Aibu to tell my 18 year old to stop ranting at me?

I know plenty of right wing ranters.

Now I'm cautious about sharing my views with anyone

Good.

I would try to treat the rants like toddler tantrums and just stay with her in them.
What do you mean 'stay with her in them?

She's clearly getting into practice for a left wing I know it all and my voice is the only one that matters.

I think you can help her in a constructive way without ‘telling her off’, turning it into an argument or putting her down.

Firstly when my DD (now 18) used to be like this, I like you used to resist engaging as it only resulted in more ranting back from her. So I used to message her the same thing but on WhatsApp, normally when I was out at work for obvious reasons. ‘Hi DD I love your knowledge and passion about X, but if you truly want your voice to be heard then there are different ways of doing this. Everyone wants to feel like they have a voice and that their opinions count and are being listened to. When you express your views it feels one sided. That doesn’t make people listen. There are lots of other channels for your passion (insert examples here) that we can look into. I’m assuming it is all about your passion for politics but if it’s more about having a voice then we can look into you talking to someone about it. What do you think? This comes from a place of love’

Obviously not exactly that but you get what I mean.

I used to work on the basis that if 5% of what I said sunk in them it was worth me saying it. It’s a life lesson you are actually teaching here. They are still so young at 18 even though they think they think they could run the world. She had always calmed down by the time I saw her next.

Why would you be unreasonable to tell her? I’d tell her to shut up every time she tried it with me.

I was a ranter and my parents weren't capable of absorbing the energy - my dad left the room and my mum cried because it felt like I was personally attacking her. Now I'm cautious about sharing my views with anyone and struggle with anxiety and assertiveness especially at work. I would try to treat the rants like toddler tantrums and just stay with her in them. Hard on you but invaluable for her if you want her to function well as an adult with strong feelings.

I am a liberal lefty type. So I thought. Then my daughter went to university and came home for Christmas. And then I discovered that my views were apparently racist, transphobic, homophobic etc. Who knew?!

This, she hopefully will see how unhinged people are who just rant at you, and no those you rant at (and are basically talking down to) are NOT thinking “wow! How eloquent and intelligent you are!!” They’re thinking what an annoying twat you are!

She is behaving in a very common way for politically engaged young people. She has woken up to politics and its like a flame has been ignited. Suddenly she sees all the issues and thinks there are solutions and she wants to talk, persuade and convince, because it matters desperately. Her attitude when she's speaking is driven by her passion and urgency and she can't see this comes across as belligerent, arrogant and irritating.
In time, she will calm down. She will learn nuance and other interests will dampen down what now seems rather obsessive.
In the meantime if I were you I'd let her get it out. You say you agree with her, so just say "I agree with you" where there's a space.
It will pass.

Just because she needs to get it off her chest, doesn't mean you need to absorb it all. Teach her to ask first. "I need a good vent, is now a good time?". YANBU to say "not at this minute love". This is a fairly basic social skill she can learn.

My DH can always turn anything into a joke to lighten the mood and I can usually ask a stupid irritating question. This combination seemed to infuriate our son, enough to make him think we’re too thick to understand the severity of the topic. Eventually he stopped wasting his breath, no more ranting and lecturing at the dinner table.

My sister never grew out of this . And if she is drinking as she usually is , she'll rant and bore the arse off you . There is no need to rant to me about Trump she is preaching to the converted and I know more about it than what she reads in the Daily Mail. Whoop that was cathartic.

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Suggest she rants at chatgpt with the settings either put to agree with her or play devil's advocate according to what she wants out of it. It's a great way to get it all out but also to refine her thoughts and opinions in a way that doesn't drain anyone else. She can use the voice control to make it feel more realistic!

You don't need to accept that, or be her audience for her boring rants.
You'll be doing her a favour by not tolerating it, because no one else in life will.

I have an 18 year old and there is no way I would tolerate this.

Can you direct to doing not ranting. Join a political party. Attend council or parish council meetings. Join debate club at university. My DD’s friend got elected as a councillor for the local district council at 18.

Well that explains it😂

Poor you.

Is she off to uni soon? To read what?

You would be doing her a kindness by sitting her down when she isn't amped up and explaining that you love her, and you enjoy talking with her, but the way she monologues at you is really uncomfortable to listen to and she needs to be careful she doesn't do it to other people. You can show her what setting a boundary looks like as her mother. You aren't just a dumpster for her to vent into. Better she hears it from you at home than others in a worse way in the workplace or a social group. Hopefully she'll become a bit more reflective and insightful as a result.

There are local elections next year. If they're happening in your area I would encourage her to stand. If she canvasses, she'll get a lot of ranting at her. From opposing opinions whom she won't persuade. She will have to change tact quick sharp. Hedonism and the arrogance of youth can be insufferable. Reading this, I'm reflecting on my youth and cringing!

Just keep asking her to repeat herself when she stops talking. When she starts giving rude reply’s like are u deaf, you turn round and say I stopped listening, cos my ears started bleeding due to the aggression in your monologue

generally works

Just be open & honest with her. What she says may be right but the second she starts ranting & monologuing people will switch off & not listen.

she sound like she could do with some meditation exercises & maybe look at joining something like a debating group where she can learn to get her opinion across in the right way

I’d have to say that I’m finding being ranted at emotionally draining. It would lower the quality of my life to be ranted at and I’d not accept it.

I would question if a person that compulsively rants is quite well mentally.

could be time to step away from social media politics obsessing and create some balance with more nourishing, wider, interests.

This was me when I came back from my first semester at uni after going IR for less than three months… CRINGE!! It’s probably a phase and she will definitely look back and be embarrassed, right now I’m thinking about it and I have to laugh or I’ll cry with embarrassment.

My DN is having her little political awakening at the moment, she’s going to single handedly save Scotland btw so watch this space.

It’s part of normal development imo, but you don’t have to let her be disrespectful.

YANBU, I can't stand being ranted at, even if their not angry at me

My children are only 9 and 11 but they know that if their angry they need to still come and tell calmly, coming in raising voices or ranting at me and their quickly told to go away until they can speak to me properly ( i am autistic and I'm really sensitive to angry energy, it gives me adrenaline rush )