AIBU to wear a white print dress to my brother’s wedding & dressing my DD in white too?

Well done OP for making a sensible choice and ditching the white dress on this thread.

Ditch the white background dresses. There’s loads of lovely floral print wedding guest dresses, on Vinted for your budget, that don’t have a white background. These 2 are more dressy and appropriate for a wedding compared to the original dress though, which is quite casual

All white/mainly white - yes, @lovescats3 - but one with an all-over floral pattern, like the one the OP posted, doesn’t look at all bridal to me, and should be fine, imo.

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Yes guests don't wear white to a wedding, it's well known, it steals the brides thunder

Do people honestly care what a little girl of 4 wears to a wedding? When my brother got married my sisters little kid turned up in an actual bridesmaids dress and everyone said she looked cute. Nobody cared at all. It didn’t mean she was in bridal party wedding photos, wasn’t on the top table- she was just with her parents. It was like playing dress up. People need to chill. My dd is getting married soon. A couple of family members have asked if their dd can wear a fancy frock and the answer was a big yes.
As for your dress op- a chiffon floaty number with nice accessories will be perfect but if you are still unsure ask your brother.
Weddings should be a joyous occasion. They shouldn’t cause this much angst.

A floral pattern on a white background is very different to an all-white dress, though, @NewGoldFox.

Zara looks incredibly like her mum but with nicer hair.

Bit cringe you and your daughter wearing white.

In your opinion

Rudely expressed.

Neither, they look cheap and tacky!

The one with butterflies, seriously??

I can't find anything written at the time to suggest she was. Only in recent retrospectively written pieces. She was wearing grey, not white. And if you look at the photos from the wedding itself, there are loads of people wearing white/off white dresses.

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But earlier posters insisted no white for guests has been the rule ever since Queen Victoria got married in white. So I assumed royal weddings were felt to be relevant.

Yes, I was making general points. If everyone applied the "Be kind and considerate" mantra then this would remain the complete non-issue it should be. Guests would continue to not wear completely white. Brides wouldn't be miffed about a white background patterned dress. And nobody would be stressing about any of it or feeling the need to ask the internet about whether they were about to hypothetically upset a bridezilla.

So much simpler and more pleasant for everyone.

Who on this thread is the bride? OP is prospective SIL.

Obviously you want the day to be enjoyable for guests too, but like a birthday party, a wedding day is ultimately about the person/people being celebrated, and what they want, not the guests.

For instance, I didn't have alcohol at my wedding. Many guests might have preferred it or even wanted to bring their own, but because we didn't want it there, they respected that and accepted it, and didn't bring alcohol anyway. Easy! Just like not wearing a notably white dress.

why was my message posted repeatedly? Oh my 🙈

sorry @gindrop

Is OP attending a royal wedding?

British Royal weddings tend to have bridesmaids dressed in white, the Kate / William wedding had Pippa dressed in what many people would call a wedding dress… but those are customs of a particular part of British society.

Anyhow, a certain amount of white is fine as long as the outfits isn’t bridal and is not primarily white IMO. But the bride does seem to get lost in that picture…

and the abundance of other people in white as well as the general colour composition is contributing to that.

Is OP attending a royal wedding?

British Royal weddings tend to have bridesmaids dressed in white, the Kate / William wedding had Pippa dressed in what many people would call a wedding dress… but those are customs of a particular part of British society.

Anyhow, a certain amount of white is fine as long as the outfits isn’t bridal and is not primarily white IMO. But the bride does seem to get lost in that picture…

and the abundance of other people in white as well as the general colour composition is contributing to that.

Is OP attending a royal wedding?

British Royal weddings tend to have bridesmaids dressed in white, the Kate / William wedding had Pippa dressed in what many people would call a wedding dress… but those are customs of a particular part of British society.

Anyhow, a certain amount of white is fine as long as the outfits isn’t bridal and is not primarily white IMO. But the bride does seem to get lost in that picture…

and the abundance of other people in white as well as the general colour composition is contributing to that.

Is OP attending a royal wedding?

British Royal weddings tend to have bridesmaids dressed in white, the Kate / William wedding had Pippa dressed in what many people would call a wedding dress… but those are customs of a particular part of British society.

Anyhow, a certain amount of white is fine as long as the outfits isn’t bridal and is not primarily white IMO. But the bride does seem to get lost in that picture…

and the abundance of other people in white as well as the general colour composition is contributing to that.

Is OP attending a royal wedding?

British Royal weddings tend to have bridesmaids dressed in white, the Kate / William wedding had Pippa dressed in what many people would call a wedding dress as maid of honour… but those are customs of a particular part of British society.

Anyhow, a certain amount of white is fine as long as the outfits isn’t bridal and is not primarily white IMO. But the bride does seem to get lost in that picture…

and the abundance of other people in white as well as the general colour composition is contributing to that.

I think that's backwards. We made lots of decisions that were based on making the day easy and enjoyable for our guests. Just part of being a good host.

I still think any bride who is genuinely impacted in any way whatsoever by someone wearing a dress with a floral pattern on a white background has lost her mind. And the idea we should be pandering to the hypothetical upset is mad.

It's no hardship to wear a different colour if you want to but it's also no hardship to chill out about it and realise it doesn't matter in the least.