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People from other countries - they’re just better than us, aren’t they?

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PebbleDashedDoor · 31/05/2026 14:12

I’m on holiday in the Balkans and like everytime I go overseas, it’s difficult not to conclude people from other countries are just better than us.

Immaculately kept, litter free, great service in bars and restaurants by experienced staff, polite well behaved kids eating out in restaurants, not a screen in sight. Everyone generally better looking, better dressed.

Or do I have rose tinted holiday goggles on?

OP posts:
Scarlettjune · 31/05/2026 20:34

Mithral · 31/05/2026 20:27

No the OP thinks there is no litter in other countries and that everyone is better looking. You specifically said everyone in restaurants glares at you.

Did you miss where she wrote "great service in bars and restaurants"

Scarlettjune · 31/05/2026 20:32

Mithral · 31/05/2026 20:27

No the OP thinks there is no litter in other countries and that everyone is better looking. You specifically said everyone in restaurants glares at you.

No the OP titled her thread: people from other countries - they are just better than us aren't they.

She then wrote as an example: better service in bars

Mithral · 31/05/2026 20:27

Scarlettjune · 31/05/2026 20:19

And to....the OP. Do you know what thread you are on.

No the OP thinks there is no litter in other countries and that everyone is better looking. You specifically said everyone in restaurants glares at you.

MrsHattie · 31/05/2026 20:22

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/05/2026 20:16

I always think the Brits abroad reputation is a bit unfair. We holidayed in Italy and there were lots of very rowdy Spaniards there. I'm plenty of other places too.

I think the Brits abroad rep in part comes from rowdy Brits mingling with rowdy Spaniards.

Come on, I’d love to agree but we do have an issue with that.

Scarlettjune · 31/05/2026 20:19

quantumbutterfly · 31/05/2026 19:18

Indeed, it seems that many UK people are rude...to you.

And to....the OP. Do you know what thread you are on.

Comeonelieen · 31/05/2026 20:17

Well they might be better than you…

TheNinkyNonkyIsATardis · 31/05/2026 20:16

I always think the Brits abroad reputation is a bit unfair. We holidayed in Italy and there were lots of very rowdy Spaniards there. I'm plenty of other places too.

I think the Brits abroad rep in part comes from rowdy Brits mingling with rowdy Spaniards.

StabiaGirl · 31/05/2026 20:08

quantumbutterfly · 31/05/2026 19:07

I remember 'tall poppy syndrome' being an Australianism, have we pinched it. Tsk.

I don't think anyone has the monopoly on it.
Scandinavians have Jante Law, which is pretty much the same.

fantam · 31/05/2026 20:06

MissAmbrosia · 31/05/2026 19:46

I live in Brussels. It's mostly quite civilised!

Glad to hear that. I suppose every big city has its ups and downs and areas to avoid. As the poster who warned us advised - the main areas are fine, but it can be edgy. I'd expect that in an unfamiliar city so I'll be sticking to the area around Grand Place, and I want to go see the EU Parliament (and weep 😊).

garlictwist · 31/05/2026 19:56

I grew up in a shit hole town in the north of France and there were plenty of badly dressed, overweight people who ate nothing but chips. Europe isn't all pavement cafes and Prada.

likelysuspect · 31/05/2026 19:53

Very aggressive beggars in Spain and Italy, less so in France

Mostly African but also Spanish and Italian. Giving it all the mother of God stuff etc

On public transport pretty intimidating too, we always travel by bus or metro

And there usually is some older bloke, always a bloke, who has had too much to drink who comes over to talk and is a pest

MrsHattie · 31/05/2026 19:53

fantam · 31/05/2026 19:38

Public drunkenness is not a regular thing in Spain and Italy and other European countries. I know the younger folk gather in bunches and go a bit mad outdoors there at night, but the brawling, rude, obnoxious behaviour I sometimes see here is not a regular thing. I suppose it does happen in certain cities etc. but it just doesn't seem to lead to mayhem except during fiestas, festivals and things like the bull running in Pamplona.

Oh, and someone said upthread "have you been to Brussels" What's the story there? I'm going to be there just for a day and night on my way to Ghent and Ypres soon. Should I worry? 😊

That was me. It’s by far the rudest and edgiest place I’ve ever been and I have been to Birmingham. I was in Brussels a lot with work, it’s just really hostile. It was actually quite comical simply how bad it is. One night we took a wrong turn and decided to go into a bar on a quiet street, it was like a film where everyone stops taking and stares at you. We left after 5 minutes with as much bravado as we could, genuinely thought we were in physical danger… I’m talking middle aged men by the way in what looked like a family type place, not gangs of youths.
I think there’s some racial tension there to be honest, stick to the main areas and you’ll be fine.

