Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

Accusing people of hating their husband's is not top form either...

Weaponised incompetence in full swing

This was my thought too.

"wizardry with the tardis suitcase" my arse.

All he has to do is stand and watch her a couple of times.

No, it would give me the ick if he expected me to do it. He packs his own and of we are sharing a suitcase I dump stuff on the bed and he packs it because he’s more anal about it.

With her vagina? What’s stopping you from learning?

I'm being absolutely serious about it.

Why are you so convinced that not packing a bag for your husband means you 'hate' him?

Who has made you believe this if not him?

I said he was clueless about clothes, not how to pack a bag

Coercive control is a serious crime and you shouldn't make a joke of it.

We don’t have a communal wash basket. DH’s clothes are predominantly black and navy and he wears a lot of sports gear which needs washing at low temp mid week ready for the weekend. DD wears uniform with light and dark components that needs washing at weekends. I travel a lot for work so get back on a Friday night with a suitcase of light and dark clothes. We live somewhere where it rains 90% of the time and use a heated airer to dry clothes. So it’s much easier for him to do his mid-week, and me or DD to do ours at the weekend.

On the odd occasion he’s tried to be helpful by washing my clothes he’s managed to shred my underwear (by putting a bra in), shrink wool jumpers and torn silk shirts, so it’s easier to keep him away from that!

Lmao, no. I don't pack his bags, wash his clothes or make his lunches. I'm a SAHM so I do all those things for the kids. But as checks notes a grown ass adult, he can pack his own bags.......

No, I don't. Don't remember ever doing his. I have packed for DS when he was small but he's old enough now to do his own. If he forgets something, then we buy a replacement where we are, if possible. If not he has to do without. We do work from lists though, because of the autism (DS and I), I wouldn't remember half the stuff without a list. DH manages without a list but one year he did forget to pack undies as he packed late at night after loads of meetings. He has not made that mistake again.

Errrm and why do you think he's 'a bit clueless' about doing these really simple, basic, adult things?

I say 'adult' things but of course many children and just about all teenagers manage to do it.

I'd hate it if he packed mine - god knows what I'd end up taking! Imagine getting there and he'd packed the swimsuit from 10 years ago that you are keeping because one day dammit I'll fit back into it.

But the joint stuff - like getting out adapters, charging cables, sun screen - we both tend to do that - or one of us will if we happen to have a bit more time.

No, I dont. I dont put it away for him either. I've washed it, dried it and folded it. If he wants to leave it gathering dust on the bedside table thats his business. And, he does sometimes for several weeks.

Aw no, I think a wife should packs their man’s case. Women are sooooooo much better at that kind of thing than men, they can make it all nice for them 😊

This thread literally blows my mind!
No of course I haven't packed my adult husbands bags for him!
Even the kids - age 8 and 5 pack their own hand luggage.
I will pack the kids clothes and DH sorts electronics/chargers/first aid/toiletries etc

He does all the washing, I put it away.
We both work so both do 50% of household stuff.

No.

But if I had to pack for him, I would keep my mouth shut. I sure as shit wouldn't admit that I had tied myself to someone so incompetent they couldnt carry out basic tasks.

You're taking the piss...why are you ironing his clothes?

So? That's his problem

Mine have been managing it with a picture packing list - when younger they'd just go and find/choose their things, now they are old enough they put them in the bag.

I agree on the laundry, we have a single laundry basket and whoever happens to walk past and notice its full will put a full load on, this is a mixture of 2 adults and 2 kids clothes. No one does "their own" washing, we do the household washing.

As a man, this is how it works in my house.

I would never even consider asking my wife to actually chose what to pack, that seems insane to me. But I am terrible at neatly packing, if left to my own devices I will just about manage to fit my own stuff in a giant suitcase, which leaves no space for the kids stuff. So I usually lay everything out that I would like to take and she then does some wizardry with the tardis suitcase and makes 2/3 of the house fit into 2 or 3 suitcases!

Similar but it's been nearly 40 years for us!

OK so we share a laundry basket so whoever puts a load on sorts through and includes anything that would go in that load. Could be me or could be him.

Each do our own ironing.

I have never packed his case for him. When DD was young and we had family holidays where we shared two cases between three, say, then packing was a shared event. But it has never been my sole responsibility.

I do
Its because he is a bit clueless about clothes and I actually even put his clothes out if we are going out together or he is going to an event so he looks vaguely decent
He doesn't expect it or get arsey if I forget and he asks for my help and is grateful
I have no issue doing it and he helps me in areas I am clueless about too.
I actually buy all his clothes as well

Actually, I did pack DH a bag once, I'd forgotten when I wrote my previous post.

But he was lying semiconcious on the floor, surrounded by paramedics and not really able to do it for himself.