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AIBU in worrying that my son’s trip with his “friend” isn’t so innocent

364 replies

JosieMay1970 · 01/06/2026 17:19

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

OP posts:
EmeraldShamrock000 · 01/06/2026 18:36

What on earth has it got to do with you. Creepy.

fiveflames · 01/06/2026 18:36

I’ve failed to understand exactly what you’re worried about.

ithappenstootherfamilies · 01/06/2026 18:35

I hope at 26 he is at it like the clappers all weekend! ( consenting of course )

Frillysweetpea · 01/06/2026 18:35

Butt out!

lidlcheesetwist · 01/06/2026 18:35

Christ, OP, I moved out at 20 and had a HUSBAND at 26. Sometimes, I even shagged said husband in hotels… before he was my husband. Perish the thought!

JustFrustrated · 01/06/2026 18:35

Well I’m eagerly awaiting the update

Treylime · 01/06/2026 18:34

Does anyone remember the sitcom Sorry with Ronnie Corbett? Reminds me of this.

ginasevern · 01/06/2026 18:33

@JosieMay1970 "AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?"

Why are you so afraid that your 26 year old son has finally found a girl friend and might have sex with her? Do you not believe in sex before marriage? Is this a religious issue? Is this the reason that he barely goes out and has never had a girl friend before? I sincerely hope this post is a wind up for your poor son's sake.

RisingSunn · 01/06/2026 18:33

Are there any vulnerabilities? Severe SEN etc?

If not - then its absolutely outrageous for you to be interefering this way.

ZoeCM · 01/06/2026 18:33

This can't be real. "Worried"? "Not so innocent"? Are you Norma Bates?

Tigerbalmshark · 01/06/2026 18:32

A 26 year old man possibly going on a date? Shocking.

Put a stop to it now OP, or next thing you know he’ll be marrying the hussy and having children with her, and then who will keep you company in your old age?

JacknDiane · 01/06/2026 18:32

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 01/06/2026 18:30

Can’t wait for the update when you explain he’s 26 months.

😂

Overthehillmum63 · 01/06/2026 18:31

I totally understand. Most of the snippy replies here are from mothers of little kids and teenagers who have zero understanding and don’t realise they’ll soon have adult kids. Our worries as a mother are never ending. You worry as much when they’re 26 as when they’re six. Show an interest but don’t pressure and try not to worry. Ignore the catty remarks.

Rhubarb24 · 01/06/2026 18:30

I don't know if it's a wind up but my cousin has just turned 27, is an adult virgin, as are her few friends. They are all in to KPop and act younger than my immature 15 year old, and are chuffed when people (like taxi drivers*) think they are 14. They don't drink so it doesn't occur to them to be offended or to start acting their age. They have never worked either.

There are a lot of adult children around that age, so you never know.

If it's true, it's about time you cut the umbilical cord.

*she was grinning and bragging about that the last time I saw her.

TestingTestingWonTooFree · 01/06/2026 18:30

Can’t wait for the update when you explain he’s 26 months.

Dollymylove · 01/06/2026 18:29

Good grief 😔

godmum56 · 01/06/2026 18:28

"AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?"

I certainly hope so!

Purplecatshopaholic · 01/06/2026 18:28

Eh? And what business is it of yours op? Genuine question, you say he’s 26. I hope he has a lovely time whether they are friends or maybe something more.

Mumandcarer80 · 01/06/2026 18:28

hallomynameisinigomontoya · 01/06/2026 17:24

phone the hotel and demand to book the room between theirs so you can chaperone with a cup pressed against the wall. Who knows what grown adults might get up to otherwise.

😂😂😂

PenelopePinkerton · 01/06/2026 18:26

This can’t be real😂

Mumandcarer80 · 01/06/2026 18:26

So if he’s gay then he’s keeping it a secret from you. I can’t say I blame him if that’s your attitude, Why are you so worried about your son’s sexuality. We’re in 2026 it’s not illegal to be gay you know.

Harriet36 · 01/06/2026 18:25

Washingupdone · 01/06/2026 18:08

Let him be, but maybe give a packet of condoms to him before he leaves, just incase.

Please don't buy condoms for your adult son, that's just creepy and overbearing. I'm sure he knows his way round Boots.

angelikacpickles · 01/06/2026 18:25

What on earth have I just read??

PeachySmile2 · 01/06/2026 18:25

Are you taking the mickey? He is 26 - a grown man. Many men have children and mortgages at his age.

lifeisgoodrightnow · 01/06/2026 18:25

One post wonder wind up ?