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WIBU to go / not go on this work trip?

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Cantdecidewt · 31/05/2026 10:47

aibu for going / not going on this trip?

dh and I both work full time. 2 primary kids.

they spend some summer in holiday clubs. My job is more flexible than dh so when not in clubs they are with me.

I travel 2-4x a year, long haul mostly, for work.

work are offering a week luxury holiday (long haul - Caribbean / Mexico area) - buts in in the middle of summer holidays! This is just for staff not family.

I’ll have already done 2x long haul trips this year and 1x short haul (working - this is the first relax one they’ve offered!)

reasons to go:
perk of the job
luxury adults only all expenses paid trip
sort of once in a lifetime

reasons not to go:
summer hols
kids would need to go to club 9-5 mon-Fri that week to accommodate dh working (instead of a few half days/occasional full day we can manage)
if the company is all at this trip I can basically take the week off with the kids without annual leave
i already travel a lot for work and I think dh is finding it alot
long way to go for just under a week
difficult week logistically for dh as the holiday club is quite different to school logistics - further, need to make pack lunches etc

would you go? I need to decide and rsvp by tomorrow!!

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SwanRivers · 31/05/2026 10:54

It's odd that they'd plan the free holiday in the middle of the kid's school holidays, and want to fly everyone long haul for just one week.

Do you think this is because they want a low take up rate?

Ibwah · 31/05/2026 10:53

I think you need to ask your DH how he feels about it and use that as your barometer. You said “make lunches” - is your DH really that incapable ?

Cantdecidewt · 31/05/2026 10:53

@BlackBean2023 this is the other side of things isn’t it. The company is 25% remote team, which I’m one of, so we’re much less visible already

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Cantdecidewt · 31/05/2026 10:52

@OuEstLaPlage honestly no I don’t think I do! But feel like I’m missing an opportunity if I don’t?!

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BlackBean2023 · 31/05/2026 10:52

I wouldn’t be turning down a week in the Caribbean because my DH would have to make some sandwiches and leave the house a bit earlier!

My experience is that these work socials are where the meaningful, leading to promotion, networking happens so I would go and badge it as work rather than a holiday!

I work in the public sector so this is alien to me so I’m excited for you!

OuEstLaPlage · 31/05/2026 10:49

Don’t count on taking a quiet week if everyone else is on the trip - you’ll be given everything to finish.
do you actually want to go? Spending a week on holiday with co-workers sounds hellish.