AIBU to think a younger partner could genuinely find Justin Fletcher attractive?

I'm quite dismayed by all the comments that refer to Justin Fletcher as an unattractive tubby man and implying that a younger woman couldn't be involved with him except for his money. It's disappointing that women feel this way after the way that women have been 'judged' for their looks for countless years. My late husband was thirteen years older than me and we were together for thirty six years before his death in 2012. I was definitely not his 'type'! He was tall, dark and very handsome and I was short, tubby and very average looking. But we adored each other and the looks and our age difference weren't ever an issue. In fact, if ever I was feeling a bit low about myself he'd always say that I was "bloody gorgeous!"! (I really wasn't!!) We were soul mates - end of. And may I just add that I'm a recent convert to Justin and Mr Tumble. As I have tinnitus I have to put the TV on when I go to bed and find that children's TV programmes are a great way to send me to sleep in a nice, happy state. When I discovered 'Something Special' I was bowled over by Justin's wonderful way with the children that he meets. Then, to see him morph into Mr Tumble...well, I find it quite remarkable that they are the same person! And, yes, I'm a little bit in love with them both...warm, funny, multi talented, kind and reassuringly 'old fashioned'....who cares if he's a bit tubby?!

So what has that got to do with his day job?

Exactly. My largest gap is 15 years, I couldn't imagine adding another decade in age gap for ME but I dint have to date men in their 60s. Anyone able to consent to a sexual relationship is free to do so.

People spend a lot of time at work which is why workplace relationships / affairs / friendships form because of constantly being in vicinity of each other and then forming connections. It is entirely possible that they fell for each other organically because of the environment they were in, when in the outside world they probably wouldn’t be looking for that criteria in people (age range etc)

But you didn't leave it at that, did you? You tried to make a link with his role with young children which is completely unjustified and nasty.

Has being Mr Tumble made him rock star rich

@PoppyGalore1

Who is 'praising ' the relationship.

I think people are merely pointing out that there is nothing wrong with this relationship between two consenting adults.
I probably wouldn't want a relationship with someone so much older, but that's my personal preference, not because I think there is something inherently wrong in it.

The thing is, your discomfort is irrelevant. Two grown adults, who met as grown adults, choosing to have a consensual romantic relationship aren't doing anything wrong.

I’m not trying to be unkind - I just have reservations about age gaps large enough for one partner to be the other’s parent.

If my daughter, who’s in her early thirties, brought home a 55-year-old man, I’d be uncomfortable with it. And I suspect many of the people praising this relationship would feel the same way if it were their own child

Nurse!

I think you shouldn’t be dating someone with a big enough age gap that you could be their parent.

Also heard he is not a very nice person in person.

Totally agree @SleepingStandingUp

Sick of the implied sinister to children accusations. It’s actually just annoying at this point. Every single man is a pervert.

Bang on. Some of these comments say more about the people commenting than about Justin.

I don't doubt the money helps, but one thing I've noticed is that charismatic people are usually more attractive. And he must have a fair degree of it to have such a successful performing career.

As for t"nheext Jimmy Saville" crap, the guys faults are what? He's not attractive so the Mom's aren't switching on just to perv (see Tom Hardy storytime) and he's not "manly" hence all the gay assumptions. He clearly likes being with kids and cos he's a man, and probably gay, it must be sexual. Same reason people demand male nurses don't treat their kids and my sons nurse didn't ever talk about his bf. Men who enjoy the company of kids are seen as some how abhorrent unless they are manly enough for the Mom's to want to fuck

But do you really think he sits around the farm dressed as his many characters and asking her what's behind the trees dot? Given her age and job, I'm sure she's fully aware Justin is a guy who's good at his job, but she actually a guy with multiple weird personalities including his own grandad and aunt.

wl your daughter is a decade younger than his gf so I'm sure he's not interested in her

My DH has come across Justin professionally. He is an incredibly hard working person. He is also very private. My DH says that Justin is a thoroughly decent fella. I think it’s lovely that he’s found someone.

I’m fine with it, but I do get confused when he gets out his spotty bag.

I agree, OP! He is a cut above. A really good guy. Was really happy to see he's got a GF!

Batshit.

Mr Tumble is a kids' TV character.

Justin Fletcher is a normal bloke in his 50's.

They are not the same.

Not unless you think a 34-year-old woman is somehow equivalent to a child.

Also, as others have pointed out, Justin Fletcher is an actor and a businessman. He's not actually Mr Tumble any more than David Tennant was actually Doctor Who.

@PoppyGalore1

But she is not in a relationship with Mr Tumble.
She is in a relationship with Justin Fletcher who is a successful business man with a long established career in TV and for whom Mr Tumble is only one of dozens of characters and TV shows he has created.

not when the younger partner is over 30, and was when they met. You are just being nasty.