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Neighbours fallen out with us

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Ilovewatchingthedrama · 01/06/2026 15:32

Could I have a bit of perspective on this please?

Our neighbours of many many years installed a high pitched bird scared in their back garden. It drives us crazy and it doesn’t actually stop the pigeons going into their garden. We have asked them a couple of themes if they could turn it off or at least down. When they refused we asked if they could at least leave it off until later in the morning as DD was sleeping in the back bedroom and it was waking her up. That was also met with a refusal. So the weather got nicer again and it meant we couldn’t sit in the back garden or have the patio doors open. We tried one last time but again they refused to turn it off stating what he did in his property was up to him - if only the sound stopped at the boundary that would be fair enough. we made a noise complaint to the council. They got a letter and we got a diary sheet to fill in. One of our other neighbours spoke to them (they are also sick of the noise but not willing to do anything about it) and he told them nothing was going to change. Someone else must have made a complaint as the council guy came out to him and told him to remove it. Neighbour is now chatting shit about us and the easy going relationship we had has gone forever. I know how different noises can be perceived differently by different people but we couldn’t stand that high pitched whining.

was I unreasonable to take whatever steps necessary to allow me to use my garden ?

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mondaytosunday · 01/06/2026 17:10

My neighbours but one have a rodent thing. It goes of for about five seconds about three times a minute. I couldn’t hear it but it drive my son mad. Then it malfunctioned and everyone could hear it - and the occupants had died a year ago so house is empty! Fortunately someone contacted the daughter and she came and turned it off. They use these sorts of things in areas where youths gather as a deterrent as they are generally more sensitive to the noise.

museumum · 01/06/2026 17:10

Ilovewatchingthedrama · 01/06/2026 16:17

This one is a high pitched whiny sound and can be bought on places like Amazon. They don’t actually work and I’ve got photos of the birds sitting a foot away from it.

You were right to complain, younger people are far more affected by high pitch noise than older. If you have a young child they will have heard it much more than you and than them. If they're older they probably can't hear it as badly.

Just be reassured you did the right thing and ignore them.

TiredCatLady · 01/06/2026 17:09

I feel your pain OP.

My neighbour opposite has put one in the front garden - the slightest thing sets it off as it’s one of those cheap ones from Amazon. It’s pointed directly at our house, our bedroom is front of the house and I can hear it. Last week with the hot weather and windows open it was driving me fully insane. Today it seems they’ve messed with the pitch and my skin was crawling.

Its also torturing any dogs being walked past it, including both my next door neighbours every time they leave the house.

YANBU at all and your neighbour is a cockend.

Cromoton · 01/06/2026 17:06

Gosh what an unintelligent neighbour. YANBU at all! The previous peaceful relationship you had was based on him being unchallenged. Those noise polluting devices should be illegal.

HopeIsAScaryThing · 01/06/2026 17:06

Your neighbour is a dick to be that selfish and inconsiderate of the rest of the neighbourhood. It is physically PAINFUL for so many people who can hear high pitched sounds, especially younger people.

I'd get some cameras up tbh ... he sounds unreasonable and potentially unhinged if he'll view this as a 'loss' and feel the need to even the score. Whatever that means in his head. Ugh

Sunnydaysarehereagain2026 · 01/06/2026 17:03

Have you got a ring doorbell? neighbour opposite reported us having a camera on our cars.. Police (hobby Bobby) came out and it's on our cars and stop at the road. Perfectly legal. To keep an eye after other side batshit ndn came a calling pissed having a go at me.

Ilovewatchingthedrama · 01/06/2026 17:03

Balloonhearts · 01/06/2026 17:00

Go out under cover of darkness and take the batteries out.

We did think about that at one point or shooting it with an air rifle lol. His garden has 360 deg cctv and about 6 flood lights and we have tiny little gardens.

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Happyjoe · 01/06/2026 17:02

I would say they are faulty, not a noise normally hear. FIL had some that used to scream but they were old - bought him new ones and they were fine.

Your neighbour, as weird as it can be falling out, left you no choice. You asked and asked. Sometimes people like that you cannot please in any shape or form so don't worry about them anymore.

Tablesandchairs23 · 01/06/2026 17:02

Ilovewatchingthedrama · 01/06/2026 16:59

Yes, it went the day they came out thankfully but I’m sitting here waiting for what he is going to do next because he is not the type of bloke who likes to lose face. He was very cocky with the neighbour on the other side of him when he announced nothing was going to change. We are in a semi but our gardens are separated by a 6 foot fence , the other neighbours on the other side of him didn’t want to get involved because they share a passageway to the back gardens with him and they can see each other

He sounds like a petty bastard! Just seen if he does anything next and keep a record of it.

