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To think a daily shower is not excessive for a 12 & 14 YO?

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Question2288 · 01/06/2026 19:51

DP has just decreed a daily shower as ‘excessive’ and they are absolutely not to have them.

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Youspurnme · 01/06/2026 20:07

That’s insane. Mine are 10 & 13, they both shower daily. Of all the times to instil good hygiene habits, it’s now!

Fridgemanageress · 01/06/2026 20:06

mine shower at least twice a day.

first thing in the morning - and I always remind them - if their feet, ears and bottoms!!

when they came home from school - shower then change into tracksuit if we weren’t going out, if we went out for an activity they showered a third time before bed!

Teenagers stink - and adults that aren’t used to showering at least once a day stink too - that’s why I was abit obsessed with showering bring a routine for them which now they are adults they shower as soon as they get up!

Stoicandhappy · 01/06/2026 20:05

Is he their dad?

I am assuming the DC are wanting to shower daily? I would give them a bit of flexibility but wouldn’t let them go more than two days without, especially when it’s hot.

What is his problem? What will happen if they disobey him?

Is this the tip of an absolutely horrible iceberg?

LanyardSpaghetti · 01/06/2026 20:02

Err... if he's complaining about long showers every day, well, perhaps I could understand that, but a couple of minutes in the shower each day for adolescents to wash their hair and body would seem a very reasonable thing.

Tooprincipled · 01/06/2026 20:02

Mine shower daily and are often so stinky dp insists on them having a second shower.

TokyoSushi · 01/06/2026 19:59

I have a 12 & 14 yr old, they shower daily!

FlowerSticker · 01/06/2026 19:55

Why is he being so grim?

JuneJoys · 01/06/2026 19:55

Why?

Whats his problem with them showering?water useage?

of course it's not excessive!!

is he a shower dodger??

tiramisugelato · 01/06/2026 19:54

I assume he's not their father?

DysmalRadius · 01/06/2026 19:54

Is he their dad?

outerspacepotato · 01/06/2026 19:54

The fuck?

Your partner is massively controlling and wildly overstepping. Teens and tweens certainly can have a daily shower. It's not abnormal.

Is he their bio parent?

Lapplach · 01/06/2026 19:53

For a 14 year old especially, it's essential not excessive (and I say that as someone who only bathes my primary school children 3 or 4 times a week).

Coconutter24 · 01/06/2026 19:53

Does he shower everyday?

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