MissAmbrosia · 31/05/2026 19:48

I was in Seville last week though and a fair number or antisocial people and aggressive beggars. Anyone with a guitar can knock out half a tune and hassle a terrace for money. Some of them were truly awful.

Coffeeandbooks88 · 31/05/2026 19:47

Pedallleur · 31/05/2026 19:47

The Balkans. Didn't take much to get people killing each other 30(?) years ago. Looks good now though. Everywhere has the same issues but things like litter, that's down to people to dispose of it properly and services to empty bins etc.

It probably wouldn't take much to spark another war now to be fair.

Pedallleur · 31/05/2026 19:47

The Balkans. Didn't take much to get people killing each other 30(?) years ago. Looks good now though. Everywhere has the same issues but things like litter, that's down to people to dispose of it properly and services to empty bins etc.

MissAmbrosia · 31/05/2026 19:46

fantam · 31/05/2026 19:38

Public drunkenness is not a regular thing in Spain and Italy and other European countries. I know the younger folk gather in bunches and go a bit mad outdoors there at night, but the brawling, rude, obnoxious behaviour I sometimes see here is not a regular thing. I suppose it does happen in certain cities etc. but it just doesn't seem to lead to mayhem except during fiestas, festivals and things like the bull running in Pamplona.

Oh, and someone said upthread "have you been to Brussels" What's the story there? I'm going to be there just for a day and night on my way to Ghent and Ypres soon. Should I worry? 😊

I live in Brussels. It's mostly quite civilised!

whitefluffydog · 31/05/2026 19:40

Which parts of the Balkans? Curious....
but yes, I can say that women generally are crazy to look and dress top notch....not sure why....may be compensating for rather unhappy historical background and considered coming from the European backwaters but now hopefully these stereotypes being slowly broken down

fantam · 31/05/2026 19:38

Public drunkenness is not a regular thing in Spain and Italy and other European countries. I know the younger folk gather in bunches and go a bit mad outdoors there at night, but the brawling, rude, obnoxious behaviour I sometimes see here is not a regular thing. I suppose it does happen in certain cities etc. but it just doesn't seem to lead to mayhem except during fiestas, festivals and things like the bull running in Pamplona.

Oh, and someone said upthread "have you been to Brussels" What's the story there? I'm going to be there just for a day and night on my way to Ghent and Ypres soon. Should I worry? 😊

MissAmbrosia · 31/05/2026 19:35

I have lived abroad for 20 years and visited many countries in my life. I don't think UK standards of service are (in general) bad at all. People are friendlier and more speedy than in many places I have been. And for appearances it depends where you go. I love an Italian trouser - they seem to do them so very well, and if in Milan and Rome you are spoiled. Go to Calabria on the other hand and the passeggiata seems to involve double denim - you could be in Birmingham in the 90s.

Mithral · 31/05/2026 19:26

fiveturds · 31/05/2026 19:24

I agree op. We’ve gone to shit and we’re not going to be able to fix it if we can’t admit it.

Speak for yourself - my uk family and acquaintances have not gone to shit.

fiveturds · 31/05/2026 19:24

I agree op. We’ve gone to shit and we’re not going to be able to fix it if we can’t admit it.

quantumbutterfly · 31/05/2026 19:23

MrsHattie · 31/05/2026 19:10

I thought it was to do with a Roman Emperor

Could be, I remember Aussie celebs complaining about it in the 80s, that Aussies didn't like you to 'get above yourself'.

I thought it was an interesting point, it's hard to stand out because it makes you the easiest target. Of course the internet has blown that right up.

quantumbutterfly · 31/05/2026 19:18

Scarlettjune · 31/05/2026 18:56

If many people have the same opinion, its come from somewhere: reality.

Indeed, it seems that many UK people are rude...to you.

MrsHattie · 31/05/2026 19:10

quantumbutterfly · 31/05/2026 19:07

I remember 'tall poppy syndrome' being an Australianism, have we pinched it. Tsk.

I thought it was to do with a Roman Emperor

quantumbutterfly · 31/05/2026 19:07

MrsHattie · 31/05/2026 17:21

I’m not sure where it comes from, but other countries simply don’t have it. It’s unique to the U.K.

I remember 'tall poppy syndrome' being an Australianism, have we pinched it. Tsk.

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