Balloonhearts · 01/06/2026 17:00

Go out under cover of darkness and take the batteries out.

Beamur · 01/06/2026 16:59

I had a noisy neighbour a few years ago - ran a business in their (tiny) garden during lockdown. Power tools running all day.
I complained to the Council. To give them credit they did stop the racket and moved the business out to somewhere else.
Atmosphere was a bit frosty after that...

Ilovewatchingthedrama · 01/06/2026 16:59

Tablesandchairs23 · 01/06/2026 16:52

You absolutely did the right thing. Has he taken it down like the council told him too.

Yes, it went the day they came out thankfully but I’m sitting here waiting for what he is going to do next because he is not the type of bloke who likes to lose face. He was very cocky with the neighbour on the other side of him when he announced nothing was going to change. We are in a semi but our gardens are separated by a 6 foot fence , the other neighbours on the other side of him didn’t want to get involved because they share a passageway to the back gardens with him and they can see each other

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WinterBlues26 · 01/06/2026 16:54

DierdreDaphne · 01/06/2026 16:50

"accidentally" you say 👀

That's what happens when you become incapacitated and disorientated with pain. Apparently. Wish I could have treated him to lashings of ginger beer. Those fox/cat scarers should be banned.

godmum56 · 01/06/2026 16:53

DierdreDaphne · 01/06/2026 16:51

I think @User711985 meant there's nothing OP can do about the soured relationship, seeing as the neighbours decided to sour it with their antisocial pigheadedness.

yeah ok I agree, the neighbour ship has sailed.

Tablesandchairs23 · 01/06/2026 16:52

You absolutely did the right thing. Has he taken it down like the council told him too.

Starlight7080 · 01/06/2026 16:51

A neighbour about 7 doors up from me has one. I avoid walking past his house. It makes me feel physically sick. The noise is awful . They should be banned

DierdreDaphne · 01/06/2026 16:51

godmum56 · 01/06/2026 16:47

actually if it is a noise nuisance, there is something that can be done.

I think @User711985 meant there's nothing OP can do about the soured relationship, seeing as the neighbours decided to sour it with their antisocial pigheadedness.

godmum56 · 01/06/2026 16:50

DierdreDaphne · 01/06/2026 16:50

"accidentally" you say 👀

of course

DierdreDaphne · 01/06/2026 16:50

WinterBlues26 · 01/06/2026 16:49

One of my neighbours opposite couldn't understand how her high pitched fox scarer could possibly be affecting me as she had pointed it at her house not mine. She didn't understand that sound bounces off solid objects 🙄 The pitch actually turned me murderous but the foxes still went down her drive. Luckily her paperboy kept accidentally standing on it, got through three before she gave up.

"accidentally" you say 👀

DierdreDaphne · 01/06/2026 16:49

Obviously you were NBU and you had asked them yourselves several times. So doubly NBU.

I can't imagine anyone he chats shit to sympathises with his right to be an inconsiderate arse, so I wouldn't worry.

WinterBlues26 · 01/06/2026 16:49

One of my neighbours opposite couldn't understand how her high pitched fox scarer could possibly be affecting me as she had pointed it at her house not mine. She didn't understand that sound bounces off solid objects 🙄 The pitch actually turned me murderous but the foxes still went down her drive. Luckily her paperboy kept accidentally standing on it, got through three before she gave up.

godmum56 · 01/06/2026 16:47

User711985 · 01/06/2026 15:52

I think you just have to accept that this has happened. It’s not great but there is absolutely nothing you can do about it.

Whatever you do or think or say to them, they are still going to think that they are in the right. You are not ever going to be able to ’win’ or make them see reason because they don’t think in the same way as you do.

actually if it is a noise nuisance, there is something that can be done.

AbsolutelyAvocadorable · 01/06/2026 16:42

A neighbour 2 doors down has something similar in their front garden to stop cats using their wood chips as a loo - fair enough. I can’t hear it but, whenever my kids pass it, they can and they hate it! Luckily it is far enough away that it doesn’t affect them on our property, if it did, I’d be requesting them to move it. You are totally NBU! Sorry they’re not listening to reason.

NewspaperTaxis · 01/06/2026 16:41

TomatoSandwiches · 01/06/2026 16:07

Perhaps you should invest in a few cameras to deter any retaliation op.

Agree - I did 'agree' but then only the poster sees it so I thought I would quote this!

JamJar187 · 01/06/2026 16:20

Sunnydaysarehereagain2026 · 01/06/2026 15:57

You can't reason with cunts.
Our ndn's were shocked when dh told them not to bother trying to make conversation with us.
A year of fucking building work 7 days a week put paid to any sort of relationship...

First line says it all. With bells, whistles and wind chimes on!