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AIBU in worrying that my son’s trip with his “friend” isn’t so innocent

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JosieMay1970 · 01/06/2026 17:19

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

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bovrilormarmite · 01/06/2026 19:15

Come on people. This is a wind up. OP has not reposted. Just sitting back laughing

BellaVita · 01/06/2026 19:14

Bloody hell, I thought you were going to say he was about 12 when I read the title.

It’s absolutely none of your business re the sleeping arrangements.

Eviebeans · 01/06/2026 19:12

I won’t say he’s 26 - why are you worried about this?

AD1509 · 01/06/2026 19:12

He’s 26- he can have a whole assortment of friends - male/ female/ anything in between over for a utterly sordid shag fest and it could not be any less of your buisness

Frugalgal · 01/06/2026 19:10

JosieMay1970 · 01/06/2026 17:19

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

He's 26!!!!!!!

TimezoneEarth · 01/06/2026 19:09

Oh ffs what??
He's TWENTY SIX
26.
26.
26!!

stichguru · 01/06/2026 19:08

He's 26... your concerns would be valid if they were 16... they aren't.

jellyfish798 · 01/06/2026 19:08

😆😆 he's 26!

MeAndMyGhost · 01/06/2026 19:01

Gosh, I was married at 26!

If this is real or there's a massive drip feed coming, leave them be. Nothing to do with you.

SnappyQuoter · 01/06/2026 19:01

borogovia · 01/06/2026 18:58

Are we missing that this is a person who never goes out, and has announced out of the blue that they are spending a weekend with someone you know nothing about and he may know nothing about. Sure, when I was 26 I was living independently, had travelled all over the place, met assorted people, but it seems that, for whatever reason, this young man has not. So I do understand OP being worried.

Maybe he doesn’t go out because he has a controlling mentally unwell mother.

ChocolateCinderToffee · 01/06/2026 19:00

borogovia · 01/06/2026 18:58

Are we missing that this is a person who never goes out, and has announced out of the blue that they are spending a weekend with someone you know nothing about and he may know nothing about. Sure, when I was 26 I was living independently, had travelled all over the place, met assorted people, but it seems that, for whatever reason, this young man has not. So I do understand OP being worried.

What her son does and what she THINKS he does may not necessarily be the same thing.

PleaseVipersHelpMe · 01/06/2026 18:59

Can I ask what it is that you are worried about op? Is there some reason you ds doesn't go out much that is making you more concerned than might be usual in this situation?

KnitWitsAnonymous · 01/06/2026 18:59

Serious question @JosieMay1970 . . .

At what age do you think it would be acceptable for your DS to go to London and stay in a hotel with a friend?

borogovia · 01/06/2026 18:58

Are we missing that this is a person who never goes out, and has announced out of the blue that they are spending a weekend with someone you know nothing about and he may know nothing about. Sure, when I was 26 I was living independently, had travelled all over the place, met assorted people, but it seems that, for whatever reason, this young man has not. So I do understand OP being worried.

ithappenstootherfamilies · 01/06/2026 18:58

Overthehillmum63 · 01/06/2026 18:31

I totally understand. Most of the snippy replies here are from mothers of little kids and teenagers who have zero understanding and don’t realise they’ll soon have adult kids. Our worries as a mother are never ending. You worry as much when they’re 26 as when they’re six. Show an interest but don’t pressure and try not to worry. Ignore the catty remarks.

You sound like another one who needs to cut the bloody apron strings! Do I worry about my 27 year old, no because she is a capable adult!

My mum never worried about me as I too am a capable adult!

I hope both my kids have happy fulfilling sex lives - me and their dad have!

hypnovic · 01/06/2026 18:57

He is 26 for god sake. He can do whatever he wants with whoever he wants back off this is unhealthy

MMUmum · 01/06/2026 18:53

JosieMay1970 · 01/06/2026 17:19

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

He's 26, none of your business really what he gets up to.

Ihatelittlefriendsusan · 01/06/2026 18:53

If this is genuine and not a bridge lurker...we are witnessing the birth of the MIL from hell.

He is 26 @JosieMay1970

He is a fully fledged adult. WTF are you on for this to be an issue????

Loulou4022 · 01/06/2026 18:52

Seriously?? He’s 26 if he wants to gang bang with the whole hotel, it’s non of your beeswax!!

DearDenimEagle · 01/06/2026 18:51

Has to be a wind up

Tahlbias · 01/06/2026 18:50

Is this a joke?

darksideofthetoon · 01/06/2026 18:49

Did you mean to write 16?

If you meant 26 then you need to back off. At 26 I had traveled the world with my gf and already lived with her for 4 years. We got up to all kinds of things and wouldn’t have taken kindly to our parents butting in.

sunhat100 · 01/06/2026 18:49

Pop along with him to show him what to do if you're worried?

NoTouch · 01/06/2026 18:48

What exactly are you “concerned” about?

Can you think of any reason why he might not have mentioned any relationship details to you before? It’s pretty obvious from your post why.

Travsmam · 01/06/2026 18:48

OMG stop being a dick and delete this post!!!