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AIBU in worrying that my son’s trip with his “friend” isn’t so innocent

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JosieMay1970 · 01/06/2026 17:19

My son (26) who never goes out, has told me he is going on a trip to London over the weekend to watch a show with his friend, he says they’ve booked separate rooms but I’m worried. He’s never talked about a girl before and claims they’re just friends.

My main concern is they’re going to be in a hotel together, albeit in separate rooms as he claims… does this trip sound like it’s just so he can get together with her intermittently?

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

OP posts:
RaininSummer · 01/06/2026 17:29

If he was 16 I would agree but he's 26 for goodness sake.

JHound · 01/06/2026 17:29

This is a 26 year old man.

Instructions · 01/06/2026 17:28

This man is 26 years old

Unclench

PinkyFlamingo · 01/06/2026 17:28

AIBU in thinking this is more than just a friend and more than an innocent hotel stay?

And so what if she is? He's 26. 🙄

TheBloomingDahlia · 01/06/2026 17:28

Why are you worried about him at 26? If he is not either vulnerable or a predator then he can do what he likes

Sarah2891 · 01/06/2026 17:27

My friend is 44 and her mother is still like the OP....
Please let him just be.

LemonyCurd · 01/06/2026 17:27

checks is this the summer holidays and the kids are out of school and bored?

or have you made a typo and he’s really 15?

Cause…what?!

PurpleLovecats · 01/06/2026 17:27

surely you should be delighted he is doing a normal adult sociable outing?

LavenderSweetPea · 01/06/2026 17:26

I really hope that was a typo and he's actually 16. If he's actually 26 then fingers crossed they are getting it on and he actually has a life.

Heyheyitsanotherday · 01/06/2026 17:25

He’s 26 🤦‍♀️

LaurieFairyCake · 01/06/2026 17:25

Yer what 🧐

JaneFondue · 01/06/2026 17:25

Is there a drip feed about him having SN?

TheBlueKoala · 01/06/2026 17:24

@JosieMay1970 Can you tell your son that you will be joining them? That way you can make sure there will be no intermittent shagging going on.

shellyleppard · 01/06/2026 17:24

@JosieMay1970 its time to let go of your son. He's 26 , a grown man. Have you had a chat with him about consent gor both parties and contraception??
If he's lived a sheltered life as you have described he might not be aware of these things?
Let the poor lad have some fun!!!

hallomynameisinigomontoya · 01/06/2026 17:24

phone the hotel and demand to book the room between theirs so you can chaperone with a cup pressed against the wall. Who knows what grown adults might get up to otherwise.

2026newname · 01/06/2026 17:24

Wtf have I just read!!!!

saveforthat · 01/06/2026 17:24

Intermittently 😂

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 01/06/2026 17:24

Whether it’s a platonic friend, a potential FWB situation or a fledgling relationship, be happy he’s getting out and doing something, spending time with someone and potentially having a lovely time. Presuming no SEN, he will be fine, he’s old enough to be aware of contraception and consent issues and even with no prior experience, has presumably been chatting online with this new friend. Leave him be and let him grow up! I was married with a kid on the way at his age ffs.

SausageRoll2020 · 01/06/2026 17:23

Maybe there's a good reason he's not mentioned anyone to you before....

Leave your grown adult son alone to live his life, he's going to London for the weekend, a perfectly normal thing to do.

Wdutua · 01/06/2026 17:23

Unless he has mh issues, or seriously mentally impaired, it is none of your business. He can do, go, meet up, with anyone he wants to. Keep your nose out of his affairs.

Miranda65 · 01/06/2026 17:23

He's 26. It doesn't matter who he goes away with, or what room arrangements they have. Let's face it, if he lived away from home, OP, you wouldn't even know he was going.
This mature adult man is entitled to have a private life, FFS!

dailyconniptions · 01/06/2026 17:22

It really is his own private business OP. I hope he has a great trip. Please direct your energy elsewhere.

HoobleDooble · 01/06/2026 17:22

Is there any reason why you’d be concerned at his age?

IdentifyingAsAWoollyMammoth · 01/06/2026 17:22

Christ alive. If you're worrying about this I dread to think how you treat him in reality. He's 26, not 15!

Vivi0 · 01/06/2026 17:22

Even if they were sharing a room, what exactly is it that you are worried about?