AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

I love their clothing too and they do gorgeous dresses. I think this one is very nice for a wedding

100% agree.
Unless it's some kind of society wedding where the photos are ending up in the gossip columns, 'glamour' is OTT. The colour way and style are fine for ordinary mortals.

I would not put a small girl in a white dress though, as that screams that you think she should have been a flower girl and are pissed off that she isn't.

It’s very frumpy and plain op. Surely as the sister you would want to wear something nicer? Almost every online store has an occasion category. Have you looked on there?

You might. If I saw someone in the dress OP posted I would assume they were on the way to an event or a celebration of some kind.

@brillfrill i liked mini Mayoral for dd when she was wee this blue one is pretty and there are flouncy dresses too if she’d like that!

It’s definitely not suitable for a formal wear dress code, it’s very casual and not that nice. Sorry.

I think that is too long for a daytime wedding actually.

Yours will be fine OP in terms of colour I think: it's a bold print not a white/cream dress, and it isn't a typical bridal length.

I would strongly suggest you don't put your DD in white: it will look like you felt she ought to have been a flower girl and are just going ahead with your plan regardless.

There are lots and lots of pretty dresses and endless choices for little girls: treat her to something new.

The first one is awful but the second one is lovely.

It’s not bridal but you still shouldn’t wear it. That base colour will stand out a mile in photos.

Also, you dressing your daughter in white makes it sound like you’re trying to edge her in as a flower girl.

There’s loads of colours you could wear so don’t wear white/cream.

Of course the invite doesn’t need to say no
white for guests to not wear white. It’s basic etiquette.

Just as people where dark colours to a funeral, unless told otherwise, everyone knows you do not wear white to a wedding.

Both these dresses would be perfect for any wedding here in Ireland - Irish weddings tend to be very dressy, even more so if it was a family wedding

If you think bright orange looks like white, you need a trip to an optician.

They are perfectly normal dresses that people would wear to a wedding. How are they ‘not more wedding guest like’? If I saw someone walking down the road in one of those dresses I’d think they were going somewhere like a wedding, graduation or something along those lines. If I saw somebody in the dress the OP has posted I’d think that they looked nice but that they were going about their daily business.

If you saw someone doing the school run in the op’s dress you would think ‘Sandra looks lovely today’ and if you saw somebody doing the school run in one of those two dresses you would think ‘I wonder where Sandra is going today’.

This is one of the situation where you should really ask the bride instead of assuming.

If you want sensible opinions on your dress for the wedding, just post the actual dress for goodness sake! It’s not like anyone is going to file the dress away in their memory and if they see someone wear it at a wedding in a couple of months time think that you must be the person who posted this thread! Presumably the dress is coming from a manufacturer and not being made bespoke one of a kind for you?

Also, a four year-old is not a toddler! I’m sure you can find something else to dress her in other than white.

I'm baffled by the posters saying it looks like work wear or pub wear, and not special enough for a wedding. I've obviously been to very different weddings, and it would be absolutely fine! In fact if someone turned up to my office wearing it, I'm sure everyone would ask if they were on their way to a wedding 😁

Agree with this completely.

You can do so much better than that dress.

And if your DD has no role, why are you dressing her in white? I assumed she is a flower girl, etc when you said she’s dressed in white.

An over priced jersey maxi dress with a bold print. Definitely not more wedding guest like

@brillfrill So much depends on your family and what type of wedding this will be. In my (long) experience of attending weddings, the kind of dresses posted by @StartingToday010626 would have been thought ridiculous and too try-hard for a guest to wear.
Ultimately though what you wear is entirely up to you and what you feel comfortable enough in. You know not to wear a dress that looks like a wedding dress and that's what matters.

It's got lots of colour so that will be fine. However I little girl in white will look like a flower girl. Definitely no

I think the orange dress is lovely and fine for a wedding. I know you’re not actually wearing it. I have a white dress with a bright blue pattern which I have worn to weddings more than once. The first time I wore it the mother of the groom was wearing the same dress with the red colour way. Just check with the couple about you and DD’s dress if you are concerned.

Next, M&S, John Lewis all do nice dresses for girls. We bought a lovely cornflower blue one for 4 yr old DD a couple of years ago from M&S.

It's such a "look at me, I am too cool for rules' attitude. It's usually other guests who completely roll their eyes, it's a bit tragic really
It really isn't. It's a perfectly normal understanding that no white means no completely white and to any sensible person doesn't extend to no white background at all.

Nobody would actually bat an eyelid at that dress because it's entirely inoffensive and if they did they would be the tragic ones. If anyone commented on it I'd be rolling my eyes at them not the wearer of the dress.

I think if everyone is in formal wedding dress, you'll feel very underdressed in that.

It does feel like it makes more of a statement for you both to be dressed in white, too. Realistically the rule was always to stop it looking like you wanted to be the bride, or prevent any mistakes; but it is commonly interpreted as "no white". You never know who is going to be there, and whether they'll find that comment-worthy. Both of you being in white does lean towards "bridal party" quite strongly.

Literally this! It’s so ridiculous there’s SO many other colours ffs 🙄