The police service was absolutely woeful in handling the victim; because they are, as usual hideously reactive, instead of treating him with dignity and compassion.”

How’s that come about though? That’s the bigger scandal here. It’s not just about a couple of coppers being stupid.

How’s that come about? The police have never been very good to victims not even when they were just Peelers.

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