Page 4 | To think a daily shower is not excessive for a 12 & 14 YO?

Question2288 · 2026-06-01T18:51:58+00:00

DP has just decreed a daily shower as ‘excessive’ and they are absolutely not to have them.

SunnyRedSnail · 01/06/2026 21:21

Question2288 · 01/06/2026 20:16

Oh thank god for you lot - genuinely thought I was losing it.

It’s interesting reading some of the comments. You are all spot on: not their dad, if he showers 3 times a week that’s a good week, and it is most definitely the tip of the iceberg.

He thinks he has a say as he pays half the utilities.

And you are with this shower dodging control freak because... ?

You shouldn't be exposing your boys to someone controlling like this.

WhatNextImScared · 01/06/2026 21:19

OP, tell us what the iceberg looks like under the waterline…..

Pinkflamingo10 · 01/06/2026 21:17

Please tell us you are not staying with a smelly controlling man who thinks it is ok to tell your children that they cannot wash themselves every day in their OWN home

WhatNextImScared · 01/06/2026 21:17

Ugh grim - he should be encouraging their independence around hygiene and pleased about this

grrrlatrix · 01/06/2026 21:15

Question2288 · 01/06/2026 20:16

Oh thank god for you lot - genuinely thought I was losing it.

It’s interesting reading some of the comments. You are all spot on: not their dad, if he showers 3 times a week that’s a good week, and it is most definitely the tip of the iceberg.

He thinks he has a say as he pays half the utilities.

Grim. Truly.

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/06/2026 21:01

FlowerSticker · 01/06/2026 20:55

No he showers 3 times a week at most 🤢🤢🤢🤢

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susiedaisy1912 · 01/06/2026 20:56

Don’t let your kids smell op just because you’re with a weirdo who doesn’t care bout his own personal hygiene

FlowerSticker · 01/06/2026 20:55

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/06/2026 20:51

He showers 3 times a week ? Thats rank and sure will be smelly in this hot weather

guessing you don’t get that close to him as whiffy and tmi bit sure A bit of knob cheese about 🤮🍆

your teens can and should shower daily

No he showers 3 times a week at most 🤢🤢🤢🤢

Roxy9176 · 01/06/2026 20:53

I shower every day and I think it’s good hygiene. My stepdad used to comment on it which then led to me being worried and not showering enough. As long as they aren’t having really long showers, I don’t see the problem

Loubissou · 01/06/2026 20:52

I bet this is just the tip of the iceberg.
What else is he controlling about?

stichguru · 01/06/2026 20:51

He DOES pay half the bills.
So it is half his responsibility to make sure the children have what they need.

Blondeshavemorefun · 01/06/2026 20:51

He showers 3 times a week ? Thats rank and sure will be smelly in this hot weather

guessing you don’t get that close to him as whiffy and tmi bit sure A bit of knob cheese about 🤮🍆

your teens can and should shower daily

FlowerSticker · 01/06/2026 20:50

Tell him, he's right...he does pay 50%, so he can now pay nothing and move out...

FlowerSticker · 01/06/2026 20:48

chirrupybird · 01/06/2026 20:43

In the good old days you had a stand up wash at the sink with a flannel every morning. No wonder we are so short of water. Excessive showering/bathing, daily/twice daily, is getting ridiculous and the cost in terms of water usage is scandalous.

Are we short of water? 🤔

LaurieFairyCake · 01/06/2026 20:46

Controlling arsehole, get rid !

I immediately knew he wasn’t their dad as I knew he didn’t get close enough cuddling them to realise that unwashed teenagers smell ‘fuggy’.

So he doesn’t cuddle them, doesn’t have their wellbeing or social life in mind - off he FUCKS

summermidnightsun · 01/06/2026 20:45

Children/teens of this age should definitely shower everyday! I certainly did when I was 12. It is unhygienic not to.

Yetone · 01/06/2026 20:45

A long time ago but when my children started year 6 (last year of primary school) we had our start of year meeting with the teacher and she told all the parents that the children were starting to go through puberty and could we please make sure that they showered every day. I think most children in her class were showering daily. The teacher was just trying to tell the parents of the ones who weren’t.
OP, don’t stick with someone who can’t be bothered to shower.

peakygull · 01/06/2026 20:43

My similarly aged kids shower daily, not even something I particularly instilled in them, never had to fight them to do it, just something they chose to start doing around the time of starting high school. I’d never stop them.

chirrupybird · 01/06/2026 20:43

In the good old days you had a stand up wash at the sink with a flannel every morning. No wonder we are so short of water. Excessive showering/bathing, daily/twice daily, is getting ridiculous and the cost in terms of water usage is scandalous.

lunar1 · 01/06/2026 20:41

What a fucking surprise it’s a step parent, who saw that coming.

somanychristmaslights · 01/06/2026 20:41

3 times a week? I bet he smells lovely 🤮

KerryWeaversSpecs · 01/06/2026 20:39

He only showers three times a week? Ugh. 🤢That would be relationship-ending for me.

hahabahbag · 01/06/2026 20:39

A five minute max shower daily is completely normal, if you drip feed it’s 15 minutes long then I agree with him

Goldengirl123 · 01/06/2026 20:35

Of course it isn’t!!! Their hormones stink

outerspacepotato · 01/06/2026 20:32

Question2288 · 01/06/2026 20:16

Oh thank god for you lot - genuinely thought I was losing it.

It’s interesting reading some of the comments. You are all spot on: not their dad, if he showers 3 times a week that’s a good week, and it is most definitely the tip of the iceberg.

He thinks he has a say as he pays half the utilities.

He needs to be out of there. This is not healthy to subject your kids to.

He's controlling and likely abusive. He thinks because he pays half the utilities he can dictate how often your kids shower so he can save money while they go to school smelling bad and are learning shitty hygiene habits to save his pocketbook?

He sounds kind of disgusting, showering only 3 times a week. Asshole.

I guess the D in DP stands for Dirty and Dictator.