Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

Exactly the same here. DH can, and will, do the laundry, hang the washing and iron it, just as easily as I will. Likewise tidying up, washing up, etc. If the car's dirty or the lawn needs mowing, I'll do that, just as easily as DH would do it. It all depends on who is doing what, who's in the house, who's at work, etc. I'd say very little of our "household chores" are the sole domain of one or other of us, we both do most things, and do a lot of household chores together too. I can't think of a single thing that's either "my" job or "his" job.

You're almost right.

I'm not training anyone, though! And I've never had to.

just because we don't pack their clothes for a holiday - doesn't mean we hate them.

and of course they do stuff ... its not like a PP would cook a whole Sunday roast just for herself and let DH cook his own separate dinner... or make him go and by the food he wants for the weekly shop, whilst she goes and buys "her" food or make them book their own flights for a family holiday separately etc or whatever.

They just don't do the mundane everyday tasks for them that they're capable of doing themselves.

Like making sure they have their own gym bag ready to go - for when they want to do a last minute gym session. This is basic stuff that a child can do - making sure they have their school bag ready for the next day for example.
It would be different if it was a one-off. My DH had this a few times - gym too - scheduled class, and he usually is organised, but he got stuck in traffic, and meant he came home later than usual, which meant he didn't have time to sort his shakes and stuff out without rushing - he usually comes home, from work, gets changed, sorts out his shakes and water bottle etc with plenty of time - so I did his shakes and a water bottle while he got dressed.

No! 😄

I've never met a man who expected it of me either.

How would I know what he wanted to take on holiday?

Plenty of men can, and do, their fair share, and more. It's a matter for women to choose wisely and "train" them!!!

Ditto! I shouldn’t overlook the fact that I have never packed his bag because I have lower standards.

Eh? I adore my husband. We’ve been together for 30 years, very happily. We do all sorts of things for each other all the time. However, there is nothing I do because it is a ‘woman’s job’. If he got stuck at work and we were going to be late for the airport, I would pack his bag as best I could.

But I don’t do it all the time because I’m a woman and my ovaries make me good at packing. Ditto practically every other household job. We pick the ones we hate the least but are both fully capable of doing them all and do. If I’m particularly busy he doesn’t ignore anything in the house because it’s my job and vice versa. We both expect to walk into the house without empty mugs and or stuff in the sink or laundry put away. Neither of us would have it any other way.

Of course not. He’s perfectly capable of packing his own bag.

And anyway, if I tried to do it the clothes would be folded incorrectly with creases in the wrong places, the packing system designed wrongly, the toiletries packed sub-optimally for most efficient space utilisation etc etc. It’s really much better for everyone if he does it himself, then he knows it will be done to his standards of perfection. 🙄

I’m so glad I live alone. Fuck all these useless men that don’t possess simple life skills that apparently require a vagina to learn.

Nope, never had and never will. He's quite capable of packing his own suitcases/bags.

Luckily, we had 10 years of holidaying together before we lived together/married, so we always did our own packing at our relative homes, so everything was completely separate. When we married and started living together, we were so in the habit of doing our own packing it's never even crossed our minds for one of us to do it for the other.

He's a grown adult so can perfectly well look after himself and do his own!

What else would you call it when women are on here saying they won't do anything for their husband at all?

I'd call it a lie because not one single poster has said this.

I don't currently have a husband, but the only person's bag I've ever packed apart from my own is my young son's! I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone incapable of packing a bag.

I show my husband i love him by booking all accommodation flights/transportation, planning activities, doing all the paperwork (insurances, passports, visas etc) driving, getting currency, ensuring clothes are washed, making sure we have sunscreen / hats/ swimming stuff, all of DDs packing, getting the car is ready (services, oil checks, fuel, clean and tidy etc) ... so he can enjoy the lovely holidays we have, that he spent around 20 minutes thinking about when he packed his own clothes ....

What's wrong with someone's husband packing your knockers and tampons? Surely he's seen( and got into) your knockers before And a box of tampons? Whyever not?

What else would you call it when women are on here saying they won't do anything for their husband at all? It takes a certain amount of effort to only wash certain people's clothes. What's the point being married if you can't or won't do anything for eachother? They obviously hate all men, so why marry one?

100% agree. For example, my friend says she doesn’t mind doing all the food shopping, cooking, cleaning, doing his sodding packed lunches etc etc (not to mention all the financial stuff and pretty much everything else associated with running a house apart from mowing the lawn which is his sole job) because she works part time. I wanted to say she had that the wrong way around, the reason she works part time is because she HAS to do all of that stuff because he is incompetent.

Oh he does, but he has three different suitcases and he forgot to transfer it over.

They can do it supervised. Whyever not?

Not for a work trip I wouldn’t but if we’re sharing a bag then he gets the stuff out he wants and I put it in the bag as I’m better at it. He’s in charge of gathering passports, documents, money, chargers and stuff so it’s a joint effort playing to relative strengths. Kid has packed for himself since age 10. We all help with the massive laundry push beforehand and either one of us adults would do the ironing depending who has more time.

Ok I am tired and grumpy but this thread has enraged me.

It's not enough that the majority agree it's ridiculous behaviour, it should be unanimous.

"... Yes always because I don't hate my husband" what a fucking joke.

"Oh no, I don't pack... Well I do fold and put them inside the suitcase because teehee the poor eejit would bundle them all in"

"I leave them out for my wife and her wizardry"

Just ugh to all of it.

My DH is admittedly appalling at packing. Myself and DD have been teasing him about it since she was about five years old and doing most of her own packing. We still don't do it for him, I can't even imagine how he'd react to something so ludicrous. I don't wash behind his ears in the shower either, he's not my small child.

I remember 15 or 20 years ago being out for dinner with some women colleagues. They were ambitious earning 6 figure salaries and climbing fast. I was single and none of them were. They started sharing stories about their adorable clueless husbands, each trying to outdo the next describing how it they didn't portion the meals they left how he'd eat three in one sitting and so forth. I was repulsed and sadly it seems very little has changed.

Exactly this! If my husband wasn’t around for servicing the cars etc I would just call a garage! He doesn’t ‘expect’ me to pack his suitcase and doesn’t take it for granted at all! Just how I’m thankful when he does the stuff I’m not AS well equipped to do / prefer not to do

Oh, lols at many responses ...

My (now Ex) DH and I were off on a party weekend with friends, smart evening wear. I sorted our 12 year old DS stuff for a weekend with my DM, my bag and frock bag. He did about 30 minutes of walking from drawers to wardrobe picking out stuff and putting it back ... somehow managed to get a bag packed. We got there and he'd packed the trousers of our DS's school uniform. The sulk of the useless w*nker, the spinning as to how this was somehow my fault, the face on him for the rest of the evening as he sat in the scruffy jeans and smart shirt, the only other items he had with him.

Note again, Ex"D"H.

Thanks for making the struggle harder for the rest of us.

This is fucking pathetic behaviour.

I'd expect him to actually have gym bag ready to go at all times <shrug> - especially as he goes on an ad-hoc basis?

as a one off or whatever, fair enough.

My DH works and provides for us - often out of the house 6am-7pm - and a lot of weekends too.

he still packs his own bags for our holidays (that I've organised and booked and done literally everything else for)