To have asked what his daughter normally eats in a foodless house??

Shes away for a few days so the kitchen cupboards go from a healthy, normal level of stock to a single pizza and teabags??

You do realise that lots of families buy a week's worth of shopping and there is nothing left by the end of the week? That not everyone has overflowing store cupboards of things?

Dear god, another one.

Why are you with him?
He sounds mucky and lazy (and a bad parent).

This.
No time for immature men who don't even bother to put basics in the kitchen, it is absolutely ridiculous & even worse that his kid has to deal with this, no wonder she gatekeeps her food! Who the hell eats crisps for breakfast. He's a child who can't even manage to stock tea & coffee.
Throw this one back in and hopefully you pulling him on this will make him see he needs to sort his life out!

I wouldn’t even have got to the staying over bit. He made zero effort and ignored you didn’t eat takeaway. He must be an amazing bloke given you still decided to stay over after all that!

Id have been out of there after the promise of cooking for you turned into a takeaway.
No effort whatsoever. And his actions didnt meet his words. So early on in a dating scenario and here is his A game 🤦‍♀️

No idea why women put up with this shite.

After that, the crisps for breakfast, no coffee for you, his lying about the pizza, his daughter not having nutritional food provided, how on earth did you stay there my attraction and sex drive would have absolutely vanished off the cliff of the coast I WOULDN'T have visited with this dude

Please do this.

I think a lot of people survive on takeaways and junk food. It's not great but sadly isn't that abnormal.

You were unreasonable to try and push to eat his daughter's pizza but you're not unreasonable to be turned off by this. Ultimately, if you are health conscious and he lives on takeaways then you are incompatible.

I don't think it was reasonable for you to ask to eat the Asda pizza, because that didn't belong to you. However, the rest of it is weird. It's very odd that he invited you for dinner but did not have any basic essentials at home. That's just not ok. And there is nothing wrong in questioning what his daughter eats- anyone would be curious given the state of his kitchen. He is clearly not a very caring parent.

You've dumped him now yes?

And made a safeguarding referral because you know a child is being neglected?

School can refer.

No, I don't think you were wrong to ask. I would have too and probably been less tactful.

He has shown you who he is and that is someone you don't like (who would?) so end it. I wouldn't bother giving an explanation, just a short text saying I'd realised we weren't compatible and that we wouldn't be seeing each other or be in contact again so no need to reply. He is incredibly lazy so hopefully he won't bother replying. If he does and becomes abusive reply once to tell him you are keeping his messages and you will consider any further contact to be harassment and will contact the police. And do that.

Bless that girl. Is he going to buy her sanitary products ? He sounds fucking awful and I’d judge anyone with a child who could not rustle up even a bloody pot noodle. You don’t even physically need to go to shops you can get it delivered.

Well she isn't well taken care of is she if there isn't food in the house.

Oh no, yet another manchild looking for a mother not a lover. How have we reached this bloody mess?

Surely that’s not a school issue but an issue for social services ?

Putting the child aside for a moment, I can’t see the issue in not having food in. I used to buy food as I needed it so never had bread/milk etc in the cupboard. My executive function was and is perfectly fine.

Bit weird to invite Op for dinner in that situation though.

Respectfully, it’s not the OP’s unimpressive evening that’s the main issue here!

Oh give over.

Shes away for a few days so the kitchen cupboards go from a healthy, normal level of stock to a single pizza and teabags??

Why would a teen being gone for a few days mean the cupboards are literally bare??

It would take weeks if not months of cooking and not visiting a shop for a standard family kitchen to get to that level, factoring in things like tins, cereal, pasta, lentils.

No fresh fruit or veg at all? No bread?

Stop making excuses for this pathetic man. There is no way that he can be looking after his childs nutritional needs if its normal for him to have absolutely nothing to eat and suggesting a takeaway every time OP wants food.

OP I would be dumping his arse. Telling him exactly why and telling social services too. They can decide if its appropriate.

Poor kid, no wonder she'd begged him not to touch her pizza, she'd probably had to buy it herself and had no idea where the next meal was coming from!

I'd message him back saying having no food available for your child doesn't imply she is being taken care of.

He told OP that his daughter has crisps “or something” for breakfast. Because he doesn’t buy food - just junk obviously.

Poor kid! Total neglect…. However…..

Run far away…. Not your monkey, not your circus.

Getting mine to eat breakfast is hard, but I persevere because skipping meals can lead to eating disorders. Without the food to kickstart the day sometimes the hunger response doesn't kick in and things can go very wrong.

So I would judge him not to have things in to at least try and tempt her with. It's not even like he is saying she doesn't eat breakfast. He is saying she has crisps for breakfast.

No judgement intended, I just think everyone should know that a child missing breakfast or lunch could increase their risk of an eating disorder.