Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

No. Never have. I also slowed packing DD’s bag/case when she was in Year 7 and this summer I won’t be packing DS’ either - and he has ASD!

My friend is like this though. Complains about her husband and teen boys. Her 16 year old didn’t eat tea the other night as he got home from a sports club early and no-one was there to make it for him. And when I say make it, I mean heat it up. Marry a feckless idiot, watch your sons turn out the same.

Why is that your issue?

We don’t even pack for our ten year old, if we share one suitcase neither of us pretends that one person must pack everything for some weird special reason, the special reason being partnered with a child but people pretending its because no one could pack as well as them, or an item might get a teeny tiny crease etc.

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it’s me that travels for work, I’d be fucking flabbergasted if dh presented me with my packed case!
Absolutely not do we pack anything for each other… kids pack their own shit when we go on holiday too, oh and there’s not a sniff of an iron anywhere in sight!

Yes I do .
I pack the bags and he sorts our passports and any tickets /printing /airport stuff /car parking

No definitely not. I also don’t plan his journey, wash his clothes in preparation for the trip or wake him up to make sure he doesn’t miss a flight… because he is a fully functioning grown up not an eight year old.

Absolutely not. Actually my DH packs for himself and the kids, I look after myself. He prefers to pack days in advance whereas i am a last minute Larry

Ha ha, no. 😂

No wonder men get away with on average doing less around the house, if women are doing all their thinking for them and packing for them like they're children.

No. But mine is a functioning adult and not a baby. He packed his things fine before he knew me.

I have no desire to be a martyr

How embarrassing. I’ve never done this in several decades, and never will.

The only time I’d help someone pack a bag is if it was an emergency situation, such as a phone call that their parent/child/significant person in their life was dying or something similar, and they had to leave urgently, then I’d be happy to assist to help, both time wise and realising their head may be elsewhere rather than ‘need to pack my toothbrush’. That’s the only scenario though. As for ‘but travel is stressful’…… no, routine travel is not, and does not necessitate having to be helped packing, and if someone suffers from this odd affliction, they should be banned travelling to the local bus stop!

Fuck no. I didn't marry a child. When the kids were small he’d pack for one of them too, but they do it themselves now as well.

Good fucking grief no. They have arms don’t they?

I would happily pack his bag if I thought it would help him out. It can be stressful to travel so, if I can alleviate stress for him, I will. Equally, he would help me pack (and has done). I wouldn't see this as a problem at all.

if he travels that frequently, he should have a separate toiletries back (with duplicates of what he uses at home) and just leave it in the case.

WTF? My kids have packed for themselves since around 6, with us watching the process to make sure they had everything essential until they were around 10. It was a few minutes extra effort a few times a year for a few years and now I have kids who can pack bags for going away.

I reckon most adult men are at least as capable as my kids aged 10. Why do some people have such low expectations of men?

Why enable such a manchild? He can pack himself and you can say “did you remember to pack that nice blue shirt and you glasses”?. No problem at all discussing the plans for a holiday and the appropriate stuff to take, but why do it? Do you have a career and how old are you?

it is women like you who mean women will never be see as equals

It is a bit odd and it wouldn't occur to me to pack someone else's bag. There is a lot of personal preference involved.

But I don't find it offensive that some people's partners pack for them either.

I don't pack for DH or for my teenage DC. I don't buy clothes for DH either.

Never have I packed a grown mans bag. Women do enough for men without packing their bag like a child. Especially for a work trip. That’s pretty sad, does the husband not feel embarrassed? I certainly would.

The only possible answer.

No way! And my DH travels a lot.

In 40 years, I haven’t either. He wouldn’t want me to. And I’d never want him to pack for me.

If we are going away together and sharing a suitcase I do tend to pack, but only in so far as I put the stuff physically in the case, DH puts out what he wants to take. I think things get packed more efficiently if it's all done together rather than one person puts all their stuff at the bottom and the other one dumps all their's on top. I like to sort all the paperwork, tickets, passports etc if we are going on a family trip too but I think that's because I'm a bit of a control freak rather than that the rest of the family are useless - they do manage when I'm not there!
But if he is going away on his own then no, I don't get involved at all, any more than I'd expect him to pack for me if I was going on a solo trip.

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Thank fuck I'm an independent woman who not even packs for her adult son.

Women are their own worst enemy sometimes.