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AIBU to think a younger partner could genuinely find Justin Fletcher attractive?

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LittleRobins · 01/06/2026 13:42

Justin Fletcher (AKA Mr Tumble) has been in the news recently as the media have discovered he is with his co-star who is 21 years younger than him. I say good for them both and I hope they are happy.

There are so many comments however about her only being with him because of his money. I realise for certain people this would be an attractive prospect but I don’t understand why it’s so hard to believe a younger woman would find him attractive? I’m a similar age to her and if I was single I would date him, regardless of his money. I think he seems like a genuinely lovely, talented, hard-working man who is great with children and has done a lot for kids with special needs. That would be attractive to a lot of people. If I was with him I’d be happy to live in a small house and for him to leave his money to a children’s charity if he so wished.

So AIBU and naive to think there are others out there with a similar mindset to myself? I recognise there are gold-diggers out there but in this case I think Justin has a lot going for him even without his bank balance?

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Thiswasanescapeplan · 01/06/2026 18:12

HoneyBunny999 · 01/06/2026 18:10

@Thiswasanescapeplan As soon as I wrote that I regretted it! Pal actually said to him, " stop being a dick,Justin" so it was definitely the rotund kiddies' TV presenter🤣

Haha sorry I just couldn't not. I understood you meant the tumble 😅

HoneyBunny999 · 01/06/2026 18:10

Thiswasanescapeplan · 01/06/2026 17:50

If it's this Mr T, I can see that 😂

@Thiswasanescapeplan As soon as I wrote that I regretted it! Pal actually said to him, " stop being a dick,Justin" so it was definitely the rotund kiddies' TV presenter🤣

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:56

Twisterlollies · 01/06/2026 17:44

The majority of women are heading to be in no relationship at all. Leave other people be and chill with the snotty comments.

On a literal discussion about their relationship, you think people should 'leave them be' because they disagree with you?

Blimey, weird sort of discussion forum that would be 🤦‍♀️

tiramisugelato · 01/06/2026 17:55

OonaStubbs · 01/06/2026 17:54

It should be a real rule. It should be the law.

Why? Because you say so? 😂

OonaStubbs · 01/06/2026 17:54

Sux2buthen · 01/06/2026 17:52

Not a real rule thank goodness. Mr tumble can sleep easy tonight phew

It should be a real rule. It should be the law.

2031MummyTBC · 01/06/2026 17:53

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:22

There is nothing most women young enough to be his daughter would find sexually appealing about this man, and even less so if he stacked shelves in a supermarket.

You don’t speak for me. He might have a six pack under that waistcoat and be super funny.

Lots of women are still attracted to older men anyway, and in this case they’ve most likely connected on an emotional level given they work together.

If people with serious disfigurements and disabilities find love, I don’t know why anyone would be shocked at this.

Uricon2 · 01/06/2026 17:52

There was an 18th century British politician, name escapes me, who from all portraits was really, spectacularly not favoured with good looks by any yardstick possible, he made Justin Fletcher look like the young Robert Redford by comparison. He owned it. He was extremely, notedly successful with women. Asked how he did it, he apparently said " Give me 20 minutes and I can make any woman laugh enough to find me handsome" or close words to that effect.

Sux2buthen · 01/06/2026 17:52

OonaStubbs · 01/06/2026 17:47

It falls just outside of the half your age plus 7 rule so it should not be allowed.

Not a real rule thank goodness. Mr tumble can sleep easy tonight phew

Thiswasanescapeplan · 01/06/2026 17:50

HoneyBunny999 · 01/06/2026 17:40

My friend knows Mr T. He knocked a drink over my friend, accidentally I think, but laughed hysterically and told my friend to f off when he asked for a replacement.

If it's this Mr T, I can see that 😂

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Livpool · 01/06/2026 17:50

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 01/06/2026 15:57

There is this yes!

He shares his birthday with my mum though (15th June) so if he’s anything like her he’s a lively character.

That is my birthday too!

AnAlpacaForChristmasPleaseSanta · 01/06/2026 17:50

Thiswasanescapeplan · 01/06/2026 14:05

Mrs Merton to Debbie McGee; "so tell me, what attracted you to the millionaire Paul Daniels?"*

*Ps: this will go over the head of anyone under approx 35yo. No offence is intended, cultural reference circa late 90s.

😂. I remember watching it live and gasping when she uttered that immortal line. But to be fair to Debbie McGee she has a cracking sense of humour and took it well.

KittyHigham · 01/06/2026 17:49

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:42

Of course it makes sense unless you're claiming the majority of young women date men 21 years their senior who earn minimum wage?

Because that is my argument.

The majority do not.

I'm saying that the "would she fancy him if he was on minimum wage" argument is nonsensical. It's irrelevant.

Thiswasanescapeplan · 01/06/2026 17:47

blankittyblank · 01/06/2026 17:41

That's his wife! She's a fair bit younger than him, met while she was modelling on Shooting Stars. They're still together now.

So technically, I was right 😊 he had a model girlfriend for a while ...Annnd then married her

My brain remembers that useless piece of celeb trivia from like 1999 why

OonaStubbs · 01/06/2026 17:47

It falls just outside of the half your age plus 7 rule so it should not be allowed.

Skipitee · 01/06/2026 17:46

I couldn't see Mr Tumble in a sexual light.
But I find Lewis Capaldi extremely attractive so its not a looks thing, its a Cbeebies thing.

tiramisugelato · 01/06/2026 17:46

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:42

Of course it makes sense unless you're claiming the majority of young women date men 21 years their senior who earn minimum wage?

Because that is my argument.

The majority do not.

Lots of people wouldn't date someone their own age who earned minimum wage, so I'm not sure that's particularly relevant.

Twisterlollies · 01/06/2026 17:44

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:43

And are they the majority of women?

The fact you can name them tells me that it's not.

The majority of women are heading to be in no relationship at all. Leave other people be and chill with the snotty comments.

Twisterlollies · 01/06/2026 17:44

flagpolesitta · 01/06/2026 17:30

I can kind of get my head round it more than Carrie and boris

Do you follow her on Insta? Beautiful home, beautiful kids, her life looks very happy. I wouldn’t choose an older man for my daughter but I would much sooner she was in this kind of set up than my friends who have similarly aged men with drug/fidelity/drinking issues or cocklodgers 🤷‍♀️

TallSturdyGirl · 01/06/2026 17:43

Ive met him. He is not particularly nice.

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:43

Twisterlollies · 01/06/2026 17:41

I mean Carrie Johnson, Rosie Huntingdon Whitely and Catherine Zeta Jones seem happy enough. And they wouldn’t have been short of offers from men their own age.

And are they the majority of women?

The fact you can name them tells me that it's not.

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:42

KittyHigham · 01/06/2026 17:39

Your argument makes no sense.
His talent, interests, career, motivations etc. Are aligned with hers.
She's not picked him off a sugar daddy website.

Of course it makes sense unless you're claiming the majority of young women date men 21 years their senior who earn minimum wage?

Because that is my argument.

The majority do not.

Twisterlollies · 01/06/2026 17:41

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:39

Are you stating that most young women date men 21 years older than them?

Really? You're saying I'm wrong and the actual majority of them do this? 🤦‍♀️😂

I mean Carrie Johnson, Rosie Huntingdon Whitely and Catherine Zeta Jones seem happy enough. And they wouldn’t have been short of offers from men their own age.

blankittyblank · 01/06/2026 17:41

Thiswasanescapeplan · 01/06/2026 16:00

I seem to remember Vic Reeves had a model girlfriend for a while

That's his wife! She's a fair bit younger than him, met while she was modelling on Shooting Stars. They're still together now.

HoneyBunny999 · 01/06/2026 17:40

My friend knows Mr T. He knocked a drink over my friend, accidentally I think, but laughed hysterically and told my friend to f off when he asked for a replacement.

KittyHigham · 01/06/2026 17:39

TinyTempest · 01/06/2026 17:26

Because I've been on this earth for 57 years and I can state with certainty that most women young enough to be the daughter of most tubby little men, don't tend to date them, especially when they're earning minimum wage.

Look around you, you also know it's true even if you don't want to admit it.

Your argument makes no sense.
His talent, interests, career, motivations etc. Are aligned with hers.
She's not picked him off a sugar daddy website.