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AIBU to think this was really thoughtless?

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Query2026 · 31/05/2026 13:37

I’m in the kitchen bending down to unload the dishwasher. Unbeknown to me DH has opened the cupboard above me to get himself a glass and has left the cupboard door open.

I stand up and crack my head on the cupboard door. Very painful and results in a lump.

When I discuss this later with DH he says it’s reasonable to have cupboards open in a kitchen. I have said I think he was thoughtless and selfish because he could see i was below there unloading the dishwasher and I shouldn’t have to go hovering around checking whats above me. He said he just doesn’t think it’s a big deal.

AIBU to think this is not only thoughtless but also says something about how he views me?

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BiddlyBipBipBeeBop · 31/05/2026 13:44

What a stupid sod

Query2026 · 31/05/2026 13:43

Marmite27 · 31/05/2026 13:39

Why did he leave the door open if he’d finished?

Saying that, DH has left the dishwasher open for someone to trip over.

The leaving kitchen cupboards open is a real thing. He doesn’t always do it and seems unbothered by it. For example if he’s unloading the dishwasher he’d think nothing of putting something away and leaving the cupboards open. I personally think it’s odd and couldn’t just walk out of a kitchen while loads of cupboard doors are open 🤷🏻‍♀️

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RosieSpring · 31/05/2026 13:40

Has happened to me because of the same reason. It is really thoughtless, and what is he talking about, it's not reasonable to have cupboards left open!

Edited for spelling

Hellometime · 31/05/2026 13:39

Yes it’s really thoughtless and lazy. Shut the cupboard after getting a glass why leave it open. It’s telling he didn’t feel awful and apologise.

Marmite27 · 31/05/2026 13:39

Why did he leave the door open if he’d finished?

Saying that, DH has left the dishwasher open for someone to trip over.

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