Aibu to tell my 18 year old to stop ranting at me?

I would tell her I don’t need educating, I can and do read the news so know everything she’s telling me already.

If she feels strongly on a subject, suggest she thinks of ways she can help improve the situation rather than wasting time ranting about it.

Thankfully my two have never been ranters but my sister certainly was, all through my childhood, teens, 20s, 30s and beyond. I’ve said she doesn’t talk, she rants. She’s never really grown out of it (seems to be a personslity trait) but has mellowed with age. Hopefully your dd will grow out of it quicker.

Dd 20 has ASD. Her manner of speaking sometimes is very accusing and frankly bloody awful. I remind her I her dm . And can she please change her tone..

I think a short, sharp shock might be needed here.

The next time she starts, tell her that nobody is listening to a word she has to say because she is just ranting. All people can hear is noise and aggression and you are all switching off. Tell her that all she’s achieving is making people think she’s the cliche of a naive, angry teen who is discovering politics for the first time and that if she wants to convince anyone, she needs to get better at getting her point across, before people start avoiding her.

Oh God, two of them at it - you have my sympathies. DS26 is past this stage, doesn’t live here, and was never as intense as DS18 anyway.

If it’s makes you feel better, you’re not alone. DS18 is very ranty. I try to debate with him but de-escalate; DH eventually storms off saying he’s had enough …

Sit her down when you’re not discussing politics and say that you just want to talk to her about how she presents when she’s trying to get a point across that’s important to her. That it’s important to orate and discuss things in an interesting and collaborative way or people will not listen to her.

You could also pay for her to see a pubic speaking and communication tutor if you wanted to.

My two eldest will tag team over dinner on whatever omniclause argument they've just heard about on TikTok. It's beyond tedious.

YANBU. DD1 went through a phase like that in her early 20s, and it was worse when she had had a drink. It culminated in a huge argument about feminism, or similar, when we were on holiday, which ended in tears for both of us.

My strategy when the ranting started was to completely disengage, and tell her calmly and quietly that I did not want to discuss this particular subject right now. No defending/responding, just closing down the discussion. And during a calm moment I told her I'm all for meaningful debate, and I love the fact that she has strong opinions, but it has to be balanced and rational..... and when all parties are listening to the other side and want to engage.

When she is calm, maybe explain to her that people are less likely to listen to anybody angrily ranting on at them. It is about learning how to speak to people, sometimes no matter how we are feeling.