Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

I think some women are scared that if they don't wait on their men hand and foot, another woman will.

Or they've been made to believe this by the lazy men.

My DH is capable enough to be on the board at his company; I would be surprised if he wasn’t capable of packing some outfits, pants, socks, and a toothbrush for himself.

Does this woman’s DH need this much support in general? Can he go to a supermarket, answer an email, make a GP appointment, turn on the dishwasher, change a nappy, hold down a job, or catch a train all on his own, like a big boy?

@Russland You've admitted your husband "finds it hard to be away from family and works long hours." Any way you could think of in supporting him him to reduce his hours at all? Give him more precious family time and less stress? Asides from packing his bag? 😀

‘Wet’???????? Bloody hell. It’s not about taking pride in doing laundry or washing bed linen….its about doing it because you’re an adult.

I don’t take any pride in doing laundry. Or bed linen. Does that mean I’m not a very good women ?

I’m a grown up and they are things that need doing. I don’t consider them ‘girls jobs’ and would have the total ick for any man who used that terminology or suggested there was such a thing.

Being successful and capable in all areas of life is very sexy!

I work. Just PT only a few days. I don't have to do any more. I was a SAHM for many years and got to look after and raise my children.

I also cook for my husband, I also help him pack when he's going to be away for weeks on end. He finds it hard to be away from family and works long hours.

You do you, and you tell your husband how to do it too.

Seems a bit unfair

But whatever.

I'll enjoy my wrinkly socks and pants, and extra free time, and you can enjoy your neater drawers

I don't think I've ever looked in his wardrobe? Feels like an invasion of privacy? Id hate him to rifle through mine!
It is one of many many icks about men, imagine marrying someone who can't or won't pack their own bag 🤢

This sounds more controlling than training if I'm honest 🤔

Ha ha no way. DH would never entertain it. In fact if we go away for a night with one bag I put my
stuff out and he packs it

Each to their own. I like the way they sit better/neater in the drawer. But you do you, I'll do me.

I agree. I find my DH a lot more "sexy" when I'm not knackered from spending all day doing household chores, i.e. when he's done his fair share of the gardening, cleaning, washing up, ironing, putting clothes/bedding away, changed the bed, etc etc. I'd have no time nor inclination for being intimate with a bloke who'd let me do it all and not offered to help!

Well, there's an art to getting more in than just flinging stuff in willy nilly.

DH will declare a suitcase full, but has just shoved stuff in. Itake it all outward show him how to fold properly and he does it again, and lonand behold there's 40% space left

Socks and pants do not ever need ironing. That's just pure madness.

I can’t understand how so many people (and, what a surprise, it’s mainly men) are so bad at packing the suitcase. Pick up item, put in suitcase. These people (men) have such terribly important jobs but can’t do this?!? Nonsense!

I mean I "train" him to do it how I want it done, i.e. to my standards, not to train him to do things at all. I.e. he now irons his socks and boxer shorts (and my underwear too if he's ironing them), but he'd never have done that before we got together!! But he'd always ironed his own work shirts and trousers etc. - I didn't need to "train" him to do that!

@Russland You could always helping him by finding work and also providing for yourself and your kids? Just a ridiculous thought I know...

And there we have it, the Vip man !

Oh deary me. How dare I help out my own husband before he flies off halfway across the world to provide for me and our kids?

I don’t have refuse because he wouldn’t ask me, he’s a grown man, he can pack his own stuff.

@ItTook9Years Massive feminist. And proud!! Hate the patriarchy and won't buy into disgraceful misogynistic practices! Packing a man's bags - you cannot be serious?!!!

Also a Ms. Fucking feminists, eh?

I don't have sons would pp who do it expect their sons partners/wives to do this for them ?

@Russland I shall inform my husband we're not married in that case - he packs his own bags!! Oh actually - I'm a Ms too - so the ceremony simply can't have been legal!
It's 2026 - what was I thinking?!!!

News flash: “naturally” is a euphemism for “sexism” and “misogyny”.

No man’s cock is too big to be able to operate a washing machine.

my husband has never washed the bed sheets, towels, tea towels or blankets. I do, every week because it’s naturally something I think about more and I like them done weekly.

Why is it “naturally” something you think about more?