AIBU to think this was really thoughtless?

Weirdly my DP used to leave cupboards open, lids half closed meaning stuff would tip out of jars etc until the day I dropped a jar as the lid came off on my hand and the glass shattered. Nice trip to a&e for me for stitches all along my calf and it then later got infected and I had to spend 3 days in hospital. Fucking fuming isnt the word.

It just feels very "im too important and busy and manly to close things properly" doesnt it?

Prick. He doesnt do it anymore and felt awful and I still milk it now 15 years later when my giant scar hurts in the cold and I fume about it all over again 😂😡

Its thoughtless and lazy but I wouldn't read more into it, if it were just that. I hope he is atleast apologetic that you are hurt. I'm sorry you have a painful bump on your head - poor you!

Dh does this. Makes me so cross.

Utterly twatty behaviour. There’s no need at all to leave cupboards open, and how someone could open it without at least a “mind your head” to let you know it’s open is baffling. The lack of apology is disgusting. Decent men care that they’ve hurt their spouse, even if it’s an accident.

Either stop emptying the dishwasher as it is "unsafe" and you don't feel able to offer that help in the kitchen any more or buy a door wedge from Amazon and keep it hidden in a drawer. You can wedge the kitchen door shut while you are working in there and "sorry, no entrance while I am busy," until he gets the message that he is careless and rude!

it’s reasonable to have cupboards open in a kitchen.

huh?!?
does he identify as a Poltergeist or something?

You can teach a toddler to shut a door, he's just being a twat.

Thoughtless. Also shitty for blaming you.

Yanbu OP, I would be angry.

No one in my family turns off a light ever. Not DH, not the kids. I feel like I spend half my life turning off lights. No amount of going on about it makes any difference. The most annoying ones are in the storage cupboards. DH will open the door, turn on the light, get what he needs, close the door. I find myself checking them a couple of times a day because if DH has been in there, the light will be on.

Cupboard doors, microwave door, drawers, closet doors, kitchen cabinet doors - everything left ajar or wide open. Also jam jar lids resting on top of the jar. After repeatedly asking him why he does this, the best he can come up with is “what if someone needs to go in there after me, I’m helping”. No, he doesn’t make the bed or open curtains. Thinks it’s a waste of time. Has all his stuff scattered on his side of the bathroom, what’s the point in putting any of it away seeing as he’s just going to use it again. If ever we divorce it will be over this.

That said, he’d die of shame if he ever didn’t apologize because I smacked my head on a door he’d left open. And he’d say “hang on a sec, just getting a glass” before he opened the cupboard door if I were under it. Because he’s a decent human being.

I once heard a woman describe hitting her head on an open kitchen cupboard and sustaining a life changing concussion, it never left me and am very careful with cupboards now.

yanbu and hope you recover speedily.

Years ago I remember a poster on here whose husband did it she thought deliberately. She used to then openly say my husband did it to me if asked re bruises. I recall a debate about whether it was appropriate for her to say that.
But in your case I’d say your husband had caused your injury.

But there is malice in, if accidentally leaving a cupboard door open has caused your spouse to bang and hurt their head, not immediately saying “I’m so sorry, I didn’t mean to hurt you” instead of doubling down about why the door was open.

Ok but there is malice in ‘blaming the person who banged their head’ instead of apologising, no?!

if I or my dh open a cupboard and the other is close by we cover the edge so the other doesn’t hit themselves on it. We don’t leave cupboards open after getting something out. That’s dickish.

I leave cupboards open. I don’t mean to but there is no malice in it. It was an accident

Looking around my kitchen I can see three cupboards I’ve left open/ajar. It’s not ok and I shut them I remember. Leaving them open is an annoyance.

leaving one open over the head of your spouse who is bent over the dishwasher and might hit her head as she stands up is fucking nasty.

Urgh to randomly leaving kitchen cupboard doors open and urgh to justifying his mistake instead of hugging you and apologising. Double urgh, in fact!

he says it’s reasonable to have cupboards open in a kitchen.

No it isn't unless you're right there getting something out. Then you close it.

What a dumbass response to getting put on the spot for doing something stupid and you got hurt.

My husband constantly leaves cupboard doors open, the dishwasher open, drawers not quite pushed shut. I am quite short and hit my head on open cupboards. I mention it every single time . I honestly don’t know what goes on in his head sometimes, I’ve come to the conclusion that it’s not a lot. 40 years married, I’m sure I do things which annoy him but the cupboard doors thing is just weird. Started a few years ago, goodness knows why.

This. Doubling down is a real dick move.

No it's not reasonable to leave cupboards open except when you are actually accessing the cupboard. Why on earth did he walk off and leave it open once he had what he needed? It's no effort at all to push a cupboard door shut and takes half a second.

My kids used to be terrible for leaving cupboard doors open and it drove me insane. I've drummed it out of them now. They would leave the doors open and then run through the kitchen playfighting. A couple of times they nearly ripped a cupboard door off. So there is that aspect as well as risk of injury.

My husband never did it thank god though my dad did, see also leaving drawers hanging open. If my mum complained he'd just say if you want it shut, do it yourself. I would honestly rather be single than live with that sort of selfishness.

When you drive over his foot in your car you can say “oh it’s normal for cars to be on the driveway . Why was your go out in the way?”

He should have been really sorry that he'd caused you to be hurt, not tried to defend his stupid actions.

Cupboards, drawers, gates. My DH leaves them all open. I used to go about closing them. Then I had an epiphany, can't recall exactly why. I just stopped. Also, his stuff left in odd places. I used to put things away. Now I just don't. Feels great. Can recommend. Also, when you get the "have you seen my xyz" questions all you do is 🤷‍♂️
Sorry, no idea. Keep looking love.