Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

My DH is in charge of all socks and underwear washing in our house. I wash everything else.

Hear hear…..

No, I have never packed for DH in nearly 40 years, neither have I made his packed lunches.

On the other hand, we have very active holidays, usually doing a particular sport and he will organise all the equipment and safety gear for both of us.

For those saying they've never done their partner's laundry, is it not more efficient to share a load? Like all the dark trousers or all the towels? Here it is usually me who loads the machine and pegs it out, DH usually does the ironing

Wow he's really done a number on you if he's made you believe that not running round wiping his adult arse, means you 'hate him'.

Does this sort of coercive control extend to you having to do other things he's perfectly capable of, lest he accuse you of hating him?

Absolutely not. I wouldn't know what he wanted to bring for a start. And I also pack for myself and the kids, the least he can do is pack for himself.

It's completely fine if you want to pack for your husband, of course it is. But I am glad we are seeing a change and that this is not the expectation of something to be done otherwise you're not a good wife.

DH is a grown adult, and I have more than enough on my plate looking after all the other shit I have to, for people (and pets!) who are not grown adults and therefore do need help packing a bag or booking an appointment or buying someone else a present, I'm not going to be doing all that for him as well.

Absolutely not. His stuff, his responsibility. Can't even imagine suggesting it.

Well that is an exaggeration to make a ludicrous point isn't it ? with no real contribution, if you do everything for your husband because he is incapable then thats fine you do you, i would find a man unattractive if he was expecting me to sort clothes out for a holiday.

Never. I might ask him if he has remembered certain things, like medication etc. As he does me. That’s part of being a team and caring about each other. But no he can pack his own case.

No. It is literally unbelievable to me that anyone does this. Even DD has packed her own bag since she was around 10.

I’m a bit sceptical about all these 6 yo who pack their own bags, not going lie….

This is the problem a lot of parents have with their children.

They'll wash, iron and fold their clothes and leave them on the bed but the kid doesn't appreciate that and just stuffs them in the wardrobe or leaves them on the floor.

Can you not see that by ironing your DH's clothes, he doesn't appreciate the value of it, if he'll just 'wreck them'?

Catch yourself on.

The mockery of women who take care of their DH, by choice, is astounding!

On the other hand, the amount of women here who have no shame in taking care of their DH, by alleviating stress or just to show love through kindness, is heart warming.

If nothing else, I'm always learning here!

So no bag packing. So not really comparable.

What insults?

You have the option to say "sorry I'm busy" but the fact so many women on here are so outraged at the mere thought of it is pathetic to be honest. What's the point in being married if you can't even ask your spouse for help?

So your dh packs your knickers and tampons

I do it. My dh can but I have the time he doesn’t. I have 3-4 hours in the day ALL to myself whilst he’s at work. He knows perfectly fine how to do it and can, but if I can make his life easier I will. He does so much for me as well.

I never packed for my DH. I never did his washing or ironing either.

Yes, me.
My DH reduced his hours and WFH to facilitate my career as I was the high earner. I can't recall him ever packing a bag for me as that situation never arose but I'm sure he would have done if I'd asked. But he did a lot more than 50% of the housework and virtually all the school runs, after school activity drop offs etc for years.
Now the situation is reversed as I am retired and he is working long hours so I do most of the domestic stuff. I'm not going to spend the day enjoying my hobbies whilst he's out at work til 9pm today and then expect him to cook his own meal and put the washer on when he gets in. And that's not because I am a woman, it's because I am not a selfish arsehole.
I accept we're relatively unusual, but we're certainly not unique. DH was not the only Dad at the school gates even in our small village.

I'm a wife

@Russland So you're a trad wife?

If we’re going away as a family he puts out the stuff, I pack it with mine in one big bag while he get other stuff sorted (bikes, check the car tyres etc) we’re both capable of doing all the jobs but find it more efficient to split them by task type than by mine/his. I wouldn’t pack his stuff for a solo work trip!

I would hate to share a case

Yes I help. He's my DH? He works and provides for us.

Usually if he’s going somewhere, we’d be chatting about his trip away while he packs, and he might run his clothes choices by me. But he’s perfectly capable of doing it himself. I’d fold some for him if I’m just sitting there anyway, but he wouldn’t need me to.

I don’t even do my husbands laundry, never mind packing for him!

to be honest, it pisses me off enough that I pack for the kids (without his help) there’s no fucking way I could pack for him too!

He once asked me on the Gatwick parking to airport bus if I’d remembered the passports! Bit fucking late to ask that then!!