WIBU to go / not go on this work trip?

Not sure I could pack my kids off to holiday club 9-5 for a week while I enjoyed a luxury holiday away with work. Just doesn’t sit right. To be honest I am too much the other way and rarely leave mine at all, I do need to get better at living my own life but the idea of holidays I don’t even really want to go on while they’re stuck in clubs is a no from me.

I'd absolutely go!!!!

ETA: And I'd encourage DH to as well. He travels a lot internationally for work. They also have 'fun' ones - wouldn't occur to me to suggest he missed them. (And yes, we are parents!)

ETA2: I also travel for work, but as yet, nowhere near as glamorous as the Caribbean...

I would say that you have been away a lot already this year, l wouldn't consider going away in August during the school holiday it's a bit selfish, perhaps a man would but l personally couldn't.

Also, cross-threading, fo you get a room to yourself, or would you be expected to share? That would make the decision a whole lot easier, if they expect people to share.

For all those raging about such a trip being organised in the school holidays- it won't be school holidays everywhere. I once had to check school holiday dates across Europe for a work thing, and there were only about 3 days at the end of July when everyone was off. US schools often go back in August.

I think some of it depends on what your husband does. My father was a farmer, so we never went away in summer - it was harvest, the busiest time. If it's a peak time if year for him, I don't think I'd go.

But also you don't really want to go, and you don't have to. I know the dilemma is about should - networking and promotion visibility. Is it something they do every year? If so, I might choose to go next year instead. If it's likely to be a one-off offer, then I probably would go this year.

Oh, if you don't WANT to, just don't go! Give yourself the treat of a nice easy week at home.

I have only skim read the thread, but to me it depends how much the household needs your job from a financial perspective.

It may just be a jolly but having worked for a US company, it will be badly received if you don’t go particularly as you’re already fully remote.

I would go but as a work trip not as a holiday. Going forward if there is too much travel in this job, then that should be reviewed.

Do you actually want to go or is it just FOMO? You've listed a lot of reasons not to go but putting the kids in holiday club is fine for a week as long as your DH is happy with it.

Go - why would you not ?

What do you think would be the benefit of going, would it help you work-wise?

Can’t they do 3 days club and your husband take a couple of days leave?

It sounds like you do the bulk of the summer childcare when you are not travelling?

I don't know, is this how women get left behind, missing out on company events where they could be building relationships, because of guilt?

I totally get the guilt.

But it sounds like you do your fair share overall.

I think you should say yes to the trip (for networking/visibility reasons) and hire a temp nanny/babysitter for that week; someone to help DH with logistics and take the kids on a couple of fun days out so they aren't doing a full long week festering in holiday club.

A "holiday" with work colleagues would be my idea of hell. So that's the main reason I wouldn't go.

The other reason I wouldn't go would be that a week is just far too short a time when you take jetlag into account. There'd be so little time when I felt human enough to start enjoying myself properly. Then it would be time to go home.

If my DH was suggested that I take a fifth of my annual leave entitlement to facilitate him going on a works junket during the school summer holidays I'd have told him - No Way!

I wouldn't go. Especially if you think you can basically get the week off and be at home with the kids during the summer holidays.

I think this is a really good opportunity to get to know everyone at work, especially as you're remote so might not be as visible. I think it is work rather than just a holiday, especially if your work is both well paid and flexible, as you describe.

Can’t DH take leave so the DC aren’t in a club?

Quite apart from DH and the kids, you don't sound like you'd especially enjoy it. It's a lot of effort to go to for a jolly you're not that arsed for. And I agree, it doesn't sound that attractive to me either. Hurricane season, jet lag for quite a short trip, enforced colleagues.

A week away with colleagues, hours away from my home sounds like hell. It doesn’t matter where it is. If it’s anything like my work we would be doing rubbish team building all the time. I’d rather stay with my family.

Why can't your husband book a few days off work that week?