Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

Both my current DP and my EXH expected me to pack for them and I flat out refused from the beginning. They huffed and got over it. ExH did mention it a few more times and I told him absolutely not. Never.

Why? Because my mum packs for my dad, always has. And she always got the blame if there was stuff missing. I will never forget the holiday when she forgot to pack his blood pressure medication. Poor woman. Can you imagine a grown man not making sure he has his.medication? Fuck that.

I mean more if a man was like ‘don’t worry darling I’m doing the washing and walked around the house with the washing basket’…or just if a man didn’t believe or admit that fundamentally there are more gender-specific jobs, because let’s face it there are. Throughout human history. I’d find that cringe. Of course my husband will wash when I am sick or most recently I’ve had a baby so he’s offered A LOT of help with cooking etc. He cares about me and will more than happily pack his suitcase, but there are certain things we are naturally more inclined to do.

Completely agree! I’m surprised at how many people think it’s ‘pathetic’ or that husbands are ‘incompetent’ for not packing their bag… what if one likes to pack his bag? What if I like to pack his lunch? It’s a gesture of love and care in my eyes , I like to fill his suitcase with the stuff he needs. Not to say if you don’t do these things you don’t actually not love your husband but I’m just shocked at how shocked women are at the concept. Saw a post saying they’re not a ‘doormat’ so of course they don’t pack their husband bags but packing your husbands bag does NOT make you some sort of slave.

I’m sure this will absolutely blow peoples minds but my husband has never washed the bed sheets, towels, tea towels or blankets. I do, every week because it’s naturally something I think about more and I like them done weekly. It’s not expected of me and I don’t feel like some sort of martyr. Tbh, if I met a man and they took pride in doing their laundry or dare I say, ‘girls jobs’ I’d find them a bit wet??

Completely agree! I’m surprised at how many people think it’s ‘pathetic’ or that husbands are ‘incompetent’ for not packing their bag… what if one likes to pack his bag? What if I like to pack his lunch? It’s a gesture of love and care in my eyes , I like to fill his suitcase with the stuff he needs. Not to say if you don’t do these things you don’t actually not love your husband but I’m just shocked at how shocked women are at the concept. Saw a post saying they’re not a ‘doormat’ so of course they don’t pack their husband bags but packing your husbands bag does NOT make you some sort of slave.

I’m sure this will absolutely blow peoples minds but my husband has never washed the bed sheets, towels, tea towels or blankets. I do, every week because it’s naturally something I think about more and I like them done weekly. It’s not expected of me and I don’t feel like some sort of martyr. Tbh, if I met a man and they took pride in doing their laundry or dare I say, ‘girls jobs’ I’d find them a bit wet??

you crack on if you enjoy it... but the PP suggested we must hate our husbands because we didn't do that for them.

What's "wet" about washing bed linen? Do you think your husband, prior to meeting you never once washed his own bedding? Why would a man taking pride in having clean clothes be something to be ashamed of?

if you didn't do the laundry, would your husband genuinely just sit there and let it pile up and never change the bedding?

Completely agree! I’m surprised at how many people think it’s ‘pathetic’ or that husbands are ‘incompetent’ for not packing their bag… what if one likes to pack his bag? What if I like to pack his lunch? It’s a gesture of love and care in my eyes , I like to fill his suitcase with the stuff he needs. Not to say if you don’t do these things you don’t actually not love your husband but I’m just shocked at how shocked women are at the concept. Saw a post saying they’re not a ‘doormat’ so of course they don’t pack their husband bags but packing your husbands bag does NOT make you some sort of slave.

I’m sure this will absolutely blow peoples minds but my husband has never washed the bed sheets, towels, tea towels or blankets. I do, every week because it’s naturally something I think about more and I like them done weekly. It’s not expected of me and I don’t feel like some sort of martyr. Tbh, if I met a man and they took pride in doing their laundry or dare I say, ‘girls jobs’ I’d find them a bit wet??

you crack on if you enjoy it... but the PP suggested we must hate our husbands because we didn't do that for them.

What's "wet" about washing bed linen? Do you think your husband, prior to meeting you never once washed his own bedding? Why would a man taking pride in having clean clothes be something to be ashamed of?

if you didn't do the laundry, would your husband genuinely just sit there and let it pile up and never change the bedding?

So your dh packs your knickers and tampons

Completely agree! I’m surprised at how many people think it’s ‘pathetic’ or that husbands are ‘incompetent’ for not packing their bag… what if one likes to pack his bag? What if I like to pack his lunch? It’s a gesture of love and care in my eyes , I like to fill his suitcase with the stuff he needs. Not to say if you don’t do these things you don’t actually not love your husband but I’m just shocked at how shocked women are at the concept. Saw a post saying they’re not a ‘doormat’ so of course they don’t pack their husband bags but packing your husbands bag does NOT make you some sort of slave.

I’m sure this will absolutely blow peoples minds but my husband has never washed the bed sheets, towels, tea towels or blankets. I do, every week because it’s naturally something I think about more and I like them done weekly. It’s not expected of me and I don’t feel like some sort of martyr. Tbh, if I met a man and they took pride in doing their laundry or dare I say, ‘girls jobs’ I’d find them a bit wet??

What else would you call it when women are on here saying they won't do anything for their husband at all? It takes a certain amount of effort to only wash certain people's clothes. What's the point being married if you can't or won't do anything for eachother? They obviously hate all men, so why marry one?

What else would you call it when women are on here saying they won't do anything for their husband at all? It takes a certain amount of effort to only wash certain people's clothes. What's the point being married if you can't or won't do anything for eachother? They obviously hate all men, so why marry one?

With her vagina? What’s stopping you from learning?

I work in the travel industry. 94% of people doing my job are men. I have NEVER worked with one of them who’s admitted to letting his wife pack for him. Even my teenage son has been packing his own bags for years.

My (ex) FIL told me his mother packed his honeymoon suitcase, and his wife had packed for his every trip thereafter.

Eh? I adore my husband. We’ve been together for 30 years, very happily. We do all sorts of things for each other all the time. However, there is nothing I do because it is a ‘woman’s job’. If he got stuck at work and we were going to be late for the airport, I would pack his bag as best I could.

But I don’t do it all the time because I’m a woman and my ovaries make me good at packing. Ditto practically every other household job. We pick the ones we hate the least but are both fully capable of doing them all and do. If I’m particularly busy he doesn’t ignore anything in the house because it’s my job and vice versa. We both expect to walk into the house without empty mugs and or stuff in the sink or laundry put away. Neither of us would have it any other way.

What else would you call it when women are on here saying they won't do anything for their husband at all? It takes a certain amount of effort to only wash certain people's clothes. What's the point being married if you can't or won't do anything for eachother? They obviously hate all men, so why marry one?

When I say "training", I mean to do it right, to my standards, not just to do it at all. DH was more than willing to try to do everything when we first married and bought our home, but it took a while to "tweak" his ways to my standards!!

Plenty of men can, and do, their fair share, and more. It's a matter for women to choose wisely and "train" them!!!

Plenty of men can, and do, their fair share, and more. It's a matter for women to choose wisely and "train" them!!!

You're almost right.

I'm not training anyone, though! And I've never had to.