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AIBU in worrying that my son’s trip with his “friend” isn’t so innocent

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JosieMay1970 · 01/06/2026 17:19

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

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fabstraction · 01/06/2026 23:51

Seems weird to be that worried about it. I'm sympathetic if you're concerned he could end up getting her pregnant when you don't know her or believe even he knows her that well, but at 26 he has to make his own decisions.

What specifically are you worried might happen?

Cyclebabble · 01/06/2026 23:46

They might be planning a platonic weekend in galleries, they might be planning a shagging marathon. Either would be fine. Not sure why you are interested. Feels unhealthy on your part.

PenelopePinkerton · 01/06/2026 23:42

@JosieMay1970 where have you gone?

CoudyWithAChanceOfCustard · 01/06/2026 23:34

Ffs!! 🤦‍♀️

Applewisp · 01/06/2026 23:30

Are you the reason he never leaves the house at 26? Cause it sounds like you are.

NorthernSarcasticandDownrightFantastic · 01/06/2026 23:27

JosieMay1970 · 01/06/2026 17:19

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

At 26 him having the entire cast of cats over for a kitty kink fest in his hotel room would be none of your business...

Schoolchoicesucks · 01/06/2026 23:15

What are you worried or concerned about if they are more than friends?

IAmBeaIDrinkTea · 01/06/2026 22:56

Squirrelsnut · 01/06/2026 17:20

He's 26.

First post says it all!
He's 26 for crying out loud 😁 I'm confused - what exactly are you worried about?

Nutmuncher · 01/06/2026 22:55

Golly OP, you sound unbearable. Your poor DS

Quashsquash · 01/06/2026 22:53

Pile up here. Hope OP understands what 99% means.

Wordsmithery · 01/06/2026 22:52

Is this a wind up?

Witchonenowbob · 01/06/2026 22:44

Good grief!

ZorbaTheHoarder · 01/06/2026 22:42

Sadly OP hasn't been able to post again, as she's had to pop down to London - just to keep an eye on things...

AnnaQuayRules · 01/06/2026 22:39

Why are you speculating about your 26 year olds sex life? I've got 2 sons in their 20s. I try very hard not to think about their sex lives.

blueshoes · 01/06/2026 22:37

Sarah Ferguson emailed Jeffrey Epstein saying she was "just waiting for Eugenie to come back from a shagging weekend!!".

OP, it is a thing. You are right to be worried.

Okiedokie123 · 01/06/2026 22:34

@YankSplaining Yes obviously.
But if he has serious MH issues then it may not be a good idea for him to be travelling alone to London/a city he is unfamiliar with etc. Not all people are the same.........

YankSplaining · 01/06/2026 22:29

Wdutua · 01/06/2026 17:23

Unless he has mh issues, or seriously mentally impaired, it is none of your business. He can do, go, meet up, with anyone he wants to. Keep your nose out of his affairs.

Why “unless he has mental health issues”? Lots of people have mental health issues and are still perfectly competent to consent to sex.

JustSawJohnny · 01/06/2026 22:28

If the 2 in 26 was actually a 1 then I'd have some sympathy but TWENTY SIX?!!

You are 'worried' a fully grown man who'll be thirty real soon might be having sex?!!

What the actual fuck OP?!!!

Okiedokie123 · 01/06/2026 22:26

Enigma54 · 01/06/2026 22:18

How do you find other threads from a poster? I can only see this thread from OP?

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Using the Advanced search feature (click search and then select advanced search) then type details in whichever box suits your fancy!

HelpMeGetThrough · 01/06/2026 22:19

Enigma54 · 01/06/2026 22:14

Timothy Lumsden??🤣

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That would be him. 😀

Enigma54 · 01/06/2026 22:18

Okiedokie123 · 01/06/2026 20:55

I’ve looked at the ops other threads. This isnt a wind up, she’s a very anxious overthinker.
@JosieMay1970 he’s 26. Let him have his fun.
And I suggest you get some counselling re your anxiety. Spend some time talking to them about priorities and what does/does not need to be worried about.

How do you find other threads from a poster? I can only see this thread from OP?

NotAWurstToIt · 01/06/2026 22:17

HelpMeGetThrough · 01/06/2026 22:03

Is his name Timothy?

(if you’re old enough, you’ll know)

Language, Timothy

Enigma54 · 01/06/2026 22:14

HelpMeGetThrough · 01/06/2026 22:03

Is his name Timothy?

(if you’re old enough, you’ll know)

Timothy Lumsden??🤣

IsawwhatIsaw · 01/06/2026 22:13

I’m reading this hoping the trip isn’t “innocent” .
Hope they have a good time .

FrostyMorn · 01/06/2026 22:10

Got to be a joke