AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

She’s clearly doing it on purpose now

I think that's a body type thing in all honesty. It will suit some people better than others. But I agree the roses are rather romantic for a wedding.

I don't think anyone could look at either of those and say you looked like you were trying to be the bride or that you hadn't made an effort OP.

I prefer the roses of the two. Personally I don’t really like the shirred waist on the butterfly one. If you feel great in either one, feel you can accessorise well, move, dance, enjoy the day etc etc, then go for it.

I think they are both nice Op. I think if you have nice shoes, nice (but plain) jewellery and your hair is well done they could both be very nice. They are both sufficiently patterned imo.

Why do they have to be white. A million other colours you can choose and you want white with print. Just wear what you want be don't come back asking why the bride was cold to you

Id be more concerned of a toddler getting a white dress dirty tbh

This "no white" rule some of you cite is barking mad. It originally derived from not upstaging the bride by wearing a long white gown, but has morphed into any item of clothing with any white on at all being a harbinger of doom. We aren't in China, colours have little significance (apart from MoG dressed head to toe in black....)
And who cares what a tiny girl is wearing?
"Is she a flower girl?"
"No, she just loves this dress"
"Oh right, fair enough"

@StartingToday010626 thanks for that. Another site for me to spend money on 😬😂
some beautiful dresses.

I think it's a gorgeous dress, whilst appreciating it's not your actual dress.

Two suggestions, as others have said:

1. keep your daughter out of white because it's a bit flower girl like
2. run your choice past your brother. He'll likely say it's fine/why are you even asking - but it will put your mind at rest.

OP's dress is much nicer (though I'm not sure about mother and daughter white + white combo). The first one is extremely tight/'look at me') and the second one few figure types can carry off.

I am such a dinosaur that I would say Victoria started it, and then only those of wealth could afford white considering the difficulties of laundering. It reqlly only appears to be post second world war that white wedding dresses became standard for the masses.

I got married in gold.

Given you like your family, I don't understand why you would potentially risk upsetting you future SIL by wearing what many consider to be a controversial option for a dress to the wedding. If there is a chance the bride wouldn't like it, I wouldn't risk it.

If you don't think she would have an issue with it, why not check with her in advance? Then you can know for sure if shes ok, and wear it with confidence, or have plenty of time to find another option. Completely appreciate, around half of respondents here have said its fine, but is that a 50/50 chance of upsetting her? Not a risk I would take on a close family members wedding.

I personally wouldn't have had an issue with a dress like that at my wedding, but also wouldn't choose one to wear at someone elses. I would stay well away from white as a base colour. As you aren't trying to do anything untoward, just ask and be sure it isn't a problem?

That's true. The problem here, though, is op has said this is "representative" of the ratio of white.

It doesn't look bridal in style though, so I think she's fine.

Agreed. It was Queen Victoria's era that it started and she's pretty long in the tooth these days.

Loubissous says it better than me!

When I got married, I had a colour theme and my sisters were bridesmaids. I didn't have flowergirls but there were nieces, nephews, friend's children in attendance. Personally I would not care a jot what the kids wore. As it turns out, two girls under 10 wore white dresses. I was perfectly happy about it. My SIL also wore a white dress, shift type dress. I wasn't asked but I had no problems with it. I did get asked about it by another guest. I think double checking with the bride would be a good idea. Just let her know you are fine if she says no but these were the dresses you were thinking of. I was much more focused on wanting everyone to have a good day than what anyone was wearing.

Lovely! I don’t think you’ll be mistaken for the bride. Relax and enjoy the day

No it hasn't. Not the pearl clutching about even a hint of white. Wearing all white, yes. Wearing a bridal style dress, yes. Fainting over a hint of white or off white in the background of a patterned dress is very much a MN modern phenomenon.

OP: DD doesn't like pink or red.
PPs: Put her in this pink dress.
🙄

Something like this for your little girl
www.next.co.uk/style/su753445/w56055

It’s isn’t white , it’s a multi coloured print.
Summer dresses with a print almost always have a pale background colour. This is getting silly now. No white means nothing that looks like a wedding dress, it doesn’t mean that you can’t wear a pale floral, or white trousers, or (in my MiL’s case) a cream suit .
So no long white dresses, and no all black outfits, anything else is fine !

Nothing. People are being extremely weird on here. Small girls at weddings generally wear a small girl's idea of a party dress. The majority of these also look like 'flower girl' dresses, because the brief is identical. It would only be awkward if she carried a bouquet or a basket of petals - which she won't be, presumably.

I think 'wedding formal' is intended to mean something like a TV presenter (not children's or outdoor programming!) Possibly more fitted than the item in your OP, but much depends on the fabric and how it fits on your body.

If the bride's young and lives on Instagram, she may mean evening dress - even then, I sure as hell wouldn't suggest a skin-tight gown with a huge, bold motif: that genuinely is trying to steal the limelight. Since we're Brits not Americans, it's always safer to dress a little down when unsure.