AIBU to think my SIL was rude about my clothes?

She's rude, but maybe check that the things you say you've had a long time are in good repair?

"I appreciate the thought but I am really not bothered about fashion . Please stop asking/telling /commenting on my clothing, I find it annoying and I don't want us to fall out...which we will if you keep talking about it.."

I think she has some huge assumptions about her values being universal that she could do with having dispelled, because they will affect not just what she's saying to you, but how she looks at you as well.

Maybe something more along the lines of -"Look, DSiL, we have very different approaches to some things. I get that you don't want to dress like me, I don't have a problem with that at all. I'm very much live and let live. But I don't think you realise, that I don't want to look like you and don't value what you do when it comes to how I look. So please stop commenting on what I wear as though it's somehow inadequate. It's pretty rude."

I don’t care if she was well meaning! The OP’s sister in law is seriously lacking in tact and your post isn’t much better. The OP isn’t trying to project any image; she’s trying to feel comfortable in hot weather.

If your sister in law can dish it out, OP, then don’t feel bad about telling her to keep her opinions & thoughts to herself in future.

I'm the same, wear what I like that's comfy, don't do latest style or false nails, she sounds jealous and not as confident as you , absolutely no one has the right to tell a fully grown adult what they should wear, there's too many judgy folk who think their opinion matters, newsflash it really doesn't

Eyes very slowly from her head to her toes, brow slightly furrowed and ask her 'What makes you think you're in a position to criticise anyone?'.

@UninterestedInFashion i am with you, i wear what i like and what suits by body shape and height. I could not care what is in fashion, these so called fashionable jeans are awful and wide leg trousers that only really suit tall slim women. So i stay away from those kind of fashions that in a few years time people will say what was i thinking. Remember when V beckham wore the huge Deirdre Barlow sunglasses and then every one was wearing them. People are so gullible. I woukd ignore her.

Or fashion sense. Sorry typo

I think, unless you have a very close relationship, it’s not okay to comment on somebody’s looks old-fashioned sense. In fact, I think it’s quite offensive

She.seems like the sort of run off at the mouth, overbearing influencer type you see on the Internet.

If she says anything else to you tell her to get a life. And not to bother you again.

It’s ok to want to spruce you up but not to go about it the way she did.

Cannot be arsed with nails. That already marks me put as a very different person too.

Thank you but I’m happy with who I am and how I dress.

Sounds like she’s trying to make you feel bad about yourself. I hope she’s bang on perfect.

Very rude. She’s playing power games. My mother used to do it to me all the time.

Some people can get away with leggings, some can’t. I prefer an oversized long top to cover my tummy, especially at “bloating times”, but yes I do still wear them - but other clothes do hide them!!!

Personslly, I would thank her for her advice, and say maybe one day we can go out shopping,

I don’t know where you are, but some of my leggings that I got from the market, do actually make my arse look good, just don’t wear anything underneath, teamed up with one of your husbands old shirts looks good, especially with a good “outdoor” bra on.

I see both perspectives, your fashion like mine, can be from the past, but I dabble with current trends to for fun, like to mix it up. No one can rip my leggings away from me lol. I think she’s trying to help tbh. She’s doing it to your face boy behind your back so there’s that I suppose. Maybe humour her and go shopping together and see if you can like it or not she’ll learn.

I do fashion when the idiot cycle of it comes round to what I wear :D

Agreed! I had no idea a hairstyle had a 5 year lifespan.

Say to her, “we have totally different taste in clothes”. Whilst giving a disapproving look at her clothes.

Seriously? Are you the same kind of person who would tell someone that their hair was grey and they should dye it?

Anyway the sil was laughing and calling her y2k not like she was trying to be nice.

Just tell her you prefer your style, wearing what suits you, rather than a try hard that wears what is 'in' whether it looks good or not

She’s a nasty piece of work. Do you think she’s jealous of you?

sounds like she’s jealous of you - that you naturally look nicer than her without really trying or worrying what’s ‘in’ . She’s trying to make herself feel better by acting all superior about fashion so at least she has something over you
How sad for her- just ignore

Honestly, some of the comments on here are bizarre. I have some clothes that I've had for years because I find them very comfortable.

Tbf your comment was pretty mean