Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

Exactly, I had my kids doing their own packing (with a list) from pretty young. Then fewer accusations of "you didn't pack my xxxxx" !

Ah, I wouldn't be put in a situation to refuse - since he'd have to come home anyway to collect his bag, he wouldn't even think to interrupt what I'm doing to ask me to save him a minute of his time because he decided on a whim to change his plans for the evening. I don't think that particularly considerate, it's just standard behaviour.

No packing and definitely no ironing

That's me! I can pack like a pro 😂😂😂

No, absolutely not. I don't pack my 15yo ds's bag either, it would just be teaching him to turn into another man child. To be honest, I barely help my 9yo dd either, but that's because she's really independent and organised. I have a quick look through her things just to check she's got all bases covered. I do tend to be the one to pack everything the family generally needs though.

Quite the opposite in this house, my husband packs all the bags😂 I do sort my own clothes, we jointly sort the kids clothes/stuff, but he is by far the superior bag/suitcase packer. In another life I assume he was a professional tetris player, the amount he can fit into one case is truly a mystery to me!

I love my husband very much but he is not more important than me that he can't sort his own stuff out! I mean if you are happy doing it crack on but just because you cluck about him doesn't mean you are a better partner than any body else on the thread !

He might occasionally ask me to fold something like a shirt for him to pack as I'm better at it but otherwise he sorts his own stuff out.

Absolutely not 😂

I would help a partner who genuinely struggled that much , whatever the cause of the struggling.

We had a row last year after I'd packed for me and both the kids, and the toys, swim stuff, food, kitchen equipment and the hobby equipment we needed.

DH got very grumpy because I hadn't packed for him . . . (Which I had never ever done before either and didn't I have enough to do?! And shouldn't he have helped with the rest?)

I've been suppressing slight feelings of guilt and unreasonableness on each subsequent trip, while he's packed his own stuff with a few deep sighs.

But not any more! This thread clearly tells me IANBU.

Lol no because he's not 12.

Some women like to flap about their incompetent men it makes them feel needed and important, this is probably your husband, i have packed once for my husband in 35 years and that was for a hospital stayhe was physically to ill to do it,

No he's a big boy, he knows what clothes he wants to wear. When we go on holiday he packs for the kids at least if not more often than me. I say we're both mums in this house.

Eh no.
Why open yourself up to 'you forgot my .....'

@FlowerSticker you obviously don't have much understanding of autism. There is a big difference between people who struggle with everyday tasks due to a neurological condition and those who can't be bothered and see it as someone else's job.

But why would he not do that himself? I t takes 2 minutes'and he knows what he wants to take.

I pack with DH, he has ASD and packing is something he struggles with....too many variables! It is much less stressful all round if we do it together.
Dh can manage to pack for a short trip but a 2 week cruise is a different story.
We work as a team and each play to our strengths.

Id leave without him if he was going to be like that.

"Meet you at the airport!"

I left a friend behind once, because we needed to get a particular train to get the plane. She was hungover, hadn't packed, insisted on going out for brunch etc.

I said I'd see her later and left the hotel when she went off to brunch.

She missed her flight.

I was raising my eyebrows until I realised that before we started having marriage issues while I did t pack his bag, I would ask him to make sure he told me clothes wise what he needed so I could have them washed and dried and once or twice the night before he was due to go I’d get up at 3 or 4 in the morning to make sure his clothes had dried. Which now makes me roll my eyes at myself!!

Absolutely not. DH runs a massive department, he can work out how to put a shirt, trousers, passport and deodorant in a bag. If he's very busy and I'm not, I might do a bit of ironing for him if he needs something specific but otherwise he can sort it.

Snap. He’d also never let me, I’m a careless packer and have gone on holiday without sufficient underwear on more than one occasion.

It's a very different thing to pack your partner's bag, which would never occur to me.

Yes. Because if I don’t he will delay us further by “packing” his bag. I usually have more “free time” (read; can organise my time better) and am able to pack the day before we go, but my husband would leave it to the morning of the trip, spend ages faffing around and then after about 3 hours of asking me what we are doing on said trip, he will ask me to help him pack. It’s just easier if I pack from the start because then there’s no delay getting to our destination. He is autistic, which is why he struggles so much.