To have asked what his daughter normally eats in a foodless house??

Bloke I’ve been seeing invited me over for dinner Saturday night. Idea was he’d cook dinner, I stay the night and then drive to the coast Sunday morning.

So I got there and he said he’d decided we should get a takeaway instead of him cooking. I said I don’t like to eat takeaway but I’m happy to eat anything … beans on toast would do. He said he didn’t have anything in. No bread, nothing. I’d noticed there was a pizza in the fridge so I suggested we cook that, he said no as it’s his daughters (she lives with him, 12) and she’d given strict instructions not to touch it. I said “well surely we could just replace it tomorrow before she comes home?” He said no as she’d made it herself … it was an asda pizza!! Ok she may have chosen the toppings but surely we could have just had the same one made again??

Anyway I agreed to the takeaway but made it clear that I wouldn’t be making a habit of it as I’m health conscious. I ended up paying for half of it which normally I would expect but he’d invited me over for dinner!!?

Anyway next morning we got up, he made a coffee and then said we’d only be able to have the one as he was running low on coffee but he said he had plenty of tea bags in. I don’t drink tea.

Anyway time is ticking on and he asked if I was ready to head out to the coast … I said “are we not having any breakfast?” He replied “I don’t really have anything in”. So I said “no cereal?” He said no. I said “what do you normally do for breakfast?” So he said “I don’t normally bother or I have a packet of crisps”.

Now the next thing I said is my AIBU …

I said “what does your daughter eat for breakfast?”. He looked pissed off and started stuttering etc before saying she just has crisps or whatever. I didn’t say anything else but I told him I’d be stopping off at shop on the way to buy MYSELF something to eat. He then starts banging on about McDonald’s breakfast etc etc which I refused.

Hes messaged me this morning saying he’s a bit upset that I implied his daughter isn’t well taken care of. I simply asked what she normally had for breakfast since there was fuck all in the cupboards!!

Was I wrong to ask??

It sounds like his daughter was away for the night/weekend/few days?
So there was no particular reason to have food in for her? Maybe they normally go shopping on a Sunday/Monday?

Mine never ate breakfast at that age so I don't think not having breakfast things is that odd.

Bloke I’ve been seeing invited me over for dinner Saturday night. Idea was he’d cook dinner, I stay the night and then drive to the coast Sunday morning.

So I got there and he said he’d decided we should get a takeaway instead of him cooking. I said I don’t like to eat takeaway but I’m happy to eat anything … beans on toast would do. He said he didn’t have anything in. No bread, nothing. I’d noticed there was a pizza in the fridge so I suggested we cook that, he said no as it’s his daughters (she lives with him, 12) and she’d given strict instructions not to touch it. I said “well surely we could just replace it tomorrow before she comes home?” He said no as she’d made it herself … it was an asda pizza!! Ok she may have chosen the toppings but surely we could have just had the same one made again??

Anyway I agreed to the takeaway but made it clear that I wouldn’t be making a habit of it as I’m health conscious. I ended up paying for half of it which normally I would expect but he’d invited me over for dinner!!?

Anyway next morning we got up, he made a coffee and then said we’d only be able to have the one as he was running low on coffee but he said he had plenty of tea bags in. I don’t drink tea.

Anyway time is ticking on and he asked if I was ready to head out to the coast … I said “are we not having any breakfast?” He replied “I don’t really have anything in”. So I said “no cereal?” He said no. I said “what do you normally do for breakfast?” So he said “I don’t normally bother or I have a packet of crisps”.

Now the next thing I said is my AIBU …

I said “what does your daughter eat for breakfast?”. He looked pissed off and started stuttering etc before saying she just has crisps or whatever. I didn’t say anything else but I told him I’d be stopping off at shop on the way to buy MYSELF something to eat. He then starts banging on about McDonald’s breakfast etc etc which I refused.

Hes messaged me this morning saying he’s a bit upset that I implied his daughter isn’t well taken care of. I simply asked what she normally had for breakfast since there was fuck all in the cupboards!!

Was I wrong to ask??

If a woman was providing the same things as he is and no more would we be saying she has stepped up?

If a woman was providing the same things as he is and no more would we be saying she has stepped up?

To be fair @JenniferBooththe woman in this scenario has fucked off and abandoned her child, this man has stepped up. While he might seem incompetent around the house this isn't the usual case of the woman who does everything while supporting a lazy man.

Ok so I get your point and your concerns, but perhaps he just doesn’t know where to start with cooking and so takes the simplest option and gets take aways! Perhaps if you supported him showed him some simple meals to cook plus the fact it would save him a fortune he might start!

Ok so I get your point and your concerns, but perhaps he just doesn’t know where to start with cooking and so takes the simplest option and gets take aways! Perhaps if you supported him showed him some simple meals to cook plus the fact it would save him a fortune he might start!

Ok so I get your point and your concerns, but perhaps he just doesn’t know where to start with cooking and so takes the simplest option and gets take aways! Perhaps if you supported him showed him some simple meals to cook plus the fact it would save him a fortune he might start!

Ok so I get your point and your concerns, but perhaps he just doesn’t know where to start with cooking and so takes the simplest option and gets take aways! Perhaps if you supported him showed him some simple meals to cook plus the fact it would save him a fortune he might start!

Surely she didn't shag him. I wonder if the trip to the coast went ahead despite only crumbs and tea <that she doesn't drink> in the house before departure.

Ok so I get your point and your concerns, but perhaps he just doesn’t know where to start with cooking and so takes the simplest option and gets take aways! Perhaps if you supported him showed him some simple meals to cook plus the fact it would save him a fortune he might start!

Erm……..I mean…………….we need to get you starting your own thread, we can all give you ideas!

It isn't normal to have literally no food
In your cupboards, even if you are due a food shop.
Most people would have something in their cupboards eg a few tins such as baked beans, tinned tomatoes, bit if pasta, stuff like part-consumed boxes of cereal, end of a loaf of bread, one or two bits of fruit, maybe the end of a bag of carrots, potatoes etc. It's not at all normal to have totally bare cupboards before a food shop. That's poverty.