Do you pack your husband’s bag when he goes away..?

Love it!

Exactly. I can’t get my head round women who do this - crazy.

Nope! He’s a grown up and can pack his own bag!

No, I don't "have" to but it's hardly onerous and more than half the stuff in our shared case is mine as a general rule anyway. DH travels much lighter than me.
It feels a bit petty to me to refuse to do a trivial task for someone you love when you are doing it for yourself anyway. Equal division of labour doesn't have to mean dividing every task in half or only doing your own thing. DH does lots of stuff around the house that I don't contribute to at all, and there are plenty of things he has done far more than half of over the years, for example about 85% of school runs. Putting his socks in the weekend bag whilst I'm putting my own in is hardly going to hurt me and is efficient use of time.

My mum used to pack for my dad and my sister packs for my BIL, they think I'm odd in not doing it - but my husband can sort his own things out, he also packs for the kids if he is taking them away without me.

However I always pack a belt and cuff links in my bag if I think they will be needed as I have spent too many detours or being left on an early morning before a wedding/party etc as he is racing off to get these things!

A holiday can be ruined by bringing the wrong dental floss?

I take it you’ve never been camping or roughed it in any way..:

Ugh. Incompetent men give me the ick. I have a friend who went away for a couple of nights recently and her partner stayed home. He got strict instructions on how to look after himself before she left. They don’t have children. When she got back he expected pats on the back for making his own packed lunch 🤢

The very idea is absolutely ludicrous.

I know because we've been married for 25 years 😊. Personally I find it more efficient for me to be in charge of the whole process for a family holiday. So I do the pre-departure laundry for all four of us, and we don't have individual cases, we pack across them all. This is partly so we all have clothes if a case is delayed in transit and partly so I can divide by usage/activity if relevant. Plus DH works much longer hours than I do, so would end up doing it last minute after a long work day, whereas I have time as I finish earlier and WFH.

So that's why it's more efficient for us. Every household is different, this is what works for us and nobody resents it.

No. I’m not his mum

A friend of mine not only packs her husband's suitcases, she buys his clothes, decides what he is going to wear each day and puts his clothes for the next day on a chair for him the night before.

They are both in their 50s and she has done this for him every day since he left his mother's house to live with her, over 30 years ago.

On the other hand, she has never filled her car with fuel, washed her car, or taken her car for a service since they met.

Neither of them is incompetent, both could easily look after themselves, they just have these weird ideas about what is his responsibility and what is hers.

I do similar to a few PPs. If we’re sharing a case for wherever we’re going, he gets out what he needs/wants and I put it in the case. I also do things like (both of our) meds and he does other things, so we both have our allocated jobs, which just generally tends to work best.

If he’s going away on his own then absolutely not!

Well my mum does virtually everything on my dad’s behalf including picking out clothes for each day!
when she was in hospital for a week all the clothes were laid out on the spare bed and ready meals were piled up in the fridge with post it notes eg “Tuesday” etc

so now he’s nearly 80 and can do barely anything for himself.

Nope. Though he does expect me to be weirdly interested in what he’s packed. This or this shirt? ….holding up two, to my eyes, identical blue polo shirts.

before we met he traveled for work for years…

we shared a suitcase once….just the once. It didn’t go well. He folds up worn shirts neatly, me …not so much.

A holiday can be ruined by bringing the wrong thing, a top that doesn't quite fit, a too heavy jumper, bringing the dental floss that's not as nice, choosing the wrong set of books you are reading or forgetting a particular after sun cream or your toenail clippers or a charger with a long lead. I can't see how any adult can do that for any other adult.

No. My mum did for my dad (though he was quite capable) but I decided I wasn't going to get into that.

Absolutely not. My kids don’t even want me to pack their bags anymore.

No but my mum does for my dad. I don’t think he’s packed a bag to go away in his life
yes he repacks to come back again but that’s easier and there is always, always something left behind

yes it’s ridiculous

dh sorts his own stuff but I end up either packing DCs stuff for them or otherwise directing them so 80% of the household packing (we often fill the car) is done by me. DH however is the master of actually fitting it into the the car once packed

Exactly - I barely know ahead of time what I want to wear (which is why I tend towards overpacking) so how would he know?!

God no. I have occasionally put the stuff he assembled on the bed into the suitcase, simply because I am better at packing using all available space.

Otherwise we have our own jobs. He does toothbrush, travel speaker and all chargers. I do “kitchen stuff” (tea bags, washing leaves, water bottles etc.).

We both then repeatedly ask each other if all the things we’ve previously forgotten on trips (swimming gear, prescription sunglasses…) are packed.

This is what we do.
I am married to a man not a child.

I don't think it's ever occurred to me that anyone would pack their partner's bag for them until today! I'd absolutely hate it if anyone packed mine - not only do I not understand why you'd do it for your partner, I don't understand why you'd want it done by them for you? It's very important to me that I know exactly what I'm taking with me.

Obviously DP and I remind each other of essentials when we're both packing our own bags but that's just yelling out "do you have the portable charger" or whatever.

How would you know what he wants to wear?? If I’m going on a work trip for 10 days there is no way DH would know what I would need to wear for clients dinners, workshops etc. Unthinkable! How would anyone else know what shoes you might like? Or which swimming costume you would prefer on holiday? Or which chargers/ tech he might want to take? So weird to outsource that thinking!

Although I often say my husband is a lazy fucker, i have never packed his work case for him. For a holiday he gets all his own stuff organised and I pack it in the cubes.

Hell no because I didn’t marry a baby.
No wonder young men are so bloody useless and end up alone if this is the model they are shown.

Imagine a grown woman who can’t put petrol in her car. Or make a hot drink, or make her own bed etc